Thanks I appreciate it.

It actually felt good not to cave!

After I spoke to her on the phone the other day and kind of suggested I won't be around she pretty much said fine, if you give us up that easy, I'll just go get with somebody else.

I was quite shocked at this and asked why. She said, well I don't like being alone so I'll just go and seek comfort in somebody else. I said even if you don't like them, she said well yeah I'll just get to know them and like them. She then said being hurt makes you do stupid things...

This is quite worrying right? Seems I may have dodged a bullet.

I agree,I guess she knocked herself off the pedestal.

It always helps when people show their true colours.

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Originally Posted by amicon

I agree,I guess she knocked herself off the pedestal.

It always helps when people show their true colours.

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Certainly did.

Why do some people do that?

I had a friend who got dumped, so on that weekend he went out and slept with a girl he'd met.

Is this something to learn from and look out for in the future, people who can't be alone?

That's why there should be no hurry to give your heart to someone.

It pays to be sure the deserve your trust, and only by going slow and paying attention can you see the real them.

Never rush into a relationship.

Taking time getting to know people is a good idea.

Its funny because Ive always taken time to get to know girls, more so this time.

I got friendly with her and after about 3 months we started dating for about 3 months then she actually said to me, how come you haven't made this exclusive yet, are you going to, I'm interested in something serious. I hadn't spotted anything by that time so I said sure.

All was fine, then one or two points cropped up but because she never seemed that willing to talk about things, for example she thought one or two short conversations where I did all the talking would clear the issue. At the end of these conversations I was still left confused and if I brought it up again she'd say, we already discussed this. So I think the bad communication is what caused a lot of this. So then she goes away to school and finds out that its terrible. She has a hard time with the work, she lives with inconsiderate people and sleeps about 4 hours per night.

Problems that cropped up, she was even less rational to talk about them and instead of even entertaining the conversation, she just wouldn't have it. So everything ending in an argument. It got too much and she asked to break up. Said she'd be better once she got home.

Look at yourself… your making excuses for her dumping you. Why don't you stop analyzing her every thought and action and realize it’s over, done, finished?

Hey I realize it hurts, been there myself. But listen you need to get beyond this delusion that everything is going to change when she gets home. You’re living on empty promises, false hope, and worse yet… you’re waiting on it.

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Originally Posted by Imabadman

Look at yourself… your making excuses for her dumping you. Why don't you stop analyzing her every thought and action and realize it’s over, done, finished?

Hey I realize it hurts, been there myself. But listen you need to get beyond this delusion that everything is going to change when she gets home. You’re living on empty promises, false hope, and worse yet… you’re waiting on it.

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Oh no, sorry I was just saying.

I realise I don't want to give it another go. It was too much work and because of the bad communication, nothing ever got solved.

Just stating what happened so somebody may be able to point out where it went wrong. Nothing major stands out, except not communicating well so I need to figure out what things to notice in the future that might tell the start of a bad relationship.

Thanks

Look,throughout your relationship the communication didn't work,she broke up with you rather than solving the problems.

Sorry to be harsh,but stop trying flog a dead horse.

Whatever her reasons,ideas,thoughts etc-it doesn't matter anymore.