I just have to be patient, and good things will come to me.

Yeah, I'm in the same boat as you, but me and my girl have been going out for 12 years, I literally had withdraws for 3 days when she left. I gave her a week of crap now I'm backing off for good before its too late. So I can figure out if I want her back (shes a handful) and to gain a little control back in this situation.

The whole point of a healthy relationship is working together for the benefit of you both, through talking and listening. Go slow and learn how.

I agree 100% with you. We both had a great time the other night. We both assured each other that we need to take it slow. Her and I both said we want the same things regarding us, and this is what we are both working towards.

That great.:)

Although everything went well, I still have my concerns about being strung along. For the last month and a half she has said we aren't broken up, we are just on a break. Then the other night she said we are broken up, but she wants us to be back. Sometimes I just do not understand what she is trying to say. She still says she wants to take it slow and I have to be patient. I totally agree with that, but I do not want to be a doormat either. How should I treat this??

Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends. Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!

I don't understand... where does that leave us?

I know we had a great time... but why I am still confused as to what she wants?

It's good a take a long break, will be changes after that, but it will be good.

I know it will be good changes for me as an individual. However, will it be good changes for the existing relationship?

It most likely will even though it could go both way...
Just stay positive:)

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Originally Posted by Joe2982

I know it will be good changes for me as an individual. However, will it be good changes for the existing relationship?

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As long as you both are honest and positive and willig to work together, you will learn how to communicate and compromise. Be patient. I've been married 33 years, and still take things one day at a time. No hurry!!!:)