Yea that's true. Im going to do that. But she did ME the favor by changing her number, which was kindve dumb when I still have her job number, but I won't call

Yeah I need to get through this... Now when u realize they changed their number, THEN it REALLY hits you!

I really can't believe I am still reading this.

Okay Doug, here's the deal, the real deal.

She changed her number, she's done. Leave her alone, especially at work.

She has access to your bank account number. Change accounts.

She has your SSN, alert the credit bureaus.

You, on the other hand, have some serious issues that only a professional can help you with.

We have seen it here before.

That's why I said I won't call her. I explained earlier that I NEVER CALL HER ANYMORE. She calls me. But she changed her number so she won't be TEMPTED to call me because she said she is WEAK


And why would U say I have serious issues?? Please Explain?

Good, so don't call her.

She said she is WEAK huh? Could she be weak for your money?

Dude, just protect yourself. I'd hate to see you back in a few months cause she ruined you and your credit.

Did you read any of the last two pages?

With this person the last thing I'm worried about is the credit. I know this all to well. She is VERY religious, although I will still put an alert on file. It just now hit HARD when she changed her number

This is my 2nd Day of no contact and althouh she did my wrong, I had trouble sleeping last night, was dreaming about her, and cried in my sleep. No contact is hard EVEN if you were wronged. Hoping this is normal

Absolutely normal, just be strong and keep it up.

Thanks capuchin I will. Trying to keep my mind occupied and busy but night time during sleep sucks, and early in the morning. Would you suggest anything?

Get a routine at night and get up promptly in the morning, and have a routine that you have to focus on. Regular exercise will also help you fall asleep more readily, and you won't think of her as much, as it takes time to reprogram yourself.

Doug its been 6 months since she dumped me, Although I still think of her when I go to bed those dreams do fade away. Instead of 5-6 dreams every night its down to about 3-4 a week now. But your in the first stage and once you let go it gets easier. It took me about 4 months to start feeling good and about 5 months in I wasn't thinking of her 24/7. Now 6 months in I think of her when I decide. It's a lot eaiser to think of other things now then her.

Ok thank you for that post. Yeah my dreams have been wild like happy dreams of us getting along... couldve been the alcohol before sleeping to. I use that t put me to sleep

Will I get over her if I start a new relationship with this girl I was kindve talking to while with her? And also will sex flings help?

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will i get over her if i start a new relationship with this girl i was kindve talkin to while with her? and also will sex flings help?

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Maybe. But you will more then likely just end up hurting a bunch of people along the way and that's never okay.

Will I don't thing flings will hurt. I mean I haven't heard from my ex since Tuesday. So thank goodness. That's good.


A firend of mine said "ok she got made because another girl called u, and broke your phone...THATS PASSION", and then a week later she changes her number... and you don't thnk she will call you again? Haha are you serious"



What do you think about that? And I know you may say who cares, but just asking for an opinion

I think you need to stop thinking about her. You need to tell your friends there is a moratorium on the ex. You do not need to hear her comings and goings nor does she need to hear yours.

Are you counseling? This relationship was/is EXTREMELY unhealthy.

I feel likei messed it up because I was being verbally abusive at times when she pissed me off.

But did you suck $170,000 out of her? No you didn't. Stop buying your women. Find out why you need the need to spend money to please a woman. Are you trying to get a girl that's... how to put this gently... slightly beyond your level? Is low self-esteem an issue here?

This is why I'm saying you need some professional counseling. This is something you need to do immediately. You clearly have no self esteem. A healthy person would not allow this kind of treatment from someone else. A healthy person would not turn it on themselves when its pretty obvious to us that HER behavior is what the problem is. The fact that your doormat doesn't help matters. Which is why I'm recommending counseling. You need to figure out what is going on with you that makes you feel that you have to buy someone and why you such bad feelings towards yourself.

I would tell your friends not to bring her up. Again 6 months in my dad said he saw my ex and something triggered me off. That was a week ago. I'm slowly getting back to where I was before he mentioned her. Your in denial about things that is why you feel like you messed up. In the beginning I blamed myself for her breaking up with me. When you start to heal you won't be blaming yourself. You will see her for what she is. As I see mine for what she was. And trust me you don't want to know anything about your ex. Sometimes it's better not too know what an ex is up to.