Delete her off Facebook. No CONTACT all the way! All the time! Learn to Hate her. Forget about her. Delete and throw away EVERY single thing that reminds you of her. If she is with the other guy that fast then there's only 1 reason for that.

She was EMOTIONALLY CHEATING on you before she actually did it. Her saying she's doing it to move on is BS!! She had that thought and maybe was even with him already way before you 2 actually broke up. That's probably why YOU BROKE UP in the first place.

The grass is not always greener on the other side... It only seems that way at first glance, but the fool will never realize this until its too late.

Let her be! Leave her alone. Learn to hate her! Better YOURSELF as a mAN! Work out! Buy new clothes. Learn new skills! Be a new man! Change yourself within for the better. BETTER YOURSELF and in the near future, when she sees you again, she will see what she missed. By then you will not want her anymore... I can't stress how important this is!!

By doing all these things, you will have done 2 things!

1) Become a stronger, smarter, mentally tougher man to prepare you for the next relationship.

2) Turn the tables in your favor because if the love was real, she'll come back begging for YOU! And by then, it'll be up to you to choose if you still want her back and IN YOUR TERMS!. But you must also remember that she might never come back... And in that case, HER LOSE...

I know its tempting to contact someone - there is always that hope that maybe this time she will respond differently - but she won't - and it will just make things worse and harder to deal with. If u want to talk to her talk to someone else instead.

Start working out - jogging - martial arts - anything - take your mind of everything and become sexy in the process - then you will be in top shape to find the next lucky lady - and the old girl won't look so good anymore.

I'm just really pissed off about the whole thing, I mean I shouldn't be, they've been together for over a month, but I no matter what I do I still think about it. I judge every girl that I see and no one can seem to compare to my ex, which is very disheartening to me right now, I keep thinking... "Did I just let go of the best thing out there"
Is that normal?

Your still thinking about her. STOP IT! I know its hard... But think about this. Another guy is with her right now. They can be doing anything! You couldn't actually want her back now could you?? Learn to HATE HER! LOOK WHAT SHE DID TO YOU!

She played you! She treated you like you were nothing! She never loved you! If she loved you, why is sshe with another man right now! Also, its not the other guys fault. Its ALL HER FAULT! F*** HER!

And to answer your question... It is normal. How your feeling is normal. But get over it. BE MAD! That's a good thing! Learn to hATE HER GUTS for putting you through this. I bet you'll feel that your next girlfriend is the BEST THING IN THE WORLD.

BETTER YOURSELF NOW! Do push ups until you can't do no more! Do something! Better yourself is the most important thing you can do. Be better than her new boyfriend. She's going to want you back after you better yourself and by then , you will want something better because you deserve something better.

Stop thinking about all the pics she put up about the first present you ever got her.

Trust me. From one man to another. IN REALITY... She cares less about those pictures... Your just looking for hope that she still cares... SHE DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU! If she did, you would not be on this website right now. You two would be together.

You must drop it and forget about her. NO CONTACT! NO VIEWING HER FACEBOOK! Workout man! It'll do you tons of good. You'll find another GF before you know it...

Superman has it good. It's normal to feel like you are feeling but you need to let go. Heck, I'm still pissed a bit that my ex is with her boyfriend after 5 months, but I'm living my life and she is living hers. I know I'm wrong but my life is getting so much better when she is constantly heartbroken...
Take my advice, make a perfect life of yourself and you won't think about her.

The same thing happened to me mate, My girlfriend and I split after 2 years and then she started seeing another guy 2 weeks after. She wants to remain friends but I have stopped all contact with her and it has been a month since we spoke. I still think about her a lot and wonder how she could move on so fast but I have resisted all urges to contact her as I don't want to know about her new life.

I'm so sick of lying awake at night for hours at a time. I'm sick of thinking about her with him. I'm sick of having to consciously devote so much time and energy to trying to remain sane; its so hard to keep my mind off her and everything that's happened.

My Ex has been dating someone new for 2 months now, and it still hurts when I think about them together, but I know I'm living my life, so he can live his too. Right now, no, no one is going to compare to your ex - because you have her up on a pedastal. But instead of thinking of all the great times you had together, think about the things that didn't work between you - the things you want to do different with someone else - the things you didn't like about her. Yes, it sucks - but you need your mind to get her off the pedastal.

Stop checking her Facebook! If you have mutual friends that hang out with her - block their feed so it doesn't pop up in your Facebook (do the same with hers if you can't bring yourself to defriend her all together).

There are millions of girls out there - and not just one soul mate for everyone - so start meeting new people. Just make friends - you don't need to start looking for your next girlfriend right away - hang out with the guys - have a good time just being single. Before you know it you will meet someone else and won't think about your ex anymore.

That's what I need to do, take my ex off a pedestal. I'm going out tonight, hopefully I'll come back happier, I'm on day 4 of NC, still stings to think about, I got a text message from a friend of mine who goes to the same school as my ex lettiing me know that he saw my ex with her new boyfriend, I was kind of upset that he told me that, like, why would I want to know that, it kind of set me back a bit, but I think I'll be fine as long as I do not stay in tonight

Have a good time and tell your friends you don't want any updates!

You need to tell your friends that you don't want to hear any news updates about her - you don't care if they saw her - you are moving on. You can tell them that it stings to hear about her if you want. They should understand that you don't want to know the play by play of her life anymore since you are moving on.

Update - Force fed myself some grapes today ;]... For me, reading has helped so far (as long as its not a textbook). Also, by accident, I started listening to AOL comedy radio, and it feels good to laugh and especially to laugh about relationships. Maybe I'll be over this whole thing in no time...

Went out to a couple of parties, had a great time, danced on some girls, met a lot of people, basically the single college life. There were points that I thought about my ex and what she was doing, and that would consume my thoughts for a couple of minutes, but then I would go a long time without thinking about her which made me feel good too. Still depressed that I'm still thinking about her though... I have feeeling that I'm on my way to moving on, been n NC for almost a week

It's gnna take a while - don't expect your feelings to change automatically just because you've been doing NC for a week. Seriously it takes a while and you guys were together for a long time - so don't be hard on yourself.

Glad you went out! I know its not the same but eventually you will start to enjoy yourself :)

From a female and from my own perspective, usually when a woman leaves a guy it usually means she has moved on. I think women in general give their all when in a relationship, but will be willing to take it all with her and leave when she feels the need to do so.

I think it's best that you move on.

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Originally Posted by longdistance78

From a female and from my own perspective, usually when a woman leaves a guy it usually means she has moved on. I think women in general give their all when in a relationship, but will be willing to take it all with her and leave when she feels the need to do so.

I think it's best that you move on.

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Yes, but most of them will leave for someone else or will jump into another relationship (rebound). On top of that, most of them will make the boy confused and get him to stay in the "friend" zone and give them false hope.

So wow, this morning there was a career fair at a nearby university, it was a statewide thing so students from a bunch of different colleges were there, and would have never guessed it but so was my ex. She was with her new guy, she saw me, stopped and stared, looked like she was about to start crying but before she did she turned away and started walking quickly towards the restroom. I feel bad, but like, I didn't do anything, I didn't know she was going to be there, and I didn't know that she would react that way if she saw me, it was the first time I saw her since 2 weeks before we broke up so its been almost 3 months, but to be honest, I wasn't even thinking about her today before I saw her, but now I can't get her out of my mind, I just got back from the career fair and I feel sick to my stomach, I feel like all the work that I did has gone to waste because I feel like I'm back to where I started. Idk why she started crying but it made me feel bad and it made me want to comfort her, and she did this in front of her new boyfriend, I don't know I guess I'm just venting I don't know what to do now.

There s nothing you can do except accepting it and let it go.
It feels like a setback but you couldn't have known this would happen.
Get busy and think ahead.

DUDE STOP STALKING HER FACEBOOK. IF YOU WANT TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT THIS YOU can't DO THAT.(And frankly it's a little pathetic)

Now go out in the world and b your l on some T's