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I still think a garlic necklace and a silver bullet would do wonders, Chris.
Seriously, maybe consider making new friends - ones that have no ties or clue or knowledge of your ex girlfriend. Ones that cannot be played, ones she does not know of and will never ever know of - because you are not going to broadcast that to any of your friends and relatives. They all seem to be putty in this girl's hands.
Are you able to consider even moving to another location?
Moving to another location because of a woman is a bit extreme in my opinion. Stand your ground, but make new friends.
A new circle of friends may be the challenge you need to help broaden your horizons.
I know moving to another location can be thought of as extreme but this guy is incapable of maintaining his boundaries right now.
Maybe a vacation from your friends, will help you regroup.
OK, I'm a little rested up now.
To begin with, I think it is high time for you to find a strong woman friend, not necessarily intimate, but one that is willing to stand by you and help you get through this.
Second, you need to be around town and the family with this woman, and have her do most of the 'talking' have her literally indicate that you belong to her... Do you think you can find a woman friend who would go through this with you?
Since you seem too darned weak to fight off that demon yourself, you will need her to do most of the exorsizing for you. Tell her you need help with this 'stalker'.
You don't have to move out of our town or give up your friends. Just make sure they all know that you plan on staying and that you will not give an inch.
Change your email address and share it only with those who you want. It sounds drastic, but what you are going through is also drastic to the point where your life is upside down and it's high time you take charge again.
If and when 'she' shows up anywhere around you, turn around and let your 'new gal' take charge - women can be very threatening toward each other and your new gal will win - if she plays her role right.
You have gone through enough with this 'lady' and it is high time that you get rid of any notion that you might eventually get back together and actually be happy - she will ride all over you and not let you have a minute of peace or freedom... so you have to fight a dirty fight with this one.
Believe me, if you have a female friend, she will be willing to play along, because all women like a challenge and she will act her best - I've done it myself and enjoyed every minute.
What Talaniman suggests is a good idea, because I think that most of your mutual friends are having a field day watching you and her - it sounds better than Sex and the City - more drama... Take a break from them and spend it with new friends that will help you get your life back.
This may sound strange to all, but when 'push comes to shove' what have you got to lose? So give it a try. It is better than what you are going through right now...
It is time to (s)hit, or get off the pot.
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While you are considering options, etc. consider visiting this site: Songs we sing Part 1 ( 1 2) , on Ask Me Help Desk (Home). Lots of really neat songs; I am enjoying them for my own part and bet you will too. Another thing that helps me is to get out and walk (or run, if you prefer). Go for about one hour; you will enjoy it.
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Originally Posted by George_1950
What is the website songs we sing?
Hey Okie,
Here is my new information. Saturday comes along 9am and my ex cause me because we had plans to go shopping when I answered I could tell she was all tired cause she got home from a club at 5am . OK No problem so I told her we do not have to go and that its not a big deal she told me she wanted to and that we can go another time if I would wait. So I said no I have to go today….We got into it a bit and she said that she does not think I can handle a freidship and my answer was No I do not want to be friends its all or nothing. She explained she does not want more then that and that she does not want to try us again. So I said that’s it do not call me text me forget I'm alive and I will do the same as I've been doing. After that I went to a mutual friends house to go shopping with that person she asked what happened and I told her and I also said after this conversation I do not want her name mentioned or to ever talk about her again. She agreed and said good because I rather not be put in the middle so we both had a understanding. She said you no you lucky you didn’t go with her shopping because yesterday when I was with your ex she told me use were going to go shopping and I told her it wasn’t a good idea but she said its fine because you both agreed it was only as friends. Now she told me that my ex goes I have a feeling chris is going to propose to me in a restaurant after we finish shopping her friends Angela answer her “ANNA who is my ex” Anna are you insaine why would he do that anna answer because I feel it. Angela then asks anna wait so U don’t want to date him at all right “anna” said no not a chance I'm sure I do not want to date him. So what are you going to do if he asks you to marry him. Anna answers well if the rock is big enough I would say yes. At that point her friend flips on her and tells her how insaine she is. Angels asks so if you won't date him why would you marry him she explains things would be different.
So all this is the girl I dated for 3 years
What gives
NC is a must now she is insaine
So I Decided she wants me around ebcause of whateva reasons but I no she does not want me I want her around because I'm insecure in my own ways I have a lot to offer good job car nice apartment I'm going to change myself grow and become more secure and will find someone who makes me happy... I can't deal with this baby ish I can't believe she even said that depends how big the rock is.
Well you've answered all your questions right there then haven't you. You don't need her anymore.Quote:
Originally Posted by chris28
I hope you finally say "good riddance".
I would consider this, "Self Help with music therapy": You are on the web site already: Home - Family & People - Relationships - Songs We Sing Part 1 Lots of great songs that will keep you busy for awhile.Quote:
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I can't believe what she's said,
Yes this is it... Why would anyone want to be with someone like that!!
I guess I was blinded by my fears of being single.
Chris,
Don't beat yourself up too bad. Its normal to go through what you are going through.
Me and my Ex haven't spoken in 4 months it being holiday season I have become a
partial wreck. The thing you have to value is u. If you value u you will see the light.
For me pride was an issue more then anything to get dumped for me is the worst
feeling in the world. You second guess everything and wonder what you could have done.
The answer is nothing. Remember you deserve better and the more time you waste
worrying about her and what she is doing the longer your healing will take.
Good Luck!
"You second guess everything and wonder what you could of done." Amen! Go No Contact, listen to good music, exercise, pray, get stronger with each day.
Do yourself a favor. Do nothing. If she is serious about you then make her know what's its like to be with out you. I know you may care and love her, but you need to let her miss you. Play it cool. Don't worry. Take a deep breath. If she is a crazy maniac then do the healthy thing and get away. I know us girls are crazy sometimes but also remember sometimes we love so much and we can't control our emotions. She may want to let you go, but love you too much to. I don't know the whole basis of what is going on but would like t. My screen name and my myspace is in my profil, please contact me and lets work this out!
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