Yes, the issue went far from where it needed to be. This was not intended to be an issue between Talaniman and myself, however it has. I still see some valuable comments here none the less. It may be my error in even angaging Talaniman, who's advice I have at this point at least made clear that I do not want. Talaniman is an advisor on this site, and has the right to be. Regardless on this issue, I wanted opinions, and mainly those from people who have been in this situation before. Those who did give their opinions from this standpoint I greatly appreciate. I've said what I felt towards Talaniman, just as he has toward me. Name calling took place on both ends, regardless to who started them. When you put "you" before an adjectvie it can become name calling. Regardless this is Talanimans style of giving advice. It is not even that serious, that's the point...
If anyone has any other points of view to share, or experiences with their partners who put them in a similar situation, please feel free to contribute.
Thanks!