Great news-keep going.
I can only speak for myself but I'm good thanks. :-)
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Great news-keep going.
I can only speak for myself but I'm good thanks. :-)
That's good ~ these season time are rough... would you guys even mail a merry Christmas card or probably not.Quote:
Originally Posted by amicon
Confession- I have in the past, but did so out of courtesy, and care, but had no expectations of anything back, and honestly, never gave it a second thought. Hmm, never got anything back either. No biggie.
If its going to freak you out, one way or another, then don't do it. As fresh as your break up is, I wouldn't do it.
I'm really confused on that... I actually don't know how I'm going to react. I pretty much know she isn't coming back but I feel it be nice. But then again I did tell her we wouldn't talk again so I feel that would make it look like I don't stand by my word...Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman
I don't think it's a good idea.
Plus you you might be expecting something back.
I vote don't send.
That's enough to not send her anything.Quote:
then again I did tell her we wouldn't talk again so I feel that would make it look like I don't stand by my word...
" Say what you mean, and mean what you say!".
Yeah I'm not going to do it... thank guys
It!s for the best. It boils down to making a decision and sticking to it.
Yeah.. its this damn holiday seasoning... just feel like I'm going to be forgotten... just sucks
Try to have a good time with family and friends,and leave the past in the past.
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Originally Posted by amicon
Yeah I've been doing that... how did you deal with that thought of moving on and meeting someone else. I mean is it just time or just like someone else and just went with it. I mean I meet new pple and I wonder do I like this girl or am I just lonely and what if my ex comes bak or we bump into each other.
I'm struugling with the same thoughts Fear. I've been meeting new people and its just confusing me because I also wonder if I like the girl or if I'm just lonely. I know that if my ex came back I'd give it one more shot with her- this way if it still didn't work out at least I'd feel better in knowing that I tried. I'm meeting new girls and going on dates but end up blowing them all off after 1 date. I just don't want to settle- its so much better when you're with someone you adore and is 100% your type I realized. Are you the same way?
Took the words right from my mind... I was hoping you had a solution rather then joining me on this issue lolQuote:
Originally Posted by bjohnrupp
Only through experience will you learn that even being 100% compatible feelings can change. That's just life, and you will have a few of those experiences.
What you both have control over is to heal, and be ready for the next life challenge.
Hey, you tried already, and it simply didn't work out for whatever reason, so you deal with the fallout, and accept that its time for another way.
Acceptance of the facts is the key to moving along with your life. You will be stuck in the past until you do.
It would be a really simple thing to let go, if such intense feelings were not involved. You must accept them, and deal with them. That's a fact, also.
Make the decision to move ahead with your life, and a plan to stick to it.
Well I'm glad Tal was able to come up with an answer. One of the things that has helped me is knowing that there are so many other people that are going through the same thing and EVERYBODY struggles being dumped. If you're able to move on quickly without any hurt then you're either not human or simply weren't in love.Quote:
Originally Posted by fearxfear
I agree with that... I dun know.. I just feel some of the pple I meet... I can't figure if I like them or just trying to fill a void or am I thinking too much. Should you ever be friends with your ex... its just a big mess of emotions lolQuote:
Originally Posted by bjohnrupp
The confusion will pass in time, and you will be able to tell the difference.Quote:
I can't figure if I like them or just trying to fill a void or am I thinking too much. Should u ever be friends with your ex... its just a big mess of emotions lol
I just came back from my smoke break at work and there were about 5 older gentlemen, my buddies (40-50years old) that were talking about divorce and custody battles and all this jazz. I usually talk to them but this time I just listened. Be glad you weren't married. That's even worse.Quote:
Originally Posted by bjohnrupp
bjohnrupp - You are so right! Im in the boat but am slowly moving on, I know I can tell now. There are so many people that are going through the same thing and a lot worse
Fear- In the beginning of my breakup, a little over 2 months ago, I felt the same way you do and I still feel pain but I can tell my heart IS HEALING! I didn't call her for thanksgiving and Im not going to for Christmas either. Listen to these guys and get on with yourself. Every time you make any type of contact, you are resetting the healing process and only hurting yourself. Its like putting salt on an open wound. (she told me that one time during the breakup about something else though)
Stay strong and be cool homie. It does get better, I didn't believe it at first but I am starting to see the light. Today was the first day I woke up and she wasn't the first thing on my mind. Progress! You can do it!!
Hey guys... been some time! Just seeing how everyone is doing~ I for one have gotten better but I still think of her from time to time and I wonder if she ever thinks of me. I always wonder if I should ever reach out to her again. Do you guys ever come with these thoughts because you tell them to not contact us and pretty much the ball is in our court to reach back out to them? Ugh I can't wait till these holidays past!
No no no don't reach out to her. You have already said you have gotten better. Maybe your not 100% again but your better. You reach out to her and your going to fall back again. Don't do it. Stop thinking about it and keep going forward. If you talk to her once you will have to start all over again. Don't do that to yourself.
Im glad you're better-stay on the path and stay NC-ie no reaching out.
Sometimes I hate you guys... but I know your right dammit...
OH don't hate us fear. Just hearing the truth sucks. Knowing your doing better do you want to feel the pain again? No you don't.
One day soon you'll be able to use your experience to help others as best you can-thats a great thing.
I've been thinking along the same lines. The thing is, the ball is in our court when it comes to friendship. Important distinction. You're better off keeping NC and not worrying about whether the ex thinks about you or not.Quote:
Originally Posted by fearxfear
From time to time I wonder if I should reach out the ex too. However, do I really want to ruin all my progress? Not really. When you can truly say to yourself, I truly only want to be friends and nothing more. That is the time you can reach out to her. Looking for anything more than just friendship will set you up for another fall and that's something you really want to avoid. Trust me.
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