That's what he said.

Do u still feel like you want him back? I feel like that everyday!

Yes. I would love to have him back. I miss everything about him.
Its so hard.

Sigh
This really does suck!

I'm really struggling today, I am back to work after a week off and feel like crying
Really miss him

I hope work will be a distraction for you.
Are your workmates aware of the breakup?

Hello.

Its hard going back into the real world..

But if you look around,life goes on..

Your not going to heal overnight,but it will get better.

Get stuck into work.

Yeah I know I will! Just keep wondering if he is missing me as much!

We can't know that-generally Id say both people might miss their ex after a breakup but its not a given.
You will feel better with time and where you are now its about one day at the time until you get to a place where most days you ll be fine.

I know! I just wish I had a clue if he does or doesn't I guess I should assume he doesn't! Will that make it easier!

Yes it does make it easier if you can stop worrying about their thoughts or feelings.

The last time he text asking if it was a good idea for him to go back to uni to do nursing I said yes and we were texting back and forth about it.
Then he said no contact remember does this mean he is not missing me do you think?

Benson-it could mean that -it could mean a number of things-the thing is we can't read his mind.
Only he knows what he is thinking.

:) damn it! Sorry I'm expecting everyone to provide me with answers! And its not going to happen!

We want you to get better and get over this.
As you will-give it time.

Ahhhhhh I want to txt him something ridiculous like I miss u! But I cant

Dont-stay strong-switch your phone off.
Breaking NC only adds to your confusion.

I know this sounds a bit pathetic but his flatmate who I'm good friends txt earlier in the week so see how I was. Is it a bad idea to txt him to find out how the ex is getting on?

It s not a good idea to try to get any information from anyone close to an ex.
Whatever information you d be given would just make you overanalyse what they say.
Nc s a tough path but it works.

Yeah I just feel dead upset today and I was OK yesterday!

It's a bit of a rollercoaster the first couple of weeks. Just take it one day at the time.

I'm soooo close to txting him and asking if he is finding this hard! Ah

Phone a friend instead-you ll just end up waiting for a reply that might not happen and you ll feel worse.

I'm just going to watch TV or something,I think its because I had to pass his flat today on the way to the gym and saw that he was in! He lives really close to me!

Watching telly s good-and maybe take a different route to your gym next time?

If I did txt would I just end up looking desperate?

No contact Benson-for you so that you can heal. And keep as busy as you can.

No contact! I think the urge has passed a little

I didn't text lastnight! His best mates girlfriend text me to say sorry to here what happened and she does not know what to say! Which made me assume he is telling people its over
When we agreed nc for a month is he just saying that to keep me quiet?

Good morning I hope you re ok-its confusing when other people text or get in touch with whatever information or their opinion in this kind of situation.
It s left you with questions nobody can answer.
Generally speaking taking time out or going on a break are just another way of saying breaking up.
At the top of the relationship page here are the stickies with lots of good advice-have you read them?
Stay strong.

So no one knows if he is considering the months space or not only he knows type thing!
Yeah I have read them and there really good. Maybe I'm assuming my situation is different when its not!

That's the long and short of it,we never know what's going on in somebody else s mind or what they intend to do.
So any advice given is based on general experience and statistics.
Which is why I d say you treat this as a breakup and start healing from it.
Breakups hurt like h**l but we survive them by staying no contact and getting on with our own lives.
It takes time and patience.

Oh god I caved and txt I feel bad! He said he was getting by by keeping busy that he does miss me but he needs to be alone!
Feel like I have ruined everything now!

You must respect that wish.
If someone does nt want contact we can't force them.
Respect yourself and keep no contact.

I know I need to do you think I have ruined everything by txting today?

You have ruined nothing but the thought that false hope, has changed his mind. Now do what you KNOW YOU need to be doing.

If I'm honest I knew he would not want to get back. It was more whether or not he was missing me.
I seemed to think he was get over this easily. He has been dead cold with me and he explained that it's the only way he can deal with everything.
Its kind of put my mind at ease a little is that weird?
He is still wanting to do the one month thing which I think is OK but your right I need to look at it as a break up not a break.

The final text I sent said that I miss him (a bit silly I know) but that I'm happy to do the month thing but I am going to try and not think about us and although I hope we can sort things out
I know need to get on with things and not assume anything. Do you think that was OK?

He has not text back but I think but maybe that's cause there is nothing else to say?

Sorry if I'm annoying everyone with the way I go on! But I feel a bit better today

We want you to start healing from your breakup and as best you can stop worrying about what's going on in his mind.
By staying no contact this time you don't have to wonder about him getting back to you,and you don't have to live in false hope.
Keep busy and do things that take your mind off things.

I finally got round to cleaning the muck that's accumulated in my flat,
I read the sticky and apparently that's a good step! I am happy with the idea of no contact
I think if its meant to be it will and if not there is no way for me to control it
I just won't to concentrate on myself for now!

I hope this feeling does not fade! I'm sure ill have my set backs!

Jay jay - how are u keeping?