Very, very different thing there.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
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Very, very different thing there.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
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Originally Posted by kp2171
V ery different... I slapped my daughters boyfriend when she was in High School. She had broken up and he was stalking her. She tried to get into her car and he grabbed her arm. Left a bruise. I went to where he worked and slapped him HARD. My husband was in San Fransisco and wanted to leave a project he was on. The boy moved away a short while after.:mad:
Sneezy, that sounds like my younger cousin when he was a child. He eventually outgrew the behavior after he got into some trouble he couldn't pin on anyone else.
The next three weeks should be fun. :rolleyes:
Good luck seeing each other when you can. :)
Yep. I think I got a good grasp at things. So far, she's holding firm, and if I know her well enough, she's pretty darn stubborn, so she won't budge.
Her family has... somewhat accepted that I'm here to stay in their daughter's life. The recent conversation that they had about me (yes, they had a family meeting about me) included ideas from her brother that Asian men beat their wives, and if anyone on this thread knows me, chances are, I'm more liable to get beaten than beat.
On one hand, that's an outrageous statement... on the other, at least they think I'm there to stay for good seeing as they're thinking about the future.
Her brother... is 20, and academically brilliant. Socially, not so much, but academically, a really smart kid. Graduated high school in 3 years, graduated college in 3 years... and is now attending med school. The kid has never left home, so the girlfriend is hoping that once the kid leaves home, he'll be better adjusted.
A friend of mine was being hassled by her exboyfriend... to the point she ended up with a bruise on her face. She insisted that she fell, and it all may have been true, but this guy had been bugging her/making her life miserable altogether, so a group of my friends and I flew 800 miles to pay him a visit. Not enough to put him in the hospital, but enough so that he knew not to contact her ever again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kitkat22
Um, aren't they Asian? Isn't he implying that his father beats his mother and that he would beat his wife? :rolleyes::)Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Hopefully they will be coming around to actually meeting you someday soon.
Sneezy... you're my kind of guy... I hope this girl knows how lucky she
Is. It will work out.
Yeah... but we're a different asian ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Cat1864
You mean that you're a different Asian. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
What? Aren't ALL Asians alike? (Been a while since I could fully use the sarcasm font. :) )Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Of course he, the brother, is the Chosen One so he gets to make the rules, right? :rolleyes::)
I am wondering if this incident might be opening mom and dad's eyes just a little bit to what type of son they have raised. The daughter may have had her moments (seems more understandable by the post), but the son's character flaws seem to be glowing nice and bright, IF they pay attention.
Cat, from what Sneezy has told me, I have a feeling that the parents are blind to their sons behavior, or looking the other way.
They'll be the parents that stand up for him in court saying "I had no idea he was like that. My baby boy is perfect and he couldn't have done the things he's being accused of", even with overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
They don't want to admit that a child of theirs could be so devious, so cruel, so deceptive. If they did admit it, they'd have to take responsibility for their part in it.
It's easier just to pretend he's perfect.
Just my opinion. ;)
Unfortunately, I agree. I do try to have hope, but it nearly always gets dashed when dealing with parents like these.:(Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
For the daughter's sake though, I will continue to try to have hope. :)
Alty you said it very well.
Yeah, it's OK. 3 more weeks, and I'm out of this popsicle stand.
Been keeping busy though... I've been studying ahead, cleaning my room 4 times a day, working out, practicing my sutures on oranges/banana peels, and ooh, working on my knife fighting skills. Why? No idea.
I wouldn't say that they're BLIND... he does get in trouble... they just don't punish him for his mistakes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
Example: recently, he left his e-mail wide open on his computer and his parents happened to walk by it and saw... naked pictures of a girl his parents are strongly against. He told them that they were no longer dating, and that he has no idea WHY she would send him these pictures. Parents simply had a chat with him, told him not to do things like that anymore. End of story.
... yeah... not too fair...
I admit that I'm not an expert on Asian parents, but I did work in a daycare for a year, and there were two Asian kids there, a girl and a boy. The girl was one year older than the boy, 8 and 7 years old.Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
The boy was a nightmare. He wouldn't listen, wouldn't behave. The little girl was a dream child. When the parents would come to pick them up we would mention that the son was misbehaving, causing trouble. They'd yell at the daughter, like it was her fault.
It was very obvious that the boy meant more to them than the girl. They once told me that after having their daughter the reason they tried again so soon was because they couldn't live without a son. She was a mistake, she should have been a boy.
I'm not saying that your gf's parents are like that, or that she means nothing to them, but it sounds like the son only gets a talking to whenever he does something wrong, and when the girlfriend does something minor, they throw the book at her.
Not fair at all.
Yep. Welcome to Asian prejudice. Every once in a while, you'll hear about an Asian family burying/drowning/killing their daughter because they wanted a son instead.
:eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Urban legends. I'm going to choose to believe that's not true. Welcome to my rose colored world. It's pretty here! :cool:
Her brother sounds like someone who is very troubled. His obsession with his sister is very disturbing to me.
Furthermore, as he's very accomplished academically, the parents have very little leverage when they give him a lecture. So a simple: "Don't do that again" speech sounds appropriate.
Relatively speaking (relative to her brother), your girlfriend is the one who is struggling, which is why it's easier to give her unfair lectures.
Maybe he will be different when he moves out. Maybe things will be different when she moves out. Maybe things will be different when either of them starts working. Or things could stay the same for a very long time. Who knows?
Time will tell what will happen. In the end, you're better off preparing for both scenarios. It's one thing to live in a world thinking that people can change. But realistically speaking, people don't change too much when they're already in their 20s.
I agree with I Wish. Yes, her mother even notices that the brother is a bit too obsessive with her, but she sees that it's not doing her much harm, so she lets it go.
Time will tell. Until then, I'm here to stay.
You're a good man, Sneezy. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Update.
I have 1.5 weeks left. We made it!
Well... we'll see what happens in the upcoming week, haha.
Her brother leaves for med school on Monday, and her last day at work is Monday as well, so hopefully, this means that we'll get to spend more time together without looking over our shoulders. Literally, while driving, she'll look in her rear view mirror to see if anyone's following.
Some government agency should look into hiring me, as I've learned to now detect being followed/watched, can remember up to 6 - 7 license plates outside a parking structure at a quick glance, and can find secret hiding places. Yes. CIA, I'm ready for you.
Unfortunately, it had to come to that, looking over your shoulder half the time. But you've done well Sneezy!
I would say that you've become a stronger couple if you can really overcome all these obstacles. So take it as a blessing in disguise!
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm leaving in less than 12 hours.
(insert high school girl giggling) OMG OMG OMG
We thought we'd be out of the woods by now, but nono, fate said no. We were supposed to rent a car together to go to the airport together... but no. Her parents decided they wanted to drive her. HAHAHA... such is life. It's all right though, this gives me time to run some errands... although, renting the car on my own is a bit rough on the broke med student.
Somewhere, some government search bot just made a file with your sitename on it.Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
You're such a good sport, Sneezy, and I truly do hope your girlfriend sees what a rare gem you are for hanging on:) I wish you luck in school and all the best... keep us posted:)
Crap. Now they have mine... ;)
Slap me, but you guys go to the same medical school right? So you can see each other all the time?
Yep!Quote:
Originally Posted by I wish
... I hope so, because this trip was NOT cheap. Still mad about all the money I spent here. GAR.Quote:
Originally Posted by Shadowburn
What did we do before computers?
Regular mail.
Telegram.
Pony express.
Smoke signal.
Point and UGG.
You forgot, communicate face to face.Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
We saw naked women from the PB mags under the mattresses of friends bigger brothers, we learned how to fix things by buying buddies a 12 pack and giving them dinner, and we played games with cards at tables with real people present.Quote:
Originally Posted by vanheart
Love the info off the internet. Its awesome.
Dislike people sitting in the same room focused on tabs and new posts and pms and ims and skype and crap.
Its awesome and its fubared.
I agree.
My brother (17 years old) and his friends will be sitting across from one another at a restaurant, texting one another.
I look at him, and say, "You DO realize that I PAY for your phone bill?"
He doesn't say one word. Doesn't even look at me. My phone goes "blip."
I look down, it says, "YEP."
I think that just cost me $0.10
"we saw naked women from the PB mags under the mattresses of friends bigger brothers, we learned how to fix things by buying buddies a 12 pack and giving them dinner, and we played games with cards at tables with real people present."
Ahh, the good old days...
People just don't know how to interact with people without having some sort of gadget to do it for them.
Not only is communication going downhill, if it hasn't already hit the bottom, but so has spelling, education, all because of texting, allowing children to have their cell phones at school, computers, you name it.
I agree with KP, love that I have information at my fingertips. I remember when I met hubby, the actual night I met him, I gave him a ride to his house, he said something, it reminded me of a TV show, Designing Women. I could remember the names of 3 of the characters, but I couldn't remember the fourth to save my life and I couldn't let it go. The whole drive home I'm racking my brain trying to remember. He probably thought I was nuts, but it all worked out in the end. ;)
Nowadays I wouldn't have to remember, I'd just go home, Google "Designing Women" and voilą. All my questions answered, no more sleepless nights trying to remember things.
Why am I telling you all this?
Never mind. I guess I shouldn't complain, after all, we're all talking on an internet site. :rolleyes:
Yesterday, I googled "how to get your finger unstuck from your nose" with one hand.
Ah... technology...
You're so silly. Tis why I adore you.Quote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Ya, I said it, but it may be the beer talking. :o
::burp::
By the way, isn't it like 3am for you? Don't you need some sleep young man? Don't make me go all mom on your a$$.
Darwin rolls over in his graveQuote:
Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
Good thing it was just your nose...
Share that silliness with your girl.
Enjoy.
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