I do appreciate all the help and advice I have been given so can I just say that to start with. So Thank you to everyone who has posted. Where I am in my life at the moment I thought there wernt many nice people around tbh. So everyone on here is restoring my faith a little more everyday, I understand that you all give up your free time to offer this help and again Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I don't want to sound ungrateful. Everything that I've told you is the truth, yes it sounds so off the wall and I can understand why you all think that, as now looking back with a bit of a clearer head it does tome too.!

Im trying to get on with my life, trying not to think about this guy, the one thing that hurts me is what he said to my friend he said to tell me that my friends have f**ked it up for us getting back together?? When only the day before he wanted to, I think he is using my friends as an excuse/get out clause. If he loved me he would be with me regardless of the hassle my friends give him. When I say hassle they only point out the nasty things he has/is doing to me and obviously he does not want to hear that)

Im going to try getting involved in the Oz trip, even though my heart isn't really into it at the moment, I'm trying my best to get the images out of my head with him swanning around with other woman while I'm here feeling like someone has cut my heart out.

I know deep down in my heart that he was a nasty piece of work, that he was bringing me down with him. Like I said earlier I do have a lot going for me (im told) house, family,friends, BA and MA etc.

I'm trying to keep myself busy, but I feel like I'm just pretending at being happy, rather than actually being happy?? Is this normal

Im having a moment of weakness, so I thought id spend my time on here rather than emailing/texting my ex.! Im trying so hard to forget him but its soooo hard. Im trying to get the pic of him with other woman out my head, I just can't understand howsomeone can ask me to get back together with him and at the same time plan a hol with another woman?? Even if they are friends its just so wrong... rant over ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I've just found out that the girl my ex is going on holiday with knew nothing about me, how nice is that!! My friend emailed her, I really wish my friends would just let things lie tbh.

This girl says that my ex is a very good mate and nothing more but I do think she likes him,she thinks the sun shines out of his ar$e but is going to talk to him about the situation, apparently my friend told her about me and that she was going on hol with a guy that uses/lies to people and only a few days was trying to get back with me.

I do feel for this woman as she has a 12 yr old daughter but I know I can't control the world and peoples actions eh? I just hate it that he never told her about me,

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ive just found out that the girl my ex is going on holiday with knew nothing about me, how nice is that !!!! my friend emailed her, i really wish my friends would just let things lie tbh.

This girl says that my ex is a very good mate and nothing more but i do think she likes him,she thinks the sun shines out of his ar$e but is going to talk to him about the situation, apparently my friend told her about me and that she was going on hol with a guy that uses/lies to people and only a few days was trying to get back with me.

I do feel for this woman as she has a 12 yr old daughter but I know i can't control the world and peoples actions eh? I just hate it that he never told her about me,

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Honestly, you need to step away from the situation, ENTIRELY. Ask your friends to be supportive and NOT to bring up any news about her. If they aren't willing to do that, then find new friends in the mean time. As, this constant barrage of information will re-open the already slow healing wounds as is.

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Honestly, you need to step away from the situation, ENTIRELY. Ask your friends to be supportive and NOT to bring up any news about her. If they aren't willing to do that, then find new friends in the mean time. As, this constant barrage of information will re-open the already slow healing wounds as is.

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I'm trying my best to walk away, I really am, what hurts is that he said to my mate to tell me, because they were asking him why he was treating me like he was (he said they were giving him hassle but that's not true, they were just pointing out what a to$$er he was being to me) He said that he don't want to get back together as he is fed up of them giving him hassle, even though the day before he wanted to get back together and text me asking me that. He is just using my friends as an excuse, if he wanted to make a go of it then he would regardless of my mates.

The thought of him on hol with this woman kills me inside but I can't do anything to stop it so I'm trying not to think of it and that's god damn hard

Yes, it's difficult. But, what are you doing to take your mind off the situation?

Perhaps you can

1. RUN
2. APPLY FOR JOBS
3. GET A HOBBY
4. READ
5. CLEAN
6. GO FOR WALKS

Do something productive instead of sitting around and moping.

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Yes, it's difficult. But, what are you doing to take your mind off the situation?

Perhaps you can

1. RUN
2. APPLY FOR JOBS
3. GET A HOBBY
4. READ
5. CLEAN
6. GO FOR WALKS

Do something productive instead of sitting around and moping.

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1, Run - I can't do that as I'm ill at the mo
2. Aplly for Jobs - doing that and getting knowhwere fast as they say I'm too qualified as I've a masters degree
3. Get a hobby - yeah that's a good idea
4. Read - I do that and can't concentrate because of thinking of HIM
5. Clean - That's all I do and my house is like a palace now thanks to him lol!!
6. Walks - I walk my dog everyday to think and all I think of is him!!

Im trying so hard to keep myself busy, god I think I've tried everything, the nights are the worst though, just lying there thinking of him with other woman, going through conversations thinking what I could have done/said differently.
I need to move on, I know I'm better than his lying cheating scumbag ways

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1, Run - i can't do that as im ill at the mo
2. Aplly for Jobs - doing that and getting knowhwere fast as they say im too qualified as ive a masters degree
3. Get a hobby - yeah thats a good idea
4. Read - I do that and can't concentrate coz of thinking of HIM
5. Clean - Thats all I do and my house is like a palace now thanks to him lol !!!!!
6. Walks - I walk my dog everyday to think and all i think of is him !!!!!

Im trying so hard to keep myself busy, god i think ive tried everything, the nights are the worst though, just lying there thinking of him with other woman, going through conversations thinking what i could have done/said differently.
I need to move on, i know im better than his lying cheating scumbag ways

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It sucks, and it sucks bad. But, just hang in there. The pain eases bit by bit every week.

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It sucks, and it sucks bad. But, just hang in there. The pain eases bit by bit every week.

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I was going to say can I have that in writing but it was lol!! Im trying keep my pecker up, I really am, sorry to go on but while I'm on here I isn't texting the ex. Thanks for all your help and advice xxx

No problem. How about going out and watching a new film?

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No problem. How about going out and watching a new film?

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That's a good point, I've organised to go to cinema wed pm. I feel like I'm just trying to be happy and it should come naturally, how come I've done nothing but love and care for this guy and I'm feeling like this and he has cheated and lied and is swanning around playing the smug little git?? Ggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

More reason to leave him alone.

Trust me when I say this, you will find someone who will love and respect you.

Karma is not lovely.

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More reason to leave him alone.

Trust me when I say this, you will find someone who will love and respect you.

Karma is not lovely.

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I could never trust him anyway, all his mates were saying to me that he can't be trusted so enough said really if that's from his mates. I knew we could never have a serious future as I could never trust him, I was always wondering what he was up to on the damn Facebook, I know he was seeing/meeting women behind my back. One day he says he loves me and the next he tells my mates that he don't?? I found it all very strange

Stay away from social networking websites.

How can a guy say he loves and wants to be with you one day and then change his mind the next, then that day after change it back

He can say he loves you, but it's another thing to ACTUALLY love you. If he really did, he wouldn't be playing childish games with you.

I've cut off contact with this woman with whom he is going to go on hol with, I'm dying to know what he has said to her but in the back of mind I know that he will have lied to her and told her what she wants to hear.

The thought of them on hol rips me apart, how can a guy ask to get back with me and at the same time plan a hol with another woman whether its just mates or not?? That's not right, at the same time as asking me for another go he was back on Facebook and in contact with the girl he originally cheated on me with. Its like a double whammy blow

Nice rant, get it all out!!

Its been 3 days now and NC, I'm trying to keep busy. What hurts is how he hasn't got back in touch since I told him I'm scared that the lump maybe cancer. How can someone hear that and then not reply to his ex??

I suppose it was the wake up call that I needed, I just can't understand how someone can not respond when someone tells them that there scared they hasve cancer?? That's below human in my book