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Yeah this is the second or third dream I have had,I have not had many at all.
This one was him coming back telling me what a mistake he made (dream on ;-))
The first dream was a dream of us having a passionate night together , this
Happened the week before it did actually occur in August.
Ok I should do some work now, and escape from dreamland.
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Originally Posted by rol
I'm no dream analyser or dream meaning expert but maybe it was your brain trying to cope with the loss by giving your emotions a false hope.
I read 2 books at the beginning of the breakup, 'The Breakup Buddy' and 'How To Mend A Broken Heart'. I found Kelly Clarkson's album 'Breakaway' a great help, the songs on that are great. I hope this helps people )
To be honest the real step forward came when I deleted his mobile no almost 2 months ago, if I still had that in my phone it would drive me nuts! Luckily I don't know it, I could get it, as I have an address book for work contacts, but I haven't been tempted at all. Otherwise I may still have been in the trap of sending the odd text and then beating myself up because he didn't reply.
We need to think up something really exciting for us on Sundays!
I have not got to the point of deleting number(well I know it off by heart so no point ;-)) I also cannot delete all the beautiful emails he wrote.
I must try to get that album.
I like the coldplay x+y one also
I deleted her number after 1 week, but the problem is, I still remember it but I fight the urge to dial it or text it and I have not done so for over 6 weeks and I'm on week 10 now, so doing well.Quote:
Originally Posted by wap
I can't see myself contacting her now.. She wanted me out of her life, so I am giving her that. If she really wanted to speak to me, she would call or text or e-mail..
She has not, so she obviously does not want to give me the time of day! So be it, there has to be someone out there who would appreciate me for who I am.. Someone a bit more mature who has been through what she is going through..
As for Sundays, I have a suggestion.. Cake Baking LOL:D
The x+y album is good but it can be a little depressing and if you listen to the words of coldplay music, it usually has something to do with broken love.. It is touching though..Quote:
Originally Posted by rol
Oh, it is also good to delete the number to prevent drunk dialling. When I go out to friends and have a couple of beers, I leave my phone at home just in case. I am a mature person but when people drink they can do silly things they regret. I am not a heavy drinker but I know from speaking to others that if you are under the influence, you may be tempted to drunk dial... NOT GOOD!
At least if it is deleted, you will think twice even if you remember it.
Yeah all the songs are nearly about broken love.. guess that's why I like it thses days.
Also I'm a big fan of ben harper these days.
Lets talk about music instead ;-)
I have always been a big Beatles fan, I think they were the foundation for most rock bands out there today and a true inspiration!
Yeah let's bake cakes and listen to music instead he he !
Any updates?
Updates?Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
Well, I have made a lot of progress since I posted this thread. Actually, thanks for asking... I don't talk much about it these days, both in my life or on here at AMHD. It took a long time to get through it all and a lot of grieving, a lot of hard work to enable me to heal. It is now over 9 months since the breakup and of course no contact with her for over 8 months. I don't expect any either, we have both moved on, well I can't speak for her but I can speak for me and hand on heart I have completely let go and that was the hardest part, letting go. You just have to do that though, its tough but it is essential to enable you to move on.
I am at a stage now where I feel ready for another relationship although I am not really in any hurry to get into another one just yet. Being single again has opened up a window of opportunity. I learned a lot from this breakup, a lot about relationships, a lot about myself too and actually in a way, I was fortunate. These things often happen for a reason.
You never really think like that in the beginning though.
You won't feel bad forever, you will remember as I do, but you will heal in time. Take it from me, I am the sensitive type of guy and I got through it and I promise you that you will too.
I'm glad you said this because I am also very sensitive person when it come her. When I met ex I took things very slow with her because I knew deep down inside if she dumped me I would be devistated for a long, long time. With all the break ups she did with me, this is still very hurtful for me. I figure with all of them it would get easier when she broke up again. Apparently not.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
Well, I think with these kind of things, however hard, it is always important to step back and look at the bigger picture. When you put this into perspective there are many things in this world happening on a daily basis which far outweigh the problem of a broken heart. It does hurt and it is a big thing in your life and how you feel is important but in the big scheme of things, it is not as bad as you perceive it to be. Obviously at the beginning, it is the only thing you think about.Quote:
Originally Posted by SAB123
That is understandable.
Life must go on though, time does not wait for a broken heart but time will give the greatest medicine to heal a broken heart.
I stopped asking questions specifically on that thread in late November yes, because I had been given all the advice and support anyone could give and I wanted to act on that advice.Quote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
Actually, I did create a couple of other threads but these were general questions although had some relation to how I was feeling at the time. When you stop asking questions about your situation on AMHD, generally I believe it is an indication of positive progress. Coming to AMHD was one of the best things I did and I wish I did it initially 2 months prior to that but I was so confused and upset that asking for advice on a site like this was the last thing on my mind.
I don't really think I need to talk about it anymore because I am for the most part emotionally well again. I am happy to discuss it but there is no point on dwelling on the past.
I guarantee you that you will feel that way in time too about your situation.
Thank you Geoff! You are amazing! I can't wait to hear about your next love!
LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
Thanks..
I never thought of myself as amazing though.
My next love? No I can't wait for that one either but I'm going to have to.
Geoff, I just went back and reread all of this. Even though I knew about this and remember being a part of this thread going back and rereading it really hit home just how far you've come. Ironically enough I think the turning point can actually be pinpointed. November 6, 2006. The posts you wrote on that date were for the most part positive and the "ah ha" moments seemed to come on in those posts. Just reading it I could see a change taking place. As much as I was joking in Emo's thread the reality is if you want a role model or you want to get some strength then look no further then this thread. This man is living proof that you can come back and you can come back better then ever and make real life positive changes.
This might be the first time I disagree with you. This thread, and you road to where you are now is nothing short of amazing. Don't be bashfull now, you've earned the right to celebrate your success in this journey.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
Just want to echo Chuffs words Geoff. Ive been here from beginning to present of your little journey and even from your first post when you were obviously still in so much pain, you exuded a personality type and good guy attitude that just told most of us straight away that you would be fine. In fact although no doubt still a sad experience I'm sure you will agree that what it has done for you as far as growing as a person goes has been invaluable. I know that feeling myself.
And the best part is that your still here helping people with great advice and sympathetic words that most others can't offer.
Well done Geoff. I bet you had enough of us brown noses for one day so ill get back to trying to help those that need it. Cause you sure don't anymore.
Well done mate! Wish I was at your stage now... : (
Yeah Geoff is amazing! What a sweet guy.
This thread is amazing all right when you read back on it.
You have been an inspriation Geoff, it's great to see how far you've come and how much you have helped others heal, a sign of a wonderful person. X
Thank you all for your kind words. AMHD was part and parcel of my progress and I thank it and it's members for that. Funny, but I think that it partly helped me open my mind again.
+ I never banged on so much in years.
I didn't know we were helping you do that to... Wait I think bang means something different in the UK then it does in the US! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
I do quite like partaking in some banging myself on occasions!
What does banging on mean in the us then or does it depend which state you live in?Quote:
Originally Posted by chuff
I sense déjà vu.
I swear I had this conversation before with someone.
Bang means to have sex... Bang another girl... Banged her from the back... Catch my drift?
I suppose if I said I was banging more than I had ever in years, the brits might interpret that in a naughty brit way, but banging on is a bit more specific I suppose.
I know that... :pQuote:
Originally Posted by emopunk7
But Banging on does not mean that.
Banging on means well, banging on basically.
Like waffling on... Like when someone is talking non stop to themselves and think you are listening and then you (not you personally) rudely say "what are you banging on about?"
But you would not say "what are you banging?" because that would not make sense and would also be an intrusion of their privacy.
Besides, I suppose it should be if used in those terms, "who are you banging?" not what..
See, this is banging on.
But Chuff said that he thinks banging means something different in the states whether it be banging or to bang or banging on.
What am I banging on about :confused:
Yes! Geoff got lucky and is going to tell us all the details. Who did you bang and what did you bang her on?Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
The issues? Oh so you were banging an politician who was waffling on the issues.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
Someone talking non stop to themselves. Yeah it definitely was a politian.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
If you were banging rosie o'donnel what and not who would be an appropriate question.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
In the UK would you even know who that guy is?
Is it good for you, it is for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
Sounds like a lot of banging on about banging.Quote:
Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
Your case is very characteristic. Something similar happent to me too. Your woman is imature and most importanly UNSTABLE. Mabey you should see the signs before and break up with her earlier!
Women are supposed to be sensitive and emotional but in the end many times they are very cruel! Many of them treat men like rubish, don't care about their feelings and play with them! Then they come back feeling sorry and apologizing, but what for; the damage is done. They heart you so much. Are they worth your sympathy, so that to heart you again later??
Thanks for the reply on this Andreas_111Quote:
Originally Posted by Andreas_111
Yeah.. You are right, I did learn a lot from this one as I keep saying LOL. The only way is up and forward after something like that and I hope the other newbies on here remember that.
It is only oneself that can prevent oneself from making positive progress.
I learned that after all this, I had more control on the situation than I first thought. Talking about the actions I took to help me heal after the breakup.
That is so key - Unstable and immature. Without the experience though would we have learnt? No. We have to see it as a blessing in disguise, a chance to grow as a person.
Geoff,
I don't know how the heck I missed this thread. But so glad I spotted it eventually. I can not even begin to tell you how happy you make my heart for being the person you are. I am not sure why, but tears with a smile, just stream down my face. I have no idea why, and probably should keep it to myself. But you as a person, and all of your healing, make me so happy. You give me faith in people once again.
I am struggling so much trying to find the words that will capture what I am feeling and wish to express.
You are just a precious human being. Oh, and the lucky one that finds her way into your heart, is just that, one lucky young lady. She'll appear when the time is right.
(…………………………………………………….) Space for the words that I just can't seem to find.
My very best to you,
Allheart
p.s. I finally did get those brownies and they were awesome! They were from you... right? :eek:
Wow, this thread keeps popping up to haunt me time and time again, in a nice way.. LOL
Thank you Allheart for your kind words, I did not realise you missed the thread. It did float into the background after a while obviously because of the progress I was making.
That's really nice of you to say all those things Allheart. :)
Oh.. Yes, the brownies that Val gave me the recipe for. They were in a bottle. The wind must have changed direction a few times, that's why they took so long. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Allheart
Mmm brownies sounds good! Anywhere there is chocolate and here I am!
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