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Originally Posted by kaitou

Dear ex,

I can't believe your feelings can come and go so fast, as if our relationship was a joke or something. When we first broke up, you said you wanted to remain friends, now i feel like you wish i would just dissappear. I'm moving on, and i don't want to get back together. But i just think is sad about how much you have changed. I guess i never really got to know the real you. I gave you the space you wanted, yet you're still being so cold. Oh well, at least now i can accept that it's over.

I think your current lifestyle is really screw up though. I feel like you get high, so you can skip class and avoid to see me. I know you smoke pot everyday, just dont know how much. I hate how you would stay up all night to chill out with your friends, almost like everyday. I never knew how much of a pothead you are, and how much you rely on having company with your friends to be happy.

I wonder how you feel about me now, and if you ever meant anything that you once promised me. But those doesnt matter now, because they are things from the past.

So i hope you keep meeting b*tches from now on, and thanks for screwing with a poor innocent girl's heart. you stupid pothead!

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Oh Kaitou - you tell him. You are so much better off. So much.

Dearest ex

Just a quick note of thanks for finally letting me off your hook. I realise now that I spent 20 years with a complete stranger, trying my hardest to scratch the surface of your complex personality. Good times, we had a few, bad times were many. I cried a river and almost drowned, before realising that I really could swim, now that you weren't holding me down.

I hope your new life is everything you want, I hope the grass is greener on that side of the fence, but somehow I doubt it. You can keep your big house, in your posh town with your high paid job. I know where I would rather be - in my little house with our beautiful children, oh... you do remember them don't you? Well I guess that's why I'll always be richer than you. Life is not finished with you yet - what goes around comes around.

The day your head comes out of the sand, the light will blind you.

Hope to never see you again. X

That is a great letter kay. Brilliant stuff. You are so true in everything you say.

You are a lot better off than him. In more ways than you probably even realise!!

Dear First Husband,

I knew right after the wedding, when you hit the new puppy we got so hard you made it scream, that I had made a horrible mistake and that it would only be a matter of time before you hit me too. You knew all my buttons and pushed them to your selfish advantage. That isn't love-- its manipulation but I was almost too needy and naïve to know the difference at the time. I am only sorry the year-long therapy I eventually forced us into didn't take on you-- what a shock that was to me! I began to realise what a mess I was and that you got no bargain of a wife from me. For that I am very sorry - I had no business being with any man. I have changed a lot since then, with lots more help too.

I want to thank you for slamming me in the face with your pool cue stick the last day we were together and teaching me the instantly adjustable value of stuff. Without that, material things would probably still hold too much value for me. You can keep the bentwood rocker we were arguing over. In fact you can keep everything wth my blessings.

I want to thank you for forcing me to flee in the night with my life and the dog, and the humiliating stint I did living in my rundown car. I would not have learned the depth of my ability to survive in such dire straights if it were not for you. I have powers I didn't know.

I want to thank you for following me from state to state, demonstrating the terrible farce of our legal system, but requiring me to hone my wits so that I finally lost you and could settle down in a paradise I might not ever have found othewise. I love it here. Thank God for PO Boxes and unlisted phone numbers.

I want to thank you for providing such amazing motivation for me to learn how to cherish myself above all else, so that I could recognize a man who lovingly does the same when I finally met him. He took my breath away with just his looks.

I know I divorced you saying never ever again and while it may have taken me almost fourteen long years to be willing to fully trust a man again, I am so very pleased to say that I have married (after he asked me twice, poor guy! LOL) one of the most honorable men the world has ever known. He is as solid as a rock.

I finally know at last what the measure of a man is.

I hope you found the help you need-- you really do need it. I offer forgiveness because I really do understand how sick you are but sadly no trust because I really do understand how sick you are.

Kind regards,
Your First Wife

(what a catharsis!)

Wow, Val.

I'm in even more awe of you than I was before.

Amazing letter Val.

Thanks for sharing that!!

Inspirational!!

Dear XXX,

You always claimed that honesty was the most important thing. Complete and total honesty. Omitting part of the truth is the same as an outright lie. And you got mad whenever something minor crossed that line, like not being back when I said I would be, taking a change of plans as a lie.

And then when you decided the relationship was too much, you couldn't tell me that. You couldn't say anything about that. So you found a way out of it that didn't involve telling me. You told a mutual friend about what you'd done, and told her that she could 'tell me if she wanted to.' I take a grim satisfaction from the pain that that caused you in the end... not for the pain itself, but for the poetic justice of being injured by your own dishonesty, more injured by it than I was, in the end.

And then you regretted it. And came back. And, like a fool, I gave you another chance, because, well, I don't really know why. I guess I bought into the lines you fed me about how it was a mistake. And even as we went through that, you couldn't be honest, and were already in the process of moving on to your next fling. Even that I didn't hear from you, but from another friend. Oh, you told me about it, but I'd known for a while. And on top of that, you had the unmitigated gall to be mad at me for not staying close friends through all of this. I'll never quite understand that part, really... even though the rest of it makes sense, in a weird and twisted way, that part is just strange.

In hindsight, I should have expected something strange... I was warned against you by a friend before we even met, and I paid no attention. With all of the stuff in both of our recent pasts, it would have been better to just let it drop immediately, but mistakes were made. In the end, the only regret I have is that I gave you that extra chance, the one you begged for, and then threw back in my face.

Thank you all.

LOL There is is teensy weensy fret of... I just hope he doesn't, by some hugely remote chance, stumble across this, read it and start the crap up again!

Gawd, paranoia from being stalked dies hard. LOL

Val,

Do you think there is any possibility?

Not to worry, Allheart. Its so remote a possibility and I thought long and hard about do I do this...
I am mostly airing my wigged out feelings so they don't grow LOL

I hear you Val. Let it go and realease it. Let it keep you prisoner NO MORE :)

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Allheart agrees: Bravo for seeing him for who he truly is. So well done!

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Psst... That was a girl. I'm a guy ;)

I have no end of trouble with that misconception with that 'na' on the end of my name. Ah well, my screen name and I have history.

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Originally Posted by Allheart

I hear ya Val. Let it go and realease it. Let it keep you prisoner NO MORE :)

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You got THAT right! (starts singin' FREEDOM like Richie Havens at Woodstock LOL)

F R E E D O M...
F R E E D O M...
F R E E D O M...
F R E E D O M

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Originally Posted by Nosnosna

Psst... That was a girl. I'm a guy ;)

I have no end of trouble with that misconception with that 'na' on the end of my name. Ah well, my screen name and I have history.

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Oh my heavens, I am so sorry :o :o

Eeek. Please forgive. Still good for you for seeing Her for who she really is! So sorry again!

Don't worry about it. I've been mistaken for much worse things in my lifetime ;)

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Originally Posted by Nosnosna

Psst... That was a girl. I'm a guy ;)

I have no end of trouble with that misconception with that 'na' on the end of my name. Ah well, my screen name and I have history.

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What does the name mean, if I may ask? It sounds almost native american to me. :)

Well, I was feeling quite original when I last reinvented myself on the internet (I had spent a long time on usenet with one handle, and decided it was time for a change), so I went with my last name backwards: Nosredna. Convenient having a last name that works well in reverse, although having a name that close to "Nurse Edna" wasn't in the original plan ;)

I used that in online games, and two things happened: For shorthand, I was simply referred to as 'Nos', and when making alternate characters, I took the easy way out and went with colors... Nosbluena, Nosgreenna, etc. This name is a combination of those two things.

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Originally Posted by Nosnosna

Well, I was feeling quite original when I last reinvented myself on the internet (I had spent a long time on usenet with one handle, and decided it was time for a change), so I went with my last name backwards: Nosredna. Convenient having a last name that works well in reverse, although having a name that close to "Nurse Edna" wasn't in the original plan ;)

I used that in online games, and two things happened: For shorthand, I was simply referred to as 'Nos', and when making alternate characters, I took the easy way out and went with colors... Nosbluena, Nosgreenna, etc. This name is a combination of those two things.

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Yea, I defiantely can't see you as the Nurse Edna type :eek: LOL but I must have been thinking along the lines of Shoshonee and the likes. Thanks for the clarification, Mr. almost backwards Anderson! And I see you picked up the idea of gender clues in your signature line like I have. It happened so much when I was first here, I would wonder if I somehow sounded like a guy?? :D

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Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow

Yea, I defiantely can't see you as the Nurse Edna type :eek:

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Well, maybe in certain situations with that special someone...

Oh wait, this isn't Adult Sexuality. Never mind ;)

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LOL but I must have been thinking along the lines of Shoshonee and the likes. Thanks for the clarification, Mr. almost backwards Anderson! And I see you picked up the idea of gender clues in your signature line like I have. It happened so much when I was first here, I would wonder if I somehow sounded like a guy?? :D

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Yeah, it's probably best to be blatant about the gender thing... Don't want people taking my advice if they want a woman's perspective or something ;)

I'd believe it if people thought I was a girl... I've got insight into relationships, emotions, feelings, etc. That's not stuff that guys are supposed to know :D

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Originally Posted by Nosnosna

I'd believe it if people thought I was a girl... I've got insight into relationships, emotions, feelings, etc. That's not stuff that guys are supposed to know :D

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So now wait a minute LOL whassat s'posed to mean when they mistake me for a guy, hmm?? :rolleyes:

Sorry - we are seriously highjacking this thread! I now return you to your regular thread broadcast LOL Let's seeeeee those letters PEEPS!