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Dam you are stunning lol.

I definatly plan on taking the advice seriously im 28 and im tired of games and not getting what i want from a relationship. Thanks for all the advice keep it comming. Hot PICS.

I havnt seen anyone like that in brooklyn lately, lol :)

Thanks!!!!!!!!

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Thank you neighbor! Didn't know you were in Brooklyn!

No thank you for all the positive re-inforcement... Yup I'm in brooklyn bensonhurst...
Lived there all my life my brother lives in Matawan...

Wait let me get this straight?? Some broke up with u?? Lol are they blind?

“Beauty is all about us, but how many are blind! They look at the wonder of this earth and seem to see nothing. People move hectically but give little thought to where they are going. They seek excitement... as if they were lost and desperate.”

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Originally Posted by jolienoire

“Beauty is all about us, but how many are blind! They look at the wonder of this earth and seem to see nothing. People move hectically but give little thought to where they are going. They seek excitement ... as if they were lost and desperate.”

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Funnily enough that sound's just like my ex girlfriend.

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Originally Posted by chris08

Funnily enough that sound's just like my ex girlfriend.

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Lol, it probably sounds like everyone's EX... you know just to set the record straight, because some people on this site may think I am bitter, when it comes to relationship.. there are times when I do advise of someone to try to get their ex back but that is on rare circumstances, but what people don't understand is that an EX may come back into our lives, I redated my high school sweetheart 10 years after the fact, and we got back together last year and just broke up again.. SO there are chances that people do get back together, but we did it when we were both adults, and now look again we are broken up again.. Can I meet him and be with him 10 years from now again.. Yes it is a possibility but the only reason he came back to me was because I gave him the space he needed, I was hurt and got over it.. And now when we broke up again it doesn't hurt that bad.. Just happy that I got to love him all over again.. SO yes there are chances that people get back together but there is no time limit or any rules of when.. We just have to let them grow, and we need to grow.. And hey you never know it can be AGAIN.. Just don't do anything to ever ruin that chance by making quick decisions..

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“Beauty is all about us, but how many are blind! They look at the wonder of this earth and seem to see nothing. People move hectically but give little thought to where they are going. They seek excitement ... as if they were lost and desperate.”

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Wow sounds deep... but it makes a lot of sense!

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lol, it probably sounds like everyone's EX...you know just to set the record straight, because some people on this site may think I am bitter, when it comes to relationship.. there are times when I do advise of someone to try to get their ex back but that is on rare circumstances, but what ppl don't understand is that an EX may come back into our lives, I redated my highschool sweetheart 10 years after the fact, and we got back together last year and just broke up again.. SO there are chances that people do get back together, but we did it when we were both adults, and now look again we are broken up again.. Can I meet him and be with him 10 years from now again.. Yes it is a possibilty but the only reason he came back to me was because I gave him the space he needed, I was hurt and got over it.. And now when we broke up again it doesn't hurt that bad.. Just happy that I got to love him all over again.. SO yes there are chances that people get back together but there is no time limit or any rules of when.. We just have to let them grow, and we need to grow.. And hey you never know it can be AGAIN.. Just don't do anything to ever ruin that chance by making quick decisions..

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I was with a girl, it must have been 3 years ago. And we split up during these 3 years she must have had two or three boyfriends. We then started talking again but I was with my girlfriend at the time (currently my ex) And you will never guess what my old girlfriend said to me would you? She wanted me back as she had never loved anyone in the way she loved me, unfortunately for her I was with a new girlfriend at the time, but I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe the girl I took TWO YEARS to get over would be saying these things after a few years growing apart and then coming back to me with it all. You could imagine the situation I was in, I mean I was really hurt when she finished me but I couldn't hurt my current girlfriend at the time so I had to say no to her. I just couldn't leave my girlfriend just like that. This experience will be really vital for me, I hope I'm right? And I hope it gives other people here some positive thoughts if they are going through the same thing as me. TIME did make a difference. I would never of thought after 3 years I'd have the girl I once loved with all my heart coming up to me and telling me how she has never felt love the way she felt it with me. Unfortuantely there was nothing I could do at the time. So remember that anything in this world can happen!

I can see that happening to me years from now. My ex calling and possible trying again personaly among out difference I think she wants to try to live life without me and try new people. I tell you the truth I think she will call me some day I'm not sure were I will be in my life But I think she's looking for the fairy tale someone to sweep her off her feet buy her everything and she will never have to work. Go to all famous places blah blah blah but who knows. Im not putting my life on hold but I do hope one day she is in my life as friends or who knows .

Should make a challenge for the weekend Chris not to once feel down over the ex. The challenge starts tonight!

Lol sounds like a plan chris lets see what happens!!

Yeah let us know how things go. Hopefully no more drunken sad texts from me this weekend, think I've learnt my lesson!

Hey So weekends over and I was kept buisy all weekend. Really only time I would think of my ex was in the morning or when I was going to sleep. Usually I wake up in the middle of the night and I will wonder a bit about what she's doing and then that over. Over all I had a nice weekend I will admit that. I just need to stop wondering if she cares anymore that seems to be the only thing bothering me. Sometimes I wonder were I went wrong or what is she thinking now but I do not have a clue and need to stop wondering... Wonder when I will stop thinking of her .and what she's doing

We aren't going to have any idea what our ex's are thinking, it's like a computer game, we don't know what the next level is going to be like or about, even though we'd love to find out. I'm actually trying to not think about what my ex is thinking because it could make me feel worse if I push it out of her and hear the worse and that would mean I've pushed her away for good if you know what I mean. Saturday night none of my friends went out so I was just lying on my bed watching TV n talking to my mates on my laptop via MSN. My ex was online for a good 4 - 5 hours but we didn't once say hi to each other. It's like there's tension between us. She's also taken me off her top friends on her Myspace, so I think that just sums it up at the mo. She's being a right b*tch, and I just don't need that. Each day is going by and I can't wait for the day I meet someone new and get my ex out of my head, at the minute though I don't think I'm really ready for another relationship, you can't just rush into a new one just like that can you? Unless they are really special. Know what I mean?

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We arn't going to have any idea what our ex's are thinking, it's like a computer game, we don't know what the next level is going to be like or about, even tho we'd love to find out. I'm actually trying to not think about what my ex is thinking because it could make me feel worse if I push it out of her and hear the worse and that would mean i've pushed her away for good if you know what i mean. Saturday night none of my friends went out so i was just lieing on my bed watching TV n talkin to my mates on my laptop via MSN. My ex was online for a good 4 - 5 hours but we didnt once say hi to each other. It's like there's tension between us. She's also taken me off her top friends on her Myspace, so I think that just sums it up at the mo. She's being a right b*tch, and I just don't need that. Each day is going by and i can't wait for the day i meet someone new and get my ex out of my head, at the minute tho i don't think i'm really ready for another relationship, you can't just rush into a new one just like that can you? Unless they are really special. Know what i mean?

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Yea I kind off agree with you about not rushing into a relationship but at the same time I no it would keep my mind off things. Also the myspace thing I hate myspace. Cause after we broke up I took our pics of us 2gethor down and she did the same thing the next day... Also I changed mine to single I did keep her as my number 1 friend. I check hers everyday to see if she changed it yet and no it has in a relationship and I'm still her number 1. But to be honest is all that did was kind of give me a little sense of false hope. I still go on it every so often but now I just think she probably forgot it even says that. I still will admit it I check it every coupld of days... I think I'm just a little down and out today...

Chris28
You've said yourself that when you check her Myspace it makes you feel worse , so DON'T check it. You guys are doing well , keep it up!

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Chris28
You've said yourself that when you check her Myspace it makes you feel worse , so DON'T check it. You guys are doing well , keep it up!!

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Your right I checked it again this mssg made me wonder and think

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Michelleee!! will i be seeing u wed nite at mi casa??? i promise ill protect u from a certain someone lol "

I have to stop checking it now I'm like OK that means she's talking about a guy ughhhh I'm a loser!

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It doesn't matter what she's doing and you need to stop thinking about it , it is out of your control so don't think about it. All that does is make you feel worse , don't let someone who has f**ked with your feelings also control how you feel. And NO you are not a loser!

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Mate
It doesn't matter what she's doing and you need to stop thinking about it , it is out of your control so don't think about it. All that does is make you feel worse , don't let someone who has f**ked with your feelings also control how you feel. And NO you are not a loser!

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Thanks your right!

Its one thing to say you aren't going to check their facebook/myspace etc, but it's a whole other thing to actually find the will power to not do it. Trust me though, from the moment you stop, it gets easier after a few days. Every time you think about it, stop yourself and make yourself realize that NOTHING good can come from it, and you will only be causing yourself pain.

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Its one thing to say you arent going to check their facebook/myspace etc, but its a whole other thing to actually find the will power to not do it. Trust me though, from the moment you stop, it gets easier after a few days. Every time you think about it, stop yourself and make yourself realize that NOTHING good can come from it, and you will only be causing yourself pain.

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Exactly... like everything else in a breakup , time is the great healer!!

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Its one thing to say you arent going to check their facebook/myspace etc, but its a whole other thing to actually find the will power to not do it. Trust me though, from the moment you stop, it gets easier after a few days. Every time you think about it, stop yourself and make yourself realize that NOTHING good can come from it, and you will only be causing yourself pain.

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Isn't this the truth... Its always easier to say something then do it.

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Isnt this the truth.............. Its always easier to say something then do it.

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I checked it once, and it created so much emotion in me, I never went back to check. It stirred up so many emotions within me, I did not know how to contain them. It was one of the most hurtful parts of the breakup. It won't do you any good. Go on and live your life, and try not to look back.

Things like Myspace and Facebook are a right pain in the a$$, when it comes after a break up. I finally had the balls last night to take her off my top friends, she was number 1 my ex was. She had taken me off hers, so I just thought you know what, f**k this, it's her loss, why should I continue wondering what new comments or pics she has on her pages? Fair enough she did get a flirty type comment off some other guy for everyone to see but she deleted it, I was pretty surprised she did that too. She knows I look at her page, or at least she still thinks that.

It's time to start the NC on the most pettyist / useless site on the web, Myspace. For whoever is going through the same thing as me.

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Things like Myspace and Facebook are a right pain in the a$$, when it comes after a break up. I finally had the balls last night to take her off my top friends, she was number 1 my ex was. She had taken me off hers, so i just thought you know what, f**k this, it's her loss, why should I continue wondering what new comments or pics she has on her pages? Fair enough she did get a flirty type comment off some other guy for everyone to see but she deleted it, I was pretty surprised she did that too. she knows i look at her page, or at least she still thinks that.

It's time to start the NC on the most pettyist / useless site on the web, Myspace. For whoever is going through the same thing as me.

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Yup and it got worse last nigth she's sends her friends a mssg singing the jayz song 99 problems and a isn't one. And she changed the lyrics 99 s and I'm looking for the right one... God lol I'm started to hate her hehehe