Says she loves me but is married
Hi:
Very complicated story so very brief. Ex-girlfriend whom I dated for 4 years in college and should've married. We were set, but I messed it up (not sexually, just stupid stuff like picking on her)--I hadn't really matured then. Went to grad. Schools and lost touch but I never stopped thinking over. She got married as she didn't hear from me and thought unresolvable differences. Now, 6 years later, she admits she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life with a guy 15 years her senior. Never loved him and still doesn't. BUT, doesn't want to be the divorcer. Husband doesn't believe in divorce... except for adultery. Knows of affair, but she hasn't told him details. This is husband's 2nd wife (first wife had affair and divorced him) and he married only for companionship. Marriage counseling: Failed as husband not interested. Affair keeps going on with no end. Says we'll be together... she's even going to counseling to get help to get out. Q is this: If I end it how likely is she to realize how much she misses me and divorces him? Or is it unlikely? Can't go forward, can't go back. Stuck. She's the one.