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Thanks jmooney :-) Did these books help you at all?

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It helps understand human nature and how people act the way they do... I'm naturally inquisitive so I find this kind of stuff interesting.

I didn't read the 2nd book but I've heard a lot of good things about it from people who have.

Ok well thanks for the titles. I'll have to check them out.

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I;m not saying that he should do it everyday. Every once in a blue moon. My boyfriend just bought me flowers 3 weeks ago after 2 years!! I was the happiest person

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And I wasn't insinutating that you were, I was just giving you a general answer to your general question.

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Shoot I treat my boyfriend like a king (without buying him things half the time). I would expect to get the same treatment.

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And you should get the same treatment but what you need to realize is as guys its way harder for us to do those things,if he's doing absolutely nothing than there's a proublem and talk it out but if he's just doing less give him the credit and go way over board thanking him and making over it then hell see hey I need to do this more often.
But don't start the tic for tac thing that's just going to discourage you

I'm going to simply things a bit.

Relationships are about making each other happy. People change over time. The little things done in the beginning are important to court someone. Once courted and you become a more serious couple, you expect bigger things for each other. Thus, less time for the little things.

The little things are important, but the bigger things are even more important.

When the honeymoon is over the reality sets in and you see that its two people who are different trying to work, and live together. Much different than dating, as you have to communicate, and be reasonable in your demands. The other posters are right, things change and you have to adjust to your partner as you learn more about their ways. And they learn more about you.

Just remember, as you have issues, so does he.

I think what counts more are the little things that are done on a consistent basis,holding the door for you,telling you he loves you out of the blue and not just at the end of a phone call.
My wife brings me a cup of coffee every morning and sets it next to me on the night stand,doesn't sound like much but I can count on one hand how many times she hasn't done it in 11 years.

Aww zippit that was nice

I'll keep that in mind

Ok, everyone has something that they need to work on. Me, I need to work on myself esteem, jealousy, and relationship security. Other than those things, my relationship with my boyfriend is great. Anyone have an idea on how to stop these feelings that I have?

No one is answering this thread because there is not a specific question. I'd dig deeper into what your problems are and post them...

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Oh OK thank you

Hey Room!

My boyfriend keeps his phone with him. He will take his phone with him if he goes to take the trash out, sometimes when he goes to the bathroom, and when he gets in the shower. I don't understand why he does that. Last night my boyfriend got in the shower and he had his phone on top of the toilet. I'm like, "why does he always do that" I didn't say this to him but I thought it. Its not like he really needs the phone with him while he's in the shower. It really bothers me when he does this because it just tells me that he doesn't trust me. Yeah I've went through his phone 3 or 4 times since we been together (and we've been together for 4 years). But if he doesn't have anything to hide it shouldn't be a problem for him to leave his phone out around me.

What do you guys thinks?

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What do you guys thinks??

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I would kick any gal to the curb at the first instance of going through my phone (and I don't have a phone) while we were dating unless it was an actual somebody's-gonna-freaking-die emergency. Married'd be 'nother matter. But, after three or four times I wouldn't trust you either.

My boyfriend does the same thing. And I'm pretty sure it's simply to annoy me. He'll sometimes leave it out and I'll go through it (I get bored. I never expect to find anything). And even when his entire inbox is from me he'll come back and grab it away. It's almost more of a game now for us

Yeah but we been together for 4 years. I went through his phone 3-4 times since then. That's pretty good if you ask me. Compared to other girls out here that go through their boyfriends phone everyday! So I'm not even trying to here that.

It's not like he never went through my phone. I can leave my phone out without a problem because I don't have anything to hide.

Yeah that does make a little sense but I think its stupid lol. Ya know what I mean?

I do the same thing mostly just out of habit. I paid nearly 600 bucks for my phone (it is special) it is never out of my sight. I actually get kind of bugged out if I don't have my phone. Not because I think my wife is going to go through it but because I think I lost it and my wife would beat my @$$ if I lost it.

Lol Well I understand where you are coming from. I get like that too sometimes especially when I cam out at the store or something. I always figure I left my phone on a counter or something.

I can kind of see where your coming from, however at the same time I am the same way with my phone. It a habit that I got into a long time ago. Where I go my phone goes. That's all it is in some cases. A habit created a long time ago that isn't a problem so it doesn't need to be broken. My boyfriend is the same way with his phone.