I'm wanting to call him first thing in the morning and have a professional talk with him.
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He explained that the adderall was for my ADD/ADHD
My wellbutrin was for my depression
And the lamictal for bipolar
I didn't oppose to her coming in so I guess he just figured he'd let her
He really just asks me how I'm feeling and gives me medicine usually. The appoinments are only about 20 minutes long
And your doctor didn't even suggest it, especially since that's what his health care center does?
If you are going off meds now, you definitely need to see a therapist/counselor at least once and maybe even twice a week. The meds only smooth out the wrinkles in your emotions and make you open to counseling. The counseling gives you handholds and footholds for everyday living.
Then talk to your doctor about this. He can recommend someone who has a sliding scale and an out-of-pocket price without copay and insurance coverage. I do this. Catholic Charities does it. Lutheran Social Services does it. We aren't in this for money, but want to help people who are honest with us about their financial situation.
You had a bad experience? What was it?
I didn't mean bad bad, but my first counselor was horrible. I sat there and got to listen to how all my problems in life were because I was fat and all this other stuff. Any time I tried to talk about something, she turned it into "my kid today (insert random stuff here)"
Okay, a counselor is not like putting on a glove. It's more like looking for a needle in a haystack. You have to find the right fit and it may take many before you do.
I'm not sure what that means.
You are the client. If you feel that the therapist is not doing what he should, please question it. Immediately! I tell my clients to stop me midsentence if they have to and object. (Actually, counselors do very little talking. My clients -- anyone's clients -- should do the majority of it. A counselor's main reason for being there is to listen and help them find their own path.)
So far the comments you have made about your therapists make them sound very unprofessional. I'd wonder about their credentials and training. Were they referrals from your doctor, and even at the same location?
The third is the one I just found out shouldn't be putting me on a med holiday
All of my councilors and my psychiatrist have talked more than I have in every session
The office itself was refferred to me by my pediatrician, who is very good. All three were in that office. They have degrees I know that
A therapist? Master's degree? PhD?
Like I said before, you are the client. If you feel that the therapist is not doing what he should, please question it. Immediately! This is not only your right, but your responsibility. The things you have said the counselors did with you were actually very unprofessional and definitely not any kind of therapy.Quote:
all of my councilors and my psychiatrist have talked more than I have in every session
Degrees in what? Social work? PhD?Quote:
They have degrees I know that
An MD = medical doctor -- a general practitioner or has any kind of specialty for which he would have gone to school longer (orthopedic doctor, psychiatrist, medical examiner, brain surgeon, gastroenterologist, etc.).
A PhD = doctor of philosophy -- perhaps does research of some kind (psychology, food science, animal husbandry, education, library science), may teach in a university/college setting, may counsel/supervise in a clinical setting.
Only a medical doctor (MD) can legally write prescriptions and control a patient's meds.
I would like to remind everyone of this topic- given my previously stated circumstances, is it really all that wrong to be obedient
Yes, because then you lose who you are.
You had said in your original post, "when a female loves a male, she completely submits to him in every way and he is her superior." No. The correct way is this: "when a male and female truly love each other, she completely submits to him in every way and he to her." The Bible says they become as one flesh.
I haven't forgotten the other topics. :)
You needed to hear about the medical issues because they can play a large part in what you think is going on in your brain. I think you really do need a good counselor who you can trust and be open with in person about everything you have said here. I think you need more people that you can truly trust.
Being obedient is what you want a dog or child to be. You are neither.
I am concerned that you are engaged at 17 years of age and that you place so much of yourself in this person's hands. You have been through a lot and I know you are wanting the stability that you think you have found. I don't think I have seen how old your fiancé is. Does he really understand the amount of responsibility you are putting on him? Do you?
That may be well and good for young people in love now, but as you grow, and learn, and change, so will your attitude. So will his. The realities of life for adults is much different at 20, than at 16.
Even more so at 25. Lets be real, how many young loves stay that way forever? Its easy now with hardly any real life pressures, to be, and act certain ways and enjoy it. But forever? Hardly any of us escape the need to make adjustments in our adult life, where love doesn't pay the rent, or change diapers.
Not trying to change your mind, just trying to make you aware of the coming changes.
I am sorry but I think that you have gotten some sound advice her to see a counselor and try to work through some of your issues.
Do you really believe the stuff you are saying??? 'a pleased master'??? That is not what a husband is, not in any country or culture! A true marriage, a true love does not have a inferiority and superiority dynamic. Its two people coming together to love and support one another for life.
You really need to take the advice of the others seriously and go to see a counselor, really what have you got to lose if you are emotionally and mentally sound in thinking this way a professional will back you up. If not you may be able to learn something about yourself... which is always a good thing.
Best of Luck.
My fiancé used to be controlling to an extent, but stopped a couple months ago. He said it makes him feel guilty. I love it when he acts like how he did, why would he feel guilty?
He never used to have a problem with it. He would order me to do things with no problem. Now he says it makes him feel guilty. I asked him why, but all he said was "Drop it"
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