You will be able to make better decisions based on facts, and not just hurt feelings. You will be able to deal with yourself better, and what life throws at you, a be able to see your options, and opportunities, and make the right adjustments to achieve your own happiness..

Oh... nice answer. Thumbs up. :)

Oh yea when I share with my friends that I'm undergoing nc, most of them were clueless what I'm talking about, I mean about nc.

Is this nc rule new? Cause est. 7/10 people don't know about NC. Lol.

It is your own fault.Take it from me a guy just like you,that you got to listen what your girl want bro remember always listen and you r relationship will always last.depending on the girl

Its another way of saying leave her alone, and its been around forever, as that's what most people do after a break up.

The term might be newer, but the actions, of the plan, are not.

Hmm. OK. Yea that's true. But most people around me still like bother their ex or wtvr and to me is like they annoy them. So my thought is I'm ahead by going total nc. Lol.

Yes you are for sure.

And I suppose is a good thing for me to focus 100% on my new girl huh. :)

Your catching on quick, my friend. If you have a new girl, why even worry about the old one? Who has that kind of time on their hands?

True... yeah you're right. Just like erm... miss the old one abit that's all, but I think it will eventually be fine.

Sure you will, as it's a big job just paying attention to the one you have, and figuring her out. How are you going to know if she is worth all the emotional trouble she will cause you? Or you will cause her. You have to pay attention to make an informed decision. You may as well have fun doing it. There is no hurry you know.

You know tal, get to thin of it, you're right, no hurry. :)

But I think I just want to avoid any pain from my ex by still going NC, you know. Cause 2 reasons a person wants to communicate, one is to gain pleasure and the other is to avoid pain. Tell me if I'm wrong. So to be on the safe side I avoid it.

Currently, my ex is sort of confused maybe, with her status showing which it can't slip off my eyes. But oh well, I suppose that I should just remain NC. I do worry abit about her though.

EX?? I meant go slow with the new girl, the ex is the past, leave that alone, but deal with the present.

Confession- I worried about my exes too, wacky females!! That can't stop you though, from moving forward. She will figure it out in time.

What I meant was like you say not in a hurry with the current. But you know just emphasizing about my actions towards the ex.

For me I just hope my ex is doing fine. So what if the ex initiate contact?

You decide then if you want to talk to her or not. You have a girl right now so quit worrying about your ex. You are way too wrapped up in your ex to have another girl around in my opinion. Just enjoy and let the cards fall where they may.

Yea kc. Maybe. I think I should give another couple of weeks before going deep with my current one.

You should wait until your over your Ex , otherwise the new girl just becomes the Rebound.

Not fair on her!!

Relationships always end just remember there is always somebody else out there for you trust me

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You should wait until your over your Ex , otherwise the new girl just becomes the Rebound.

Not fair on her!!

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Yeah get to think of it, its unfair.

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Relationships always end just remember there is always somebody else out there for you trust me

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I know xemnas. :)

Hey I'm back. Ok so my school just ended summer holiday yesterday. Started school today. And my ex's birthday is tomorrow, 4th sept. I asked my mom what should I do, cause my sis and I got her a present. My mom told me to wish her happy birthday but allow my sis to pass her the presents. Is that a good idea? I need asap response! Quite short notice I know. Lol.

I wouldn't have anything to do with her birthday, period. No presents, no saying, "Happy Birthday," no nothing... that's just me though. Donate the gift to charity or something.

Same school for me lol. I should wish her just to be polite. And is my sis who is going to give it to her cause we share the same friends (for now).

OK just last 2 week, she was shouting at her Facebook status, "don't know whether to trust you or not; Overjoyed or cry in tears; Just really can't get you out of my mind".

Leave the FB stuff alone... it causes too much confusion. If you see her wish her a Happy B-Day and be on your way. Short and sweet, nothing more.

All right Kc. Thanks a lot. :)

You owe this girl nothing , least a Birthday present. Your minds playing tricks with you and it's just a subconscience effort at getting some sort of contact.

And stay away from Facebook!!!

Ok so everything went well today. All of a sudden during midnight about 12 right after I wished her through sms cause want to be one of the first ones to wish. She replied and asked me to go to Facebook to chat. She apologize and say this and that. I just treat it as a friendly gesture. She was very happy with the present that I gave her and she personally gave me a slice of her cake. But yeah that's my report for the happenings with her onher birthday today.

Everything went, to be honest, better then I thought.
So haha. God has answered my prayers. Praise the lord.

Guess this NC thing, gets me closer to my ex. Lol. We're cool with each other and like get along well now with minimal effort from my side. All I do is NC. Haha. :) Is amazing how things can change in such a short time.