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  • Nov 14, 2009, 07:07 AM
    Cat1864
    He can ask reception where he dropped them off if he wants to know. His text was essentially a way to get you to respond and give him a toe in the door. He should know that reception would inform you that he left your things.

    How are you doing on staying busy?
  • May 16, 2010, 12:53 PM
    bratt_y

    hi
    haven't been on in a while... as you already know and have read, I wrote about my X-boyfriend who had asked for space and then broke up with me after two weeks! Anyway, it's been 7 months now and I am over him, not totally but very much so and I am okay. But just to refresh you on the topic, when we told me he wants to break up, I cried till I couldn't cry anymore and I asked him not to do this to us, and how much I love him... but then when he told me he wants space, I told him fine, but please don't break us cause I am trying so hard and if I walk away, I will never look back again! And he said I know and I gave him his "space" and then he broke it off after two weeks (which honestly he had made up his decision at that point and just wanted me to get used to the fact of us n ot being together) anyway, then after 1 month and a half he text me and told me I he brought some of my stuff back which was left at his place and I had asked for so he brought them back and left them at the building, I didn't reply to his mesg. Two weeks after that he sent me a random one just wishing me about a holiday, I didn't reply... two weeks after that he sent me another text asking if I had something what belonged to him, I just wrote back no I don't... I never heard from him since then, no contacts what's so ever.. Now I do see him in the gym and we walk right by each other! He doesn't say anything and tries not to look, although I have seen him look my way. I even saw him once at a party where a few of friends came over and hugged me and we spoke, but he did not come up to me and turned his head when he saw me!
    Now it's been seven months since we broke up and I never went back as I told him I would walk away... but the thing is, when I see him in the gym, it feels so strange to walk right by each other! I think sometimes I want to say hi and talk to him but at times I don't care the least cause I want him to see what he's missing and let it eat him up! Now my question is, has he not come back to me because I told him please don't break us, if I go I'm gone, OR is it that he just wanted things to end for whatever reasons... he said I was strong and he's strong so two strong characters is not good and YET at the same time he always said I love it that you have a strong character and I (he) could NEVER be with weak character... so I don't get it! But do u think I should have never said that, did I scare him?
    Also, do you think I should go up to him in the gym and smile and say hi, or something?? Please let me know...
    (with all this, I am a true TRUE believer that if someone wants to win a girls heart BACK, they won't let ANYTHING come in the way and they do everything in their power to win her heart, even if she says the worst things...
  • May 16, 2010, 01:34 PM
    talaniman

    Leave the guy alone, and stop the fantasy. He broke up with you, and has made no move from what you have written, to get your heart back, or anything else so let it die a quiet death. They only thing you show him is that your happy without him, and have moved on. Hard to understand why you're at the same gym as him anyway. There have to be others around you.

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    with all this, I am a true TRUE believer that if someone wants to win a girls heart BACK, they won't let ANYTHING come in the way and they do everything in their power to win her heart, even if she says the worst things...
    That's all well and good, but a guy doesn't dump the one they really want to begin with, so take that as he isn't that into you any more. Its been 7 MONTHS?? And nothing has happen to give you the slightest hope, so forget it!!

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