Ask Me Help Desk - Will he come back

The only thing you really can go by is what made you leave him?
IF he wasn't into porn during the time you were together but was before and after he could just be using the porn as a 'replacement' for what he doesn't have. Problem is you can not be sure that if you got back together he would be willing to give it up again for sure.
If your instincts and lifestyle and your past history with him leaves you feeling in the negative about it then don't get back together.

Thank you to all for so much of your help..

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He tells me I am hot, lol.. what do I do?

You do nothing, since it didn't work before and nothing has changed. Live your own life and let him live his.

You already know what the score is with him, so keep an emotional distance.

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Originally Posted by 21boat

real HOT to me. I also make sure she knows that an she is No in our life and bedroom. That still doesn't mean I can't get excited looking at another attractive person. Obsessed with it Can be really relative especially to an old fashion gal. Really sit down and say your feelings and where you stand and hopefully he will to. Get into it. maybe there is a middle or not for you both. I hear a lot of women complain about porn and sometimes for good reason. But guess what. I could easily say a woman gets dressed up to look attractive and actually puts on makeup for what?! A sexy bathing suit for what?! thats two little pieces of cloth to porn. see the point. Our forefathers would look at your beaches and say the devil is here and thats PORN to them. It all relative There is nothing wrong with LOOKING at a naked beautiful body look at our public statues. So you need to find out if you think its normal or not for you. P.S. be careful of S.T.D.

I have always found that what men find attractive or sexy is not what women think attracts them. When we first met I was always carefully made up, hair combed, high heels because he was considerably taller than I am.

Then I found out that he loved the look, first thing in the AM, no makeup, "bed head" (as he kindly described a long, tangled jumble) - or jeans, a t shirt, sneakers and a baseball cap with my ponytail hanging out of the back of the cap.

More women should ask "their" men - and listen to what they say.

(And as far as looking at other men/women - you're in a committed relationship. You aren't dead.)

Guy sounds like an , u should definitely not bother trying to talk to him again, friends are another story, if you know for sure they are talking about you to him then yes ditch them too.

I don't understand why you think the guy sounds evil or something. It is his business to move on and his right to move on. This is what happens after break ups. It sucks, but it is life. People have every right to do whatever they want when you aren't together anymore. Maybe he is needy and cannot handle being alone, who knows, but does it matter?

You two don't owe each other anything. You are as free to do whatever you want as he is. Forget the friends thing and just get your own life together. I am sure he didn't forget about you, but this is how he copes with loss. Everyone is different.