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See I never felt like I deserved it, but I always just was like well she drunk its OK she doesn't know what she is doing. She will be herself tomorrow. But now thinking I just made myself just a lower person for letting her do this to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
Okay, FOR SURE you don't go and meet her! I don't care who it is abusing who! Same difference! IF you were to meet her, you are playing right into her hands and giving her all of the power she needs to do it again. She's also obviously got a drinking problem, because people that don't, do not go around hitting people when they have a few. Turn around and RUN... not walk... RUN, in the other direction! You need to do this for yourself. She is not worth the amount of the self worth she is stealing from you!Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
And yes DJ, you are setting yourself up. You are letting her rob you of something you need to survive!
Well your not low anymore- as your going NC- you can only go UP as you will not give in to her ways anymore.
Today I think I'm going to just pig out and be a bum, I never pig out and work out all the time so I think I deserve it today.
I don't blame you- bet you haven't eaten or relaxed in a long time!
Enjoy your FEAST!
Yes! Splurge on yourself for once! I agree with Zee. Let yourself take a deep breath, and relax. You deserve it!Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
What you deserve is freedom... have you ever seen the movie Bravehart?Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
This quote applies to most girlfriends:
"They may take our lives...but they may never take our FREEDOM!!"
Freedom from sadness, depression, anger... all that negative energy you have. Time to find YOUR freedom baby!!
Dear Kctiger- do note mel gibson aka braveheart man did eventually get chopped up... into pieces...
Yeah I love the movie Braveheart, one of my favorite movies. Really thanks a lot guys I feel so much better now and am actually happy I'm doing this. I haven't been happy for a long time knowing her, she always made me so upset. This is my time now and I know in the end I will be a better happy person.
This is so true you will, but in time?Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
Yeah for sure, I know I will still have ups and downs but I feel like I have this new strength to just move on. I don't know I guess I needed a little kick in the butt.. with words.Quote:
Originally Posted by SAB123
Always glad to help ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
Right on, and thank you. You all seem to know what exactly to say too so thanks.Quote:
Originally Posted by kctiger
You make me laugh! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by zeeniee
That's because most of us are either at the point you are at, or, like me, have been there recently and know how you feel. My words of "wisdom" come from experience, and experience only.
Well I will keep you all updated, hopefully you guys don't mind if it is sometimes often.
Well DJ28,
GO get that FREEDOM- GOOOO! But don't get chopped up in pieces- she isn't worth you getting chopped up!
Yes you will have up and downs, but don't let your guard down because it's funny how when your feeling are down how much you miss your ex.Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
Yes, and this is the best place to come to get that. I sure did especially from Tal. I just wish I would have listen to everyone here when I first found this site from the get go. The only thing on my mind was if she was coming back again and I probably would have taken her back if it wasn't for the people here at AMHD.Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
Yea mate, glad you're doing OK now. You might feel down in a few days or weeks, but sh*t, are you going to let your guard down for some tart? Screw that man, she just completely shat on you to go out drinking with some creep. Plus she might have even been screwing around with him without you knowing, but that doesn't matter anymore because that slag is history. You keep your cool and take it easy, no b*tch should ever keep you down.
There are real women out there, ladies, who are the very essence of what they call love, you're bound to meet one. You know what it's like to be treated like crap, and that made you stronger now because it turned you into an even more sensetive person, who knows how to love and has real feelings. That goes very far with a lady, so think of this past relationship as not just a disaster, but also a valuable lesson, because right now, every day that you don't contact your ex-girlfriend, it only makes you stronger.
Take care buddy,
-Xm8
Must spread some rep, but thanks for the kind words. Yeah weekends I think will be the hardest knowing she is out and about but I will keep myself extra busy during the weekends to keep my mind off her. I've been telling myself all day and questioning as to why I ever stayed friends with her. I mean then all this happens and it makes me wonder even more as to why because she didn't even try one single bit to keep this friendship going, not even a please or anything. Honestly I don't think she cares one bit, sop why would I even want to try to be friends with someone who doesn't care about me or my friendship. Freakin pitiful. Ohh well life goes on and I know I'm the better person in this.Quote:
Originally Posted by XM8
Yes, You are the better person and it will make you a stronger person in the end.
Good to hear you're in the "exit zone".
I'm glad you said that yourself, and now you finally get it. Keep that sentence in mind, especially when you are feeling down. You may think "my mind knows it's over, but my heart doesn't want to accept it" but trust me bro, if you stay strong you're heart will accept the facts and you will be fine.Quote:
why would I even want to try to be friends with someone who doesn't care about me or my friendship.
It's like you're a blu-ray player and you're ex-girl friend turned into a diskette - there's just no way she is going to be compatible with you, so just let her go and move on.
-Xm8
P.S.
You're damn right.Quote:
life goes on and I know I'm the better person in this.
Well I'm glad I came on just now because I was feeling a little down, but really I feel a lot better now, after talking on here. I just need to think of some things to do to keep my mind off her. I've tried reading but can't focus enough, I hate winter to bad this didn't happen during summer.
Well if coming on here makes you feel better, talk on my friend.
I don't know that much about you so I'm not so sure what to recommend. I remember when I was down because of my ex I used to play computer games, but hey I'm a kid lol
As for winter I agree.. winter does get me a bit depressed, spring and summer are awesome. Unfrortunately my ex girlfriend broke it off in April. Which was pretty good weather.. the screwed up thing is that she did it 1 day after my grandpa died...
-Xm8
Ouch that sucks man that must have been a mind f***, sorry to hear that. Well me personally. I like chasing storms, and working on my car. So yeah kind of sucks right now
DJ28, But just think of this when it does warm up you should be hopefully feeling your old self again.
That is very true.Quote:
Originally Posted by SAB123
Yea it sucked but whatever.. she was a b*tch, I should have ditched her sooner. Instead I kept on chasing after her until I got drunk, broke a window and she gave the cops my name and address.. that's a real stab in the back if you ask me.
But whatever, it didn't kill me, it made me stronger so I hope you'll feel the same way in a few months.
Sab is right, when it starts getting warmer again it will be great. Btw do you live in the states by chance?
-Xm8
Yeah about 35 miles west of chicago.
DJ28, I'm about 25 miles south of Chicago.Quote:
Originally Posted by DJ28
Haha that's awesome man small world seems to be a lot of Illinois here, maybe it's the water or something.Quote:
Originally Posted by SAB123
You might be onto something with the water... LOL
Hehe Americans.. cool. I'm an englis teen stuck in the middle of europe in austria... don't ask why, long story.
But whatever...
lolQuote:
Originally Posted by xm8
Man this sucks I'm feeling down right now, I'm trying to get my mind off her but I can't seem to focus on anything right now. It is just bringing me down in the dumps. And its making me want to call her. I just got back from working out not to long ago that helped a little but I don't know what to do right now. And I've tried calling the friends I do have but no answer so this sucks. Anyone have any advice for me?
Take a hot shower two aspirin, and put that album on in your avatar. You do know its Friday night don't you??
Yeah but the one friend that I do have is in Florida with his GF. I kind of lost contact with all my other friends when I was with her. So yeah it kind of sucks.
Hey man, I hope you haven't called her. Listen, screw that b*tch, go wank or something, you don't need her. Put on some good music, and just surf the net, relax!
That b*tch isn't worth the mental energy used to think of her, she's not worth it, so forget her man.
There are so many people in Illinios, you could lose yourself for a week. It will be interesting to see how you regroup, and rebuild a life that you enjoy.
Well I haven't called her back, actually I started to feel better later that night just reassured myself how much of a jerk she is, and how bad of a friend. I feel good right now so I'm good. Getting ready to go work. I'm going to sign me up in some classes at the college here and maybe meet some people also so yeah.
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