Ask Me Help Desk - Does this mean he is cheating.

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Originally Posted by cheeseismee

I know hes not cheating just because he is looking at porn. Just because he views nude imagines does not mean is he guilty of getting emotionally or in any way shape or form involved with another person. Last time I checked the definition for cheating is :

Cheating in a relationship has traditionally been viewed upon as an infidelity and disloyalty. At the core of this viewpoint of unfaithfulness is that a level of intimacy has been compromised and shared outside the relationship with a third person.

Theoretically cheating is anything inherently personal a mate shares with someone else who is not their partner.

So in his case where is the third person?For that matter where is the second. One man one hand one bottle of lube. Sounds like one man with self love doing what all men do. So he has some pictures to look at that does not mean he is being unfaithful. It means hes looking at pictures.

?? There's nothing wrong with a LITTLE porn. Am I the upity conservative.. And you KNOW he's not cheating? WOW... You're good. Cleo? Small medium at large.

Cheeseisme, There was part of this post that was deleted. You'd really have to read that part first to know the history of this drama to be able to see like we see. There's a LOT going on in this relationship that was in the original post.

Sorry, but it seems like you keep on going back and continue making the same mistakes. Once, twice, but five times, come on. You need to get your act together, and stop going down the same path. As a mom your kids need to come first. You've made some mistakes in the past, and usually a person learns from them. Stop blaming other people,and take responsilbility for your own actions. IT seems like you worry more about a man than anything else. Sorry but your priorities are all screwed up. Do something and get the help you need to get on the right track.

I believe I made a huge mistake in my threads including the situation with my children. My main focus here is my relationship. Two different threads merging brought two topics together as well.

It has taken me a long time for me to stop blaming myself for what happened to my kids. My dad never showed signs of being a sick pedofile, or his friends. Who by the way have families of their own. I knew them since I can remember. My dad was always there to help me with my kids so I can handle business and make a life for them. Now I know why. For someone to come in here and imply that I should have known is b.s to me. And hell yes I'm getting defensive over the whole thing. I wanted advice about my boyfriend and didn't ask for any about the situation with my kids. Not in this thread. But people just love to point out hurtful situations and rub it in peoples faces. Like I said MY MISTAKE, should've never been as open as I was. I'm done here.

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Originally Posted by mary79

I believe i made a huge mistake in my threads including the situation with my children. My main focus here is my relationship. Two different threads merging brought two topics together as well.

It has taken me a long time for me to stop blaming myself for what happened to my kids. My dad never showed signs of being a sick pedofile, or his friends. Who by the way have families of their own. I knew them since i can remember. My dad was always there to help me with my kids so I can handle business and make a life for them. Now i know why. For someone to come in here and imply that i should have known is b.s to me. And hell yes I'm getting defensive over the whole thing. I wanted advice about my boyfriend and didn't ask for any about the situation with my kids. Not in this thread. But people just love to point out hurtful situations and rub it in peoples faces. Like I said MY MISTAKE, should've never been as open as I was. I'm done here.

None of that dribble actually addressed the point of the posts since you were last here. The usual playbook for you. You are defensive and running. When are you going to change that? When are you going to drop the drama and focus on why the drama follows you? When will the excuses stop and the change begin?