Hey I forgot about this thread.

I was pretty angry when I made this thread.

I still think relationships are pretty lame but I'm not as mad as I was when I wrote this.

Thanks for your posts ;)

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Originally Posted by mudweiser

So the other night I was thinking, yeah thinking again , and I thought to myself, "Relationship really suck, what's the point? You get to know someone, then after the lovey dovey part is gone it'll end soon, maybe a week or 35 years from that point where that lovey dovey stage passes"

Here are my 5 Stages:

Stage I: In love.
"Oh I can't wait to see him/her"
"She/he is so amazing, I think he/she is the one"
"I can't breath without you baby"

Stage II: Starting to see eachother's flaws, still in love
"I don't really like it how he/she interrupts me"
"She/he is so inconsiderate, they always eat all of the ____"

Stage III: feeling uneasy about relationships, doubts, arguements start.
"Why he/she always late and full of excuses"
"He/she is a little controlling, do I want this?"

Stage IV: arguements continue. dissatifaction in relationship
"You could really pick up the phone and call me when your late"
"Why are you always asking me questions when I come home? Don't you trust me"

Stage V: either giving it another shot or the break up.

Usually if they give it another shot it's just one huge circle and it goes on and on and on.


What is funnier to me, if one relationship doesn't work out we move on to the next and it's just another huge circle.

What the heck is the point.

Maybe I'm being a Bitter Britney or Negative Nancy... but does anyone else see it this way?

What are your opinions?

Sarah

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Maybe we are just complex animals and lust is a main feature
Everyone wants an attractive mate, and once you get it you start to think what else can I get. I get bored with people after about 6 months. I have never had a relationship past 6 months sadly. However maybe not, why marry someone you aren't in love with.
Life is trip and you get what you need here and there. Humans need love and compassion weather its for 20 years, 20 months, 20 weeks, 20 days, 20 hours or for 20 min.
Different people have different needs. If people here are feeling un-fulfilled I would have to ask you to really look deep and try to find what you want vs. need.
Sadly in today's world of I phones and flashy cars people are always looking to upgrade
And want the best deal (I guess I can't blame them, girls and boys alike) why stay with your ford focus if a mazda Rx-7 is willing to pull in your driveway? Which brings me back to what do you actually need and want. Lately I have found short term to be the best for me now. (20 days) or so then we are both not angry at each other but passion has been lit, burned and run out of fuel. You can re-fuel or mutually part ways stay friends and look for a new ride with your gas money cause after all you both know how each other handles and it didn't blow your mind long enough. I'm not saying go out and bang the next attractive person you see but I think if 2 people are lustful, go for it. It will feel good and maybe it will lead to something, maybe it will be the person who makes you feel the way you want. Probably not but hey you never know. Sadly you don't know how good someone is until they are gone or that part of the relationship is over. So that's the main problem is when to keep when to trade and then when to not bother and save money is another option. But after a few years of that you might get bored. So find somewhere relaxed low key with cheap drinks if that's your scene or outlook cause hey I'm with you why spend 20 bucks on drinks and not end up with 1 single decent conversation.
That discourages the best of us.


Which brings me to a question, does anyone want to help me open a small music venue in my crappy nyc suburban finacially strapped troubled city?
One with free local bands, and cheap beer since I don't want to be a millionaire tomorrow.

That's another problem everyone wants to be a millionaire tomorrow.
Doesn't happen. Nor should you want it to. Go play lotto if that's what you want.
I bet it takes about a million 1dollar tickets to win.

Everything in life is a gamble that either your willing to take, or your not. I think the key thing is to be happy with yourself, and what your doing, more so than who your doing it with. I think most break ups and not so good relationship experiences come from people who are no longer willing to work with their partners, because as long as the willingness is there mutually, you just keep working.

Plus you have to be patient with someone, as who gets it, when you want them too.

Relationships are pointless.
Any clear-minded logical person can see that.
They always end ugly! ALWAYS!
It's either death or divorce (break up).
I agree with your stages Sarah, but I think you are looking too much into it.
I'd rather be as Jmjoseph put it.
Call me pessimistic, if you want.
But if you sit back and think about it, you'll eventually find yourself questioning more things.
Well that's all I got to say.
Conor