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Originally Posted by markerman

4 days ago she sent me an email saying hi. What is she doing? I never responded at all. What should I do ?

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Ignore it, you deserve better than that.

Yeah from reading your post she is WAY controlling, and obsessive compulsive disorder too, I mean... correcting how you eat are you serious? Go NC and be happy that you got out of that relationship. Don't feel bad about her being with somebody else, be happy that you're out of that, and that he will soon be receiving "proper dinner etiquette."

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Originally Posted by Sprung09

I think that "yes" she does sound controlling. But if you broke up four months ago and you just wrote all of this then you needed to vent. Hopefully this helped you get over her a little bit. You just needed to get it all out no matter who listened and don't worry, she was controlling and remember that time heals all wounds.

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Hey thanks, so her behaviour had nothing to do with me right ? She made me feel like everything was my fault, like I wasn't good enough.

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Originally Posted by markerman

Hey thanks, so her behaviour had nothing to do with me right ? She made me feel like everything was my fault, like I wasnt good enough.

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It's her fault she couldn't accept you for who you are. You are good enough for someone who appreciates the qualities you have. Love isn't about change it is about unconditional acceptance. Go forth and find someone deserving of your love!

Women like to think they can change guys for the better, but often they change them for the worst (I have experience with that type of $hit). Maybe you did need shoes. Maybe you were eating unproperly. But if I were you id just do what she says. ONCE she starts saying you need to think a different way then that's where you have to start contemplating if she's correct or if you really just like the way you are on something. If its wrong then you need to be a man and say "i like the way i am with that, its just something your going to have to accept of me"

My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for 5 months. She was very controlling towards me and critical. I started standing up to her control and we started fighting all the time, she didn't like it so she broke up with me. She now has another boyfriend. We haven't communicated since the break up. It ended bad. 2 weeks ago she emailed me to congratulate me on my new job. I never responded back. What is she doing ? What should I do ?

Thank you for your feedback!

Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

You said it yourself, you've broken up for 5 months now. It's time to move on with your life. Stop worrying about what she's doing and get on with your life.

The more you dwell about her life, the less time you have spending on your own life.

Worry about yourself first.

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Originally Posted by CanIBuyAClue

Yeah from reading your post she is WAY controlling, and obsessive compulsive disorder too, I mean... correcting how you eat are you serious? Go NC and be happy that you got out of that relationship. Don't feel bad about her being with somebody else, be happy that you're out of that, and that he will soon be receiving "proper dinner etiquette."

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Why do you think she contacted me after 5 months of being broken up ? She has a new boyfriend too, but she was controlling to me?? What she doing ?

I think she is trying to regain old territories if you know what I mean. She will come back until you set things straight with her. I don't know her so I'm not sure what she is doing but it sounds as if she wants to control again. Namely you. Stay away. See if you can set things straight with her and tell her to lay off if that's what you want.

She liked having control over you. She misses it. That's how control freaks are.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

She liked having control over you. She misses it. Thats how control freaks are.

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Is it true that controlling people will at first be all nice. Charming, and caring, then slowly start to control you ? Also is her getting Jealous when I talked to other girls a form of control ? Once when I was talking to her roommate she said after " I am glad you didnt talk to her for very long " What was this about??

It might be true. You talking to her and her being jealous could potentially start to be a controlling issue. However I think its because she's afraid of the trust you might or might not have with her. The only reason a girl would get jealous is because she is afraid that you might cheat or something like that. So that all comes down to trust. She obviously didn't trust you. Indicating that she was in secure.