Kit is right, its not pity, its for his own purpose.

In man lingo-he is just checking his traps. That's what hunters do. I wouldn't be surprised if he has many traps to check, and you're just one.

Sorry, but don't give in, stay with NC!

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Kit is right, its not pity, its for his own purpose.

In man lingo-he is just checking his traps. Thats what hunters do. I wouldn't be surprised if he has many traps to check, and you're just one.

Sorry, but don't give in, stay with NC!!

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Very well said Talaniman... I can't add anything to your answer. You said it all:)

So after not responding to my ex's call or two texts for 5 days, today I texted him saying "whats up." YES I know I was supposed to maintain the NC rule and I was for the past month almost and throughout that month I realized a lot and got a better understandings of things but something inside me was just telling me to do it. I didn't do it in hopes of us getting back together, and yes it sounds pretty naïve because it's not like I HAVE to be friends with him but I didn't want to just end it for good in that way. Overall he's a nice guy, he was mean and took me for granted sometimes I admit that but he wasn't SO bad. And plus my main purpose was to show him the real me which I never really got a chance to do throughout the relationship because I got too "clingy" and always chased after him but that's really not me. I got carried away and I know what I did was wrong and what caused him to be so distant.

Our conversation went pretty OK. I texted him and he said "oh wow look who is it." I asked how he's been and he did the same. We exchanged like two texts each after that and then he said "worktime ill talk to you later" and I left it at that. Usually I'd go crazy texting but this time I didn't even feel like saying anything. I basically treated him like I'd treat any of my other friends. So after a few hours he asked me how my parents were doing and how school was going and I answered. Again maybe 5 6 texts were exchanged and I let the conversation stop at his last text. Since I'm planning on going to med school, he said you still have like 10 years ahead of you go go and I left it at that. I really don't plan on texting him that much because I've learned. At the same time I didn't forget what he did in the past but I'm just trying to play it cool. I think deep inside I realized I don't like him AS much as I did before even though a month away isn't that much.

I know I didn't listen to you guys and I'm sorry for that because you guys really were there for me when I was venting and I appreciate that and for the long run maybe this decision I made isn't all that great for me but I really liked this guy and shared a lot of memories with him for me to walk away in a cold manner. I didn't want us to bump into each other and have any kind of animosity amongst us.

Now I have another question, do you guys think he will ask to meet me? And how should I act towards him? I respond to his texts after some time so I don't look like I'm waiting for him which I really am not; I'm a full time student so I'm in school mostly. Also he hasn't brought up adding me back on BBM. When I last emailed him I told him I deleted his bbm pin so IF he asks to add me I will just say I don't have your pin?

P.S my birthday is coming up and I really want to know if he even remembers. And kitkat, I forgot to answer you before, I blocked him on fb back in December from my account and his friends also so no one can see any of my comments that were once made on his pics/wall. I don't want to be on his fb, I have no interest left in that. If anything goes wrong again, I know I have to go NC again and just cut him out once again and stick to it. I just wasn't OK with the hard feelings with had going on.

... If he doesn't treat you well on any other day, don't expect him to treat you any different on your birthday. Sorry but it's true.