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  • Dec 16, 2008, 12:02 PM
    cjeep23
    He was just trying to hook up with you!
  • Dec 16, 2008, 12:03 PM
    fiona84

    The sick part is I actually would like to give the relationship another chance. I just feel like all everything is is a big game. I wish people could just be honest with each other, everything would be so much easier. I def. felt like there was still such strong feelings between the both of us, I just don't get it
  • Dec 16, 2008, 12:04 PM
    kctiger

    His immaturity seems to be messing with your mind. Move on... if he really was serious, he would break up with his current girlfriend and try and date you again... he clearly hasn't done that.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 01:09 PM
    KBC

    How old are you?

    Do you really want this guy(who wouldn't commit) to be in your future? Really?

    There are too many other good people to get to know who don't have this 'past' with you and maybe they are worth the time of day.

    He seems to be just as kctiger said,seeing if the grass was greener,and he didn't get in bed with you that night,didn't want to kill off a future bed time with you and called back to make sure you would be responsive or not.

    Kick this baggage to the curb,find a guy who will be there for you,one with a little more maturity than the last one.
  • Dec 16, 2008, 01:30 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Also I know everyone says it but NC is the best way to go I wish I would have did it since day one of my breakup. I think they know in the back of their minds they are not going back with you, but they use you to get over the breakup until they find someone new to replace you. Good luck to everyone and just remember you are worth more than what your exes are giving you.
    These were your words before, and they are so true. You have been through this so many times with this fellow let this be the last time.

    I think he went to you because, his g/f was PO'd.

    In the grand scheme of things, you repeat your mistakes until you get it right, so strict NC as you said is the way to go.
  • Dec 17, 2008, 12:36 PM
    9Lives
    He is playing games to see if he can get you back. That's all.

    First of all, he has a girlfriend. So you will be the side dish and not the
    Delicous main course you deserve to be. So forget about him.

    Secondly, you gave him too much information when you talk to him. He
    Did not deserve to know all that about you. He left you.

    Third, I have been through this and it is hard... so so hard but this guy does
    Not have your best interest in mind. He is only thinking about himself.

    You need to use NC for the intent it is originally for and this is to
    Get over him. He still has control over you.

    Until you can look him in the face and not be phased by him. Fallback
  • Dec 17, 2008, 12:41 PM
    N0help4u

    You are most likely the rebound because he doesn't like being alone and you are convenient. Even if he seriously wants back with you you need to look at his past record of 'why things didn't work before'. Don't jump into this all that glitters isn't gold.
  • Dec 17, 2008, 12:46 PM
    9Lives
    Sounds like to me that even though you love this guy, he is not good for you. He is the rollercoaster ride. It is going to destroy you if you keep playing with this guy. He is inconsiderate. Stop wasting your him. I know you love him but you have to come to grips with truth that he is not really concerned about you. It is very hard but look at how he is treating you. NOW it is on you... It is not how he treats you, it is how you treat yourself.

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