Thanks again Chuff ,The book is very good I -actually own two of his books. I am like you I can watch him all day because he is not about hell and damnation and not once do you ever hear him say send money or we are going off the air like most TV evangelists .I enjoyed the book, it was as if the book was written for me and the things I do wrong .This book began the transformation of my character that made me think twice about my ex and how I treat people in general.I used to be a "player" so to speak and my ex happened to come along at that time.I highly recommend YBLN and the other titled "Daily Readings form your Best Life Now" which inserts scripture to the message that is on that page .I am like you in that I am not highly religious but I do try to follow Gods plan for my life .I don't believe you have to go to church per say to live that way... Thanks again

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I work with a female I dated about 6 months ago ,we began sharing the same break table when we started dating .When the realtionship ended (by my hand) she continued to come back and sit with me .I decided to try again with her because the first time I ended it I was afraid of getting to close which we were .I felt like that she really cared for me because she didnt go sit anywhere else .This break table is isolated and away from everyone else so we are alone .About three months ago I expressed my desire to start over agian ,she said she didn't trust me and that we needed to start by being friends again .I have only been to her house once since that time .The other day our realtionship came up and she said she had no feelings for me because I destroyed them but was halfway smiling when she said that ,I was hurt .I have been super nice trying to win her back .I then ask her why do you sit with me everyday if you have no feelings for me she bumbled through words and couldnt give me an answer ..My question is did she really mean it ?Women say one thing and mean another ...please help

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Of course she'll answer you this way and she's feeling that she lost her feelings towards you. Woman needs attention you killed her waiting for you on this stupid break table... so win her heart back by showing her how beatifull she seemed last day when she was eating this apple on this stupid table.. so stop blocking your feelings and hers too . Let them flow .good luck

An update of sorts ,I can feel her getting closer to me .She comes to town on Saturday nights to sit with a woman who is terminally ill .My friend has two dogs and since she has no children the dogs are like children to her.I offered to let the dogs stay here so they won't be alone so long (the last time she sit with the woman they were alone 14 hours) and she was really excited about the idea and said yes, she said I will even come up early to let them get used to the surroundings so they won't be so shocked .This will be the first time she has been here since we split .I think this is a first step to see if she can trust me again.She has started to touch me a lot lately incidentally as well where before she wouldn't get within three feet of me...

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I think this is a first step to see if she can trust me again.She has started to touch me a lot lately incidently as well where before she wouldnt get within three feet of me ....

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Sounds like the hard work is finally starting to pay off. I'd just keep doing what your doing. And adding dogs to the equation. Nice touch. Nobody can resist the animals and that only makes you look better.

Well the dog sitting thing fell through ,The woman whom she was sitting in with is going home from the hospital. I said "no problem it was just thought" and she said "well I can bring them up when I return your ladder" I said that's a good idea and she seemed elated.She also was really playful today with soft touching and I played with her hair and she doesn't let anyone play with her hair . I get the strange feeling that she is close to giving it another go she just wants to make sure I am serious about her...

I think we are "oh so close" she had a tax debt to pay and worked two jobs to get it paid instead of borrowing .I told her I admired her for this so as a reward I gave her a gift certificate to splurge on something cool for herself .I left it where she would find it at work I had already left and unlike before she actually called to say thanks and seemed really elated .The day before all this happened our mutual friend at work offered to pay for dinner if the two of us went she told me that she told him we tried that before didn't work and that a free dinner sounds nice but... and didn't finish the sentence .I told her oh I gave up a month ago on this and what an "about face" the next day .She treated me like it was my last day on earth being very friendly, flirty and actually said "that stuff I said yesterday about the dinner well what I meant was if we wanted to go out we would pay for it ourself we don't need his money" kept saying we never did that before.. So I don't know any comments ?

Such a nice friendly gesture! Hey dude if you think she is special, I would ask her out.

I think when you told her you gave up a month ago she suddenly got scared again and thought maybe you were leaving again. It's the same thing with her for the last 2 months, you pull further back and she suddenly starts taking notice and working a little harder to get you to come back.

Eventually the back and forth has to stop and something real has to start though or it will get tiresome. But so far you seem to be going well.

She messen with you head homeboy... dont mes with this girl... no reason to... she dontwont you like you won't her move on buddy,.

Well we are dating once again and her attitude is very different ,I think she wanted to make sure I was not going anywhere... The "act like I don't care attitude" turned this whole situation around.. Thanks for that advice chuff... J

The BEST way to remedy this situation... cut you a new one out of the herd. NOTHING works on a heifer worse than when you drop them for another. Guarantee you if she is messing with you... you'll find out then, she'll probably fling herself upon you like a rag, but you'll be in control...

Back and forth is hard work but if there is something at the end of the road? Why not!