But how do you get to the point of being together

By mutual consent, through honest, and clear, communications.

Thanks for the help guys I'm feeling a little better today

That's great news-wishing you many more good days.

Thanks amicon... im starting to get to a point where I still want her to come back but I'm starting the be able to handle the thought that she might not without becoming an emotional rollercoaster

I am sorry about the breakup, but before you can move on you need to accept the reality of your situation. You broke up, it’s over. Let reality sink in. Don’t allow yourself to harbor secret fantasies of getting back together or how she’s going to come crawling back to you. Respect that this chapter of your life has closed and tell yourself that you’re going to have to get over it and move on. It didn’t work out and it probably wasn’t meant to be. Accept that fact and move on.


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Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us,
but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person
who wouldn't give up on them.

Yes, so true.

Acceptance is one of the hardest parts, but a critical jumping off point to regroup, heal and work on yourself.

It's a learning process with time on your side.

You will get through it.

Thanks guys I have accepted that we have broken up but we are also working on our relationship... its not just me that wants to work on the relationship she has s said that wants too as well and her actions are saying the same thing not just her words... but some days are still harder then others

You both have to want the same things.

If being pals with no other expectations works for both of you, then do it.

If not, you are in for heartbreak after heartbreak.

What do you mean heartbreak after heartbreak?

Just an update guys... still doing good probably the best I've been in 2months... the days haven't been a bear to get through... I know that I still have tough times ahead but just wanted to say thanks for the support again

That's great news-keep going and keep posting.

Yes man.
Glad to hear it.
Rock on.

You remind me of me 7-8 months ago haha. Trust that no contact is the best way to go, keeps you from getting confused and the build up of false hope. I wish you the best! Them wanting you wait while they look for better options is the definition of selfishness.

Isn't it funny that once your feeling really good you all of a sudden have a break down :( I had mine last night after the post guess I got to confident

Hey man, everyone has their ups and downs. I was a wreck for about 3 months. Each day that passes, the feelings get slightly less intense. After a while they get to the point of being fleeting memories or thoughts. When you reach that point, you know you made it.

It's an emotional rollercoaster but that's normal,soon you'll have more good days than bad ones.

I just want her to want to come back :(

Feeling down in the dumps is normal but don't get stuck there.
Get busy and do something to cheer yourself up.

If you have the time, call up some friends and go out and do something tonight. Go see a funny movie or go bowling. Just do something with a group of people so you can stop thinking about her for a little while.