That why I am big on coping and healing so you can realistically see what a great time you can have being single, and free to date whom you want, or do whatever you feel like.
Sho me a single person that doesn't love being single, and I'll show you a person that doesn't love themselves enough. Confidence, in a man/woman is very attractive.

I have Accepted, and am officially doing me

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Good for you on getting out again. Just don't get too serious over someone else on your 'rebound' stage. You will be going through a roller-coaster but will get our support no matter how long it takes. Time is a key here and you don't have to rush things. Being alone for a while might just help you in not being needy and making better choices in the future.

Good luck,and stay with us.

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Keep strong A.J and guess what,
You're way better than her!
Tell her Viv told you so :)

Well it has been 2 days. She called today (did not answer) and did not leave a message. I have the power. If she wants to come back she will have to BEG. If she doesn't Oh well, her loss. Yea I miss her sometimes, but I reflected our relationship, and she put me through pure hell. She is going to have to work harder than ever to get me back. Many good memories but ebdless heartbreak, Like I said " I have accepted, and am officialy doing me". Im in control now. If she wants me she is going to have to play by my rules. No More mister nice guy.

Well, no mister "doormat guy" I agree with, you shouldn't let her chase away Mr Nice Guy if that's who you want to be.

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Well it has been 2 days. she called today (did not answer) and did not leave a message. I have the power. If she wants to come back she will have to BEG. If she doesnt Oh well, her loss. yea i miss her sometimes, but i reflected our relationship, and she put me through pure hell. She is gonna have to work harder than ever to get me back. Many good memories but ebdless heartbreak, Like i said " I have accepted, and am officialy doing me". Im in control now. If she wants me she is going to have to play by my rules. No More mister nice guy.

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Same idea as me.

If my ex called me to see how I'm doing, I'll talk with her.

If she asks me to take her back, she's going to work on gaining back my trust, feelings etc.

Always go into an old situation with eyes wide open. Some problems may rise back up and that will kill any hopes.

But with that being said, don't hold out hope she is coming back, chances aren't in your favor. Life is short, make mistakes, have fun and enjoy this short life.

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Always go into an old situation with eyes wide open. Some problems may rise back up and that will kill any hopes.

But with that being said, don't hold out hope she is coming back, chances aren't in your favor. Life is short, make mistakes, have fun and enjoy this short life.

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True.

I sort of regret losing my virginity to my ex =/
Maybe. Maybe not.

Rome,

I agree with you. When they come back, its rarely the way you intend it to be. Unless some serious work (which requires serious time) has been done on both sides, the same problems will plague you over and over. No time for that!

hjpan,

I don't think that you have truly come to grips with the fact that it is over. You need to get to a place where you can look back, smile on what you had, miss what you had, but know it had to end and know that it is over. You will then know you need to move on, and get better being you.

I hate to say it bud, but you need to let go. It's over, and you are the only one holding you back now.

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hjpan,

I don't think that you have truly come to grips with the fact that it is over. You need to get to a place where you can look back, smile on what you had, miss what you had, but know it had to end and know that it is over. You will then know you need to move on, and get better being you.

I hate to say it bud, but you need to let go. It's over, and you are the only one holding you back now.

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Ok~

I understand.

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I understand.

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If you plan on joining the military, talk to people who YOU personally know and ask about the situation.

For me, I have talked to a friend who has been in the Army since 1989.
He gave me a lot of information that recruiters DO NOT tell you~

if you want to enlist, PM me & I'll answer any questions.

I am looking forward to enlist.

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If you plan on joining the military, talk to people who YOU personally know and ask about the situation.

For me, I have talked to a friend who has been in the Army since 1989.
He gave me a lot of information that recruiters DO NOT tell you~

if you want to enlist, PM me & I'll answer any questions.

I am looking forward to enlist.

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Oh no I don't want to do that I was just saying I understand what bird man was saying.

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Oh no i dont want to do that i was just saying i understand what bird man was saying.

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Oh OK.. LoL

Well today was kind of a weird day. She contacted me and I did answer. She called a couple dryas ago and I responded to her today. When I contacted her I said "Wassup" She replied "At my sisters wedding". Then a couple minuetes later she text back, " wassup" I reply " nothing" she then replys " So what have you been up to?" I reply " living life, you called a couple days ago, what was up?" she replies " I wanted to know about my college and transcrpit information" ( she should already know that by now) " I then i reply " did you get it situated? She replies "yes" Then I cut it by replying "Good. Well got to go, tell you sis i said congrats" She then replies "K". And that's it. Just a update of my situation. That's it.

That sounds relatively harmless, but you need to make sure you don't get carried away. No doubt your mind is still fragile and wouldn't take much to set you back into the tears and worrying stage...

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Well today was kind of a weird day. She contacted me and i did answer. she called a couple dyas ago and i responded to her today. when i contacted her i said "Wassup" She replied "At my sisters wedding". then a couple minuetes later she text back, " wassup" I reply " nothing" she then replys " So what have you been up to?" I reply " living life, you called a couple days ago, what was up?" she replies " I wanted to know about my college and transcrpit information" ( she should already know that by now) " I then i reply " did you get it situated? she replies "yes" Then i cut it by replying "Good. Well got to go, tell you sis i said congrats" She then replies "K". and thats it. just a update of my situation. thats it.

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Looks like she wants a "friendly truce"

Well today was it, I told her that " we could not be cool, or be friends any longer " she said " ok, thank you for letting me know " I said "no problem". Guys I think she is gone for good. I feel kind of good and bad at the same time. I feel like she doesn't care at all. I mean how can a year just be pushed away like a snap of a finger. I treated her like a queen, and she told me her self that she had never had anyone like me before, and that she prayed for someone like me? Weird. At least I am not her little drag along buddy. But damn, she gave up quick as hell. I took her from her lowest times and stood by her side for a year for her. All I asked from her was her trust and her love, that's it.by the way today is her birthday. It was hard being her friend, she is highly attractive and she has allot of guy friends. It was hurting me more being "cool" with her.it's just amazing how quickly she gave up on us. No fight what so ever. Like she showed no remorse.