Thank you:)

There's no guaranties on how it's going to work out when I don't know the kid. But you're best chance is to give him his space and let him figure out what he wants. The worst thing you can do for yourself is act desperate even if you really are. Everybody is different so it would be impossible to put a timeframe on there. It would be as little as a week or 2 or as much as a couple months. I was in a similar situation. My girlfriend broke up with my after 2 years. She knew I loved her and just like you said, toward the end when I told her I loved her, she said "I know" or "Yeah".. I gave her time and let her decide what she wanted and after a month she asked me out again.

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I gave her time and let her decide what she wanted and after a month she asked me out again.

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DO NOT try and move on or give him space thinking like this!! Move on because you can do better... move on because you want to... move on because you HAVE to. There is someone else out there, someone that would never put you in this pain. Don't move on because you think it will bring him back. Screw him!

I know that people change and maybe he has, but my feelings for him have not yet, but with time, kctiger, they will.

Understandable... just remember your feelings do not dictate who you are or the character that you have. Your feelings are irrational emotions right now.

Irrational emotions indefinatly. I'm trying my best:)

That's all you can do. You'll be fine

My mom told me that I should speak with a psychologis in regards to this situation. I don't know if I should go, I do have insecurity and jealousy issues that need to addressed cause if I don't they will haunt me on my next realtioship. I don't know if I should go?

Go, I have done it before. No shame in making yourself better, none whatsoever. The only thing that matters is that YOU become a better and stronger person. It never hurts for a professional opinion.

Did it help you. They are so expensive and my insurance only covers 200 $ a year and that's like 1 visit. I feel so weak about all this and I do know that it will get better, but...

Yes, it helped me. I used to be EXTREMELY insecure and freak out whenever my ex went out. She was off at college, I was at home working, so I was very paranoid. Helped me a lot. I actually saw a counselor of some sort and not someone who had a PHD in Psychology (probably spelled that wrong, but I hate that word). Thus it was much cheaper.

This whole time I thought you were a women. Or are you? I just wish things could have been different for us, everybody thought we were so good together and we believed it at one point too. I wish it wasn't like this as do most people who go through this type of issue. I don't want to loose my hope, but I have no other choice do I?

All man! All man! Why did you think I was a women? Yes, you must first lose your hope to find yourself. When you find yourself a whole new hope emerges...

I'm not sure. I just felt it. You are a smart MAN, just haven't met many like that. No offence. I miss him kctger, I just miss him.

I know you do. I still miss my ex as well. It will get better. Turns out I missed my 'old self' more than I actually miss her. I have changed a lot since we broke up, and I mean A LOT! I never want to go back to being the person I was.

Do you ever feel like you guys will get back together?

I don't think we will EVER get back together. She doesn't deserve me, at all. Now, there are times I wish we would get back together, but that is just the easy way out. It is easy to stick with something your comfortable with than it is to find something new. She is already dating another guy anyway. I love her to death and would do anything for her, but I am also a realist, and I now care more about myself. I have the greatest friends in the world, and I mean that 100%. I don't need her, and I never will. I realize that now.

I s there a possibility I could get back with him? I know you could kill me right now for asking but I am so hurt and I miss I'm and love him I just want to know, but you probably don't know either

There is always a possibility. Always. I can't stress enough that certain situations make you who you are. My break up has turned me into an incredible person, with even more change to come. I really NEED you to understand that by going through this you become sooo much better. It is in turmoil that we find out who we really are. Don't be afraid the dark times... cause without the bitter, life just ain't as sweet!

Also, I am only a year older than you are. I am not all knowing or some sort of relationship expert. I am going through your situation, just further along. That is the only reason I sound 'smart' right now.