On your days off you hit the gym and you can go after work too. That's what I do.

I can't go when I finish work at 10 at night, not really been a gym person though I prefer outdoor activties

Yea I wasn't a gym person either but trying to be.

I don't really want to do things like that cause it makes me feel like I'm doing it because of someone else

Ok... then take a college course... do something new to keep you entertained! Something that betters you at the same time! Gym, school and outdoor activities. These are all things I am doing. It's hard to push yourself but we can do it!

Well I tried what you suggested this morning and probably hd the worst time thinking about her, justlike I said before when I decide to try e hapy and forget abou her it comes back 10 times worse so what is th point in not expecting he worse all the time

So why not go for a walk before work starts?

A walk will just give me time to reflect on her and what I haven't got anymore won't it

I really need help my girlfriend of a year left me over three months ago and I can't deal with it, I can undersatn how my life can be s good on minute then awful the next, since we broke up I have been so depressed and look around and hate everything about my life she is with someone else now and thisj ust destroys me every morning when I wake up I was good to her and her son and she just ended it like that and I fin ithar to get through theday without breaking at some point, how can I ake myself feel better and be happy when everything looks so glum

Physical exercise will increase your endorphine levels and make you feel better.

You have to make the choice to work to get over her,and help yourself.
Do you really want to be stuck in this situation another couple of months down the road?

No I don't but months ago I decided I didn't want to get botherd and upset by her and tried to move on but haven't been able to do it and I have tried doing a lot of thing that people suggest

Then keep trying.
What we suggest here works.
I know it does-been there-done that.
You have to keep at it and not allow yourself to fall into the black holes
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It is hard when there are so many things that get me upset about the situation and I can't get her out of my head, I do try things all the time don't know if I'm doing something wrong about it

Can anyone help me with some things that I can do to stop me thinking that my ex was the one I've read up things saying write down all the bad points but I can't think of any and its been a few months is there a website or something that can help? I really need to move on and want to because of th pain I'm in,but I feel I'm doing sometin wrong becaue I'm hurting as bad as the first day we broke up

Can anyone help me with some things that I can do to stop me thinking that my ex was the one I've read up things saying write down all the bad points but I can't think of any and its been a few months is there a website or something that can help? I really need to move on and want to because of th pain I'm in,but I feel I'm doing sometin wrong becaue I'm hurting as bad as the first day we broke up

It takes time to recover from a break up,are you been busy in your life?

There is one startling truth about your break up that maybe you have not quite yet come to terms with... its over... you are 'the one',no one can make you happy,only you,there is no quick fix to a broken heart.

The first thing on your list of why its over should be... 1. she did not want you.

2. she did not want a future with you.

Stop dwelling on the past,look towards your future,set goals for yourself,and remember that she was just not the right person for you.

I can make myself happy but she is always on my mind so I can't help but dwell on the past

Keep occupied doing things for yourself, hanging out with friends etc.

I don't think you stop thinking about them that quick, just get used to dealing with it and eventually it will pass

I know but she moved on quick so why am I stuck like this I hate being where I am I don't want to think about her all the time but I can't meet anyone new while I do

Its not a competition
Its better to wait till your ready so you can have something meaninful rather than a rebound