Tell your friend to shut up! He should know better.

OK... ill make sure to do that...

Everyone...

I can't stand the NC! She has yet to try to make contact with me but you know what?

I have SOOO many other things to do right now, moving, new job... etc. that I Don't have time nor want to wait for her to make up her mind...

So, I think that it would be best to text her today and ask her to lunch. I figure if she says "no" - then I have my answer. If she says "yes" - then ill go from there...

Any input would be great... :)

Or... sh** I just don't know what to do...

Now I feel angry that she has done NC to me! Maybe I should just leave her be and she is she contacts me... please help me.. because I'm so confused right now.

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Your emotions are confusing you. Stay with NC. Everyone told you it was hard, so now you know we were telling the truth. Leave her be, and stay busy, as you said you have been.

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So, I think that it would be best to text her today and ask her to lunch.

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Not a good idea.

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I figure if she says "no" - then I have my answer. if she says "yes" - then ill go from there....

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You will be back here complaining about how hurt you are either way, when she doesn't take you back.

How many times are you going to run head first into a brick wall?

Accept you are free to be happy and do whatever you want. What's so hard about that?

Okay, ill continue NC... and your right it is SSOOOOOO hard to do... dam%

I want to be happy, etc... its just that I still love her. You know? But cool... ill keep busy.

talaniman... can you explain what you mean by "my emotions are confusing me"...

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Your thinking is based on feelings, which are all over the place right now, (understandably so), instead of facts, (she dumped you). That's why you are angry she hasn't called, or taken you back.

NC will allow you to settle down and think a lot more clearly. Break ups are a life experience that teaches us to recognize, and cope with our feelings in a positive way, so we can move forward in life.

Do you have any friends who aren't "mutual" friends? If so, I'd start hanging out with those folks a bit more. You don't need to be hearing all this third party feed back.

Well that makes sense but she "technically" hasn't dumped me yet because she hasn't told me that, and she would. Also, just 2 days ago, our mutual friend said she loved me but Didn't know what to do... im not trying to run my head into a break wall but you see the ambiguity that I have with this relationship?

Or, maybe I'm in denial... I just don't know, so everyone out there... please give me your input ESPECIALLY since its Friday and I have a long as$ weekend ahead of me!

My Input: Life is too short to wait for her to make up her mind on whether she wants to be with you. Life is too short for games, drama, being mad and crying over spilt milk... all of that.

You have to face the reality that if she truly wanted to be with you, she would be. Time reveals all truths, and this situation is no different. You have a long weekend ahead, of enjoying yourself, having fun ,and most importantly, NOT WORRYING about her!!

You get one shot, make it count. Screw her!

No, unfortunately, I don't have any none mutual friends but I could try to make some...

kctiger: thankx for the tough love.

its freaki^^ hard as He**... after ALL that time together, she is putting me through this! >:

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kctiger: thankx for the tough love.

its freaki^^ hard as He**......after ALL that time together, she is putting me through this! >:

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Sorry to say my friend, but you are letting her do this to you. She has no power over you, only the power you allow her to... free yourself from her reigns and enjoy life man!

Carry on... :cool:

ALSO>... let me ask everyone out there...

My emotions are running pretty high... and can anyone tell me how to stop thinking about her being with another guy? That too, is driving me crazy.

Thanks... yeah I'm a basket case right now.

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ALSO>....let me ask everyone out there.....

my emotions are running pretty high...and can anyone tell me how to stop thinking about her being with another guy? that too, is driving me crazy.

thanx ...yeah im a basket case right now.

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All the things that are running through your mind are ABSOLUTELY 100% normal, trust me. Keep yourself busy... do whatever it is you have to do. To be honest, I think you sometimes just have to handle those thoughts. Very few things will actually take your mind off this right now... just deal with the thoughts, and, over time, they become less and less powerful and overbearing.

It sucks, I know. You are thinking of the most irrational thoughts on the planet, but that is what our mind does to us when feeding off emotions. Hunker down and you will get through this. For every negative thought, blast it out with a positive thought... do 10 pushups every time you think about her... hell, by the end of this ordeal, you will be buff!

:) you're the MAN.. kctiger! :)

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Well... what I would do in your place is to assume she had dumped you. It'll be for your best.

OK... I will assume that she did dump me.

I mean, don't go after any other woman! But apart from that, assume you are single.

Honestly, in your place, I'd call her to tell her it's over. That way you'd be free to do whatever you want without regretting what she thinks. But that's just me.