Mistake: Women always thinking the man is the problem

Correction: Perhaps they should look in the mirror for once

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Women look into the mirror too much. What they see is all wrong compared to what they see on porn sites and in magazines. They cannot win... except with the person sitting on the couch, doing nothing...

Couldn't agree more with Simon..

Girls see this at very young ages and it's pounded in our brain! And they feel inadequte

Women and Men ALIKE have their problems.. I get so sick of men whining all the time about women controlling everything.. In fact I'm going to start a post right now about how men screw up relationships./

FYI I'm not a feminist.. but I get so sick and tired of hearing guys whine and complain about women... face it guys... you'd be lost with out us!!

Mistake: Playing out a scenerio in your head of what you expect he will do or how he will respond in a given situation and then being disappointed and hurt when he doesn't follow the script!


Correction: Stop setting yourself up for disappointment... speak up with what you want/need.

I honestlt think that us women have our little codes because every time we do say how we feel about things men just try to avoid the situation and all the sudden us women are emotional and as you men like to call it "crazy"
Maybe its not the women that need to do the talking. It's the men that needs to start doing some listening and maybe they need to sit down and shut up for a change and put down that remote control! I also don't understamd that when a women does try to state her feelings a guy tries to either flip the script or he simply acts like he cars for about 2 seconds and goes back to what he was doing.

One mistake that I believe a lot of women make is that they tend to think less of themselves all the time and no man likes a woman that is always downing herself. Confidence is key and men love a confident woman.

Mistake: Revolving their life around the man in their life.

Correction: Don't give up the things that you enjoy as women alone, it helps ensure yourself confidence and independence.

Think we see all too much of this out there.

Mistake: Talking to him every second of every day with text messages/emails/phone calls

You pretty much know how his day is going if you just talked to him 5 minutes ago

Correction: Put down the phone (being any device that can receive and send a voice signal and/or text message)

Pull the plug on the computer. (being any device that can receive this/or some form)

Limit yourself to short contact and maybe a phone call a day... He'll probably chase you more. Answer :p

So true about the expectations. he he. women do have a tendency to make up scenarios in their heads, but like true faith said, doesn't guys do something similar?

And the self image thing... it can get pretty bad for some people. It is pretty important to remember that the person you are with is more often then not with you b\c of your personality AND looks.

Hehe and starbucks is right on the money with the calling, texting etc. :P

I guess my mistake would be wanting my fiancé to turn the football game off sometimes. And limit his sport intake and realize life isn't over if the giants doesn't win the super bowl.

Next would be expecting him to do the laundry correctly. I done showed him a thousand of times on how to use our washing machine but he still don't get it. He pretending not to know how to to use it, maybe, but I know that last time he did it he turned all my white stuff pink.

Mistake, was me asking him to open up and expressed his feelings. Now he can't stop and sometimes I want to say shut up however I do say it in my head.

my dad did the laundry once and he ended up ruining a pair of pants that belongs to my sister and after that my mom made a rule: NO ONE!!!! does the laundry except me!

I made some mistakes in with my x boyfriend... we lived together and I was pretty much a WOW widow... I made the mistake of thinking that I could get him to step away from his game and go out with the garbage :P


another mistake I made... I never respected the fact that he likes to have a tidy house. I just threw my stuff around and left it for days until I cleaned it up. (I was a lucky gal though, he did 60\70 percent of the cleaning I did the rest :P)

Yeah, the video game is another issue. I can't get too mad because I play it too but I play a variety of games instead of one. All he does is play Madden 09. I used to be stuck on Grand Theft Auto but now all I play is Wii and Guitar Hero. I even went and brought the complete rock band set for everyone to play.

Hehe yeah that was our problem as well... he was totally consumed with Wow! I Played a little, but I could be 'consumed' for a week and then I didn't play for weeks, months and then I played for a week and so on. I like variation

World of warcraft for me lucky enough I got my girl into it hehe

hehe yeah that is pretty lucky, my x got me into it at first as well, but I don't have enough interest or game 'stamina' to keep it up in the long run :p

One mistake I've seen with younger women in particular is giving their all to a man and losing them self in the process.
They live only to please their mate and they become clingy and possessive.
You must be happy and healthy by yourself before you can be so in a relationship.

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Originally Posted by TrueFaith

World of warcraft for me lucky enough I got my girl into it hehe

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Your lucky because one of my exes was into those types of games and tried to get me into it, but I couldn't get into it.

I don't know if this was already said but another mistake some women make is having babies with guys that they know aren't any good but they still have babies with them in hopes that they will change. However that doesn'e happen but then they want to complain about them being a deadbeat. Duh, you knew that before hand.

OK. I have two more.

Mistake: Women always trying to change their man, so they are perfect to them

Correction: Accept your man's flaws and either deal with them or find someone more suited for you.



Mistake: Women trying to let there BF down easy during a break up.

Correction: Be straight and honest and tell them how it is. None of this "I need space...", "We need a break...", "I'm confused...." What the heck does any of that mean?

Instead just say "I don't love you anymore. We need to break-up" Simple, plain, blunt, and honest. No reason for hope there.