Instead of wishing and chasing someone that doesn't want to be with you, why don't you try and further things along with these other girls that you are dating? If you have no problem getting dates and meeting other woman, than why are you wasting your time with the ex?

It's called moving on...

The reason I am "waisting time" as you say, is because I love my ex. I don't really feel that type of attraction towards these other women.

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The reason I am "waisting time" as you say, is because I love my ex. I don't really feel that type of attraction towards these other women.

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Until you have fully healed I doubt you will feel that "sort" of attraction towards other women. The point here is to heal, get yourself emotionally unattached and develop a life that is more realistic and logical to you. You have to give yourself a chance to like other women by first ridding yourself of baggage in the past.

I appreciate all the advice and opinions on here, but I have made up my mind to pursue things with my ex. I have made a decision and am sticking to it. I am not interested in moving on, I took a long time to myself to think about that and decide. So I would really appreciate some helpful advice in that line, something positive to say to help me in my goal, if that is possible.

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I appreciate all the advice and opinions on here, but I have made up my mind to pursue things with my ex. I have made a decision and am sticking to it. I am not interested in moving on, I took a long time to myself to think about that and decide. So I would really appreciate some helpful advice in that line, something positive to say to help me in my goal, if that is possible.

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Ordinarily I would be pretty harsh, but if that is what you wish, than I hope nothing but the best. I guess my only advice would be to wipe the slate clean and hopefully fix the things that were previously broken. Be yourself and be true to making the relationship work without losing yourself in it.

If, however, you find that she doesn't want you back, you need to learn to accept that! In the end, this is about you and how you handle rejection, heartbreak, failure and growing up. You would be foolish to think you are the only one who has felt as deeply for a woman as you feel and hasn't tried to fight for her. You would also be foolish to think that life doesn't go on and that this woman is the end of your universe, as I promise you there is much more out there, and I am not just talking about women.

That is y ultimate goal. None of you know this girl or what we had together, but please believe me when I say it is worth any amount of work. I am determined to fix things and be the type of man she needs me to be. I just hope she hasn't lost all feelings for me at this point, it has been almost two weeks since the last time she and I spoke.

Whatever changes you have made you must stick to them. Otherwise, this cycle will repeat itself and you will be heart-broken again.

Also, you can't force anything to happen on her part. She must be wanting for this to work as much as you want it to work. If she is not as committed to this as you, it will eventually fall apart and you will wind up in this situation again.

Good Luck in your fight! I hope that it works out for you both and your effort isn't in vain.

Thanks for the positive words. I do know that I can't force things, and I would never want to force her to do anything against her will. That is a good song by the way. Days come and go, but my feelings for you are forever. That is the way I feel.

Sometimes fighting for her makes things worse. You end up dragging on a relationship that has to end before it can ever get better. I know you don't want to lose her, but she has all ready left. I was going to the same feelings that you are going through now (Trust ME). I wish that I would have let go when it first happened, not because I didn't love her anymore or that I don't even love her now but because its best thing to do. HEAL

Bah I texted her a night or two ago, but I got no response, I think she was asleep. It is pretty common for this to happen. In a few days I will try again. I got to get myself back in the picture, because once that trail goes cold that's it.

Zomg dude. You're owned. The more you push now the further she will run.

I'm in a sort of same, kind of situation.
Mine has progressed slightly further, than yours. I played it cool and when the opportunity arose, I just made her laugh and told jokes and avoided the relationship subject all together. Knowing she still loved me, I out of the blue sent her a message that reminded me her of something, I texted her when we first met. The nostalgic approach. It worked. I got something from it. I then asked her if she would so kindly accept to go on a date. She said 'she think she could'. - if you love this girl and are truly wanting it, then go for it. Just remember that in your quest for getting what you want, there are others involved and you must remember their feeligs, also. Baby steps, is the way. Do not push. I am not back with my Ex, maybe I won't even get this date. I am still trying.

Just got a text from her two nights ago, just saying hey. I know it isn't much, but it's the first contact in two or three weeks. At least it means she hasn't forgotten about me.

Nope she is just stringing you along.