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  • Jun 30, 2009, 12:13 AM
    DtheDevil
    My girlfriend is nowhere to find. The worst nightmare after the best dream.
    I posted on this site a year ago about the story of this girl. At first, it was just an one sided love, however, I got her somehow.

    And now, I don't know where she went.

    Yesterday, like any other day, I woke up, went to my shop and then I went on chat. Everything was OK. Then I visited her like always and we watched a movie together. But when I went home, she wrote to me on my chat: "My mother found the test of pregnancy, I gotta go, don't write or call to this number anymore". Then when I called her, her mother had her cellphone and told me:"She has gone away, and I don't want her back". It was like 11 p.m then. I went out and tried to find her. I searched all the places we are usually spending together, but that was hopeless. Afterward, she called me from the pub near her house, but she didn't say anything. Then she hang the call up. I called back but she didn't get my call. I went immediately there but there was no one. It was for a.m. I went home and tried to sleep. But I can't when I knew that she was somewhere out there and I was thinking if it's possible for her to move somewhere far away and this thought makes me unable to sleep. Then at 7 a.m I tried to call her but her mother was there again and said she isn't at home. Then I found her sunglasses on my window. I didn't know what is the meaning of this.

    I just want to see her again. I just want to feel her again. She was my 1st girlfriend. She was a soulmate, best friend, second mother and girlfriend to me.

    Usually after a storm there's silence and everything will calm down. However, will this be the same?

    It's been a long time since I've cried. If this continues, I won't be mentally healthy anymore.

    I feel I'm just like a cub who is searching for the warmth feeling that he knew. Missing this feeling makes me feel insane inside me. I'm like an active volcano that knows that is going to to erupt, however, it doesn't know when exactly it will.

    At this moment, I would be calling her like usually. It feels so different, when I'm not sure where she is, how she is doing and if she comes back.

    Every second spending with her were every piece of happiness I could have.

    I was so strong with her and yet, I feel so hopeless. Will she come back? If GOD exists then I want him to punish me instead and let her be. I would take that damage more easily . I still got a piece of hope. What should I do?
  • Jun 30, 2009, 12:15 AM
    57373

    Talk.to.her.mom.

    If you can't even do this,then your relationship was not that serious to begin with.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 12:44 AM
    DtheDevil

    I did, however her mother isn't so tolerant. She's 16 and I'm 17. And do u think talk to he mom will bring her back?
  • Jun 30, 2009, 12:47 AM
    7six_seraph
    Was she serious about you?
    If she loves you she won't leave you forever.

    I feel for you, if the same happened to me I would be a wreck.
    I think some good advice would be to be calm and gather your wits about you. Don't get taken away by your emotions. Be smart.

    Is she pregnant?
    If so, show you've got what it takes and do what youu can. Step up to the plate, it can only prove your maturity

    I agree with 57373, talk to her mum. Or try to at least. And don't be angry be assertive.
    Talk on the issue and not the emotion.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 01:02 AM
    DtheDevil
    Yeah, she is. But I'm the one who is responsible for this. 7six_seraph you're right. I should try to get a conversation with her. But what if she really leaves somewhere forever. She said she loves me and is thinking about my future. I'm going to study in US this September.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 01:23 AM
    7six_seraph
    First, I think that by addmitting responsibility you're showing maturity, you're young and you need to prove you have that if you want a chance at getting through to her mum.

    Second, if you're committed to make it work, TAKE resposibility. What are you going to do about your situation?
    You have already stated the worst case senario, now what is the best case senario?
    Your going to have to come up with a compromise.

    Do you think that its possible its all got to do with her mum telling your girlfriend she can't have anything to do with you?

    To me it sounds like your life is about to get a lot tougher, do you have what it takes to let these hardships ahead define you and not defy you?

    What about your parents?
  • Jun 30, 2009, 05:49 AM
    Ren6
    Apologizing to her mother might be helpful. In her mother's eyes, you have put her daughter in a terrible place. You had unprotected sex with her child and may have gotten her pregnant. One can hardly blame her for wanting the two of you to be far apart! So, apologize and speak with her mother... but don't hold your breath expecting permission to date her again.
  • Jun 30, 2009, 08:04 AM
    talaniman

    Nothing like a pregnancy kit from your daughter, to freak a parent out.

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