Ask Me Help Desk - I'm the other girl

Sisterhood and womanhood is powerful. We can do so much more for each other if we respect each other. Men will cause us to loose sight of that if we let them.
This young lady is basically a child that was into some stuff that children just should not be into.
Let's give advice, but also show her how women do things, how strong sisterhood is.
I wish this young lady nothing but the best. I don't want to see Karma come back and bite her. I want to see her learn and grow. I want to think that one day she will be able to tell another young lady something some wise older women told her.

Okay, so now, even though I sounded like a "meanie" you see that we are beginning to get to the bottom of this.

Yeah, I may have sounded like a B***H, but sometimes the truth hurts and sometimes the truth does not get across unless you are smacked in the face with it.

While I may have hurt your feelings, and that was not really my intention, You are hurting others by your actions, and that IS your intention.

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Originally Posted by kittykatmeli

okay to tell you the truth i brought him back into my life because i was feeling lonely and depressed. and i'm starting to mess my freakin ex which i'm not supose to.

Girl, you don't even want to go back there. You need to leave guys alone until you get your head on straight. You do not need to be in a situation where you are being beat down. You don't deserve that.
Do you have hobbys or interest?

Yea I do but lately I don't want to do anything but sleep and wait for another for miserable day in my life.

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Originally Posted by kittykatmeli

yea i do but lately i dont wanna do anything but sleep and wait for another for miserable day in my life.

Then I think what you need to do is go and talk to someone. It's sound like depression, and there is help for that.
Please get yourself some help.

But I thought you were so happy?!

You see where I am going with this? I'm not truing to be mean, it's a form of "tough love" if you will.

Sometimes the truth has to be presented in a way you don't see or understand.

This relationship, or the other one, is not at all healthy. Cheating is NOT healthy.

Why do you think it necessary to have a man in your life? You don't. Learn to be healthy in your own skin before you can have a healthy relationship.

I sounds to me that you have been depressed for quite some time. You are "happy" being the mistress because you think that is all that you deserve. I will let you in on a secret. Men will give what you expect. If you don't think you are worthy of a decent boyfriend and not a fling, you will never have a decent boyfriend. You should end the relationship with Levi. It is not healthy and even if he does break it off with the girl, you will never be able to totally trust him. Also, it seems that there is a root cause... something before 15 that is causing all of this depression and low self esteem in your life. I would recommend getting into counseling to uncover it. Let yourself heal from that uncovering before you go into another relationship. If you ever want to be truly happy, the past must be dealt with first. You can do it!

Also, don't be so nasty with others. We are here on our spare time... we don't get paid for this. The least you can do is show respect. If you actually take the time to let the advice from others soak in, you can learn a great deal.

We're not being mean...

We are trying to make you see what you are doing, maybe even trying to force you to see, if you will. We have no intentions of being mean to you, but you definitely need to look into the mirror at yourself and see the wrong you have caused, you are going to break someone's heart just to be with this man!! I KNOW that if you and him got together it would not last, because you would be jealous of every woman that walks by him. So if a man has a girl, LEAVE HIM ALONE! I mean seriously, act a little mature, I have a 12 year old cousin that I would prefer to talk to more than you, not because you are a liar and a cheater, but just pure intellect..

The girl said she is sorry. Give her a break. No point in beating a dead horse.

I'm not being mean, but seriously... Sorry doesn't usually cut it, I mean if a guy took someone I loved and came up to me and said he was sorry, I would probably beat his...

This is a disturbed young lady, not some guy cheating on his wife or girl friend. Did you not read her background, see where she came from? I know that does not give her license to do wrong, but she is coming around, give her a break.

Okay, I am sorry.. I see where you are coming from, I didn't read everything she posted but if you have problems, then we are getting somewhere other than you cheating.. So I am sorry about what I posted.

First of all let me tell you that you sound like you don't really have much going for yourself and maybe you should focus on yourself for awhile instead of chasing another girls boyfriend. I was just cheated on by my boyfriend. I live with him and have a baby with him. You have absolutely no respect, dignity, or morals to have cheated on your boyfriend and then helped and lied for the other guy to cheat on a nice girl just because you needed to feel the love of a man. I feel sorry for girls like you. Get your own boyfriend. You never had this guy. You had a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend. Get over it and move on. If he would help you cheat, then cheat on his current girlfriend, then he would cheat on you too and if you think I don't know what I'm talking about you are really nieve. There are plenty of single men out there for a girl to go after someone she knows is in a relationship is just selfish and make you look trashy. This girl that my boyfriend cheated on me did exactly what you are doing to this girl. My boyfriend started hanging out with her as friends from school and she liked him the whole time she made moves on him. When me and him were having problems she manipulated him and they started sleeping together. He let her, he slept with her too. He is just as much to blame for that. But when I confronted her they hadn't even had sex yet she was just going after him and he was being dumb saying I was worried for nothing. Then this other girl decided that being the other girl wasn't good enough for her cause if he really loved me he wouldn't have cheated right? Well, the fact is that isn't true. He does love me and he feels like he has made a mistake. When this girl decided this she started telling me that he was talking bad about me, she started texting me non stop just talking about me and trying to come between us. She would lie to him and tell him I was harassing her and he would talk to her still even after I found out about them sleeping together he continued it and she kept harassing me. Then when I finally had enough of her drama I told him, me or her, tell her now or I'm leaving, he chose me and she is still trying to get him to leave me. If he really wanted to be with you he would leave his girlfriend. He's using you just like you used him. You are nothing more than trash and you need to learn to love yourself before you expect someone to love you. Even if they aren't meant to be what business is it of yours to go and break them up. You should be ashamed of yourself and I feel really bad for this girl and if I knew who she was I'd write her and warn her about your dumb slutty ! Go get your own life and back your butt up out of this girls! You can never be her and you will never have him the way you want just simply because of how your relationship started. If it was truly meant to be with you and him it would have already happened. Get over yourself and find something better to do with your time like perhaps a job or school. Stop sleeping around because people like you have no business procreating. :mad: