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Originally Posted by Romefalls19
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Originally Posted by Romefalls19
The way your response was quoting me and then saying OK... Anyways, just came off rude to me. I apologize if I misread your post and took it the wrong way.
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Originally Posted by Romefalls19
Oh no!! I don't mean to be rude or anything.
When I mean "Ok..." was all my guy-friends were suggesting to effe some random girls and you said not to, so I'm taking your advise.
To me, I did not want to effe some random girls but I could not think of any reasons besides STDs and HIV/AIDs
Ha, my friends told me the same thing after me n my ex broke up.. Thankfully I didn't listen to them. Women don't like manwh*res
Ok,I'll be real,your girlfriend just needed time.If she didn't love you then why the heck your relationship lasted to damn long!And plus she said that you guys can still be friends and probably in the future you guys cab get together.Right now she needs you the most thats why she dumped you all of a sudden,she might have been caught up in some sort of promlem.Just hang on and wait for her.:D Tell me if anything works out the the future.:DDON'T GIVE UP!
What you are going through is exactly what I am going through... we were friends for almost 7 8 yrs and we entered into a relationship about an yr ago... then she all of a sudden wanted to break up and wanted to stay with me as a friend about 6 months ago... since it was the time of exams I didn't want her to break her head over this issue so I agreed and she said we ll be friends... I agreed to it... but trust me it only filled my head and heart with false hope that she ll come back... I kept on thinking that she ll come back to me and kept on thinking until 2 months ago... I got really frustrated and asked her when we are getting together... that was it... after that she has not spoken to me and she's going after another guy... she dumped me without giving me a reason... when we broke up 6 months ago she didn't give a reason as to why she's breaking up more or less she told she's not got the feelings for me...
For two months now I have been in heart break... same as your situation... not able to eat not able to sleep and sleeping when I get her thoughts... not able to go out not able to concentrate on my studies(the next week my exams are there and I have not even opened the books)... and she's there in my dreams EVERYDAY...
My suggestion is just move on... she's giving you a false hope possibly to just make you feel better by saying that we ll be friends
Make a wise decision and move on buddy...
I know its very difficult because even I am going through the same thing... its easier said that done... but the final truth is you have to move on... even I'm in the same situation as you are... even I am not able to move on but I know that's the way
We just have to accept it and that day when we accept it... we ll move on... even I'm not able to accept it ( all those dreams you built for her , all those intimate moments you have for her everything hurts so much... trust me buddy its hard as hell... am going through the same thing )... just got to accept it and move on...
This is one of the reasons I am enlisting in the Army.Quote:
Originally Posted by qetuo
I don't know if she has any problems but it does not make sense.Quote:
Originally Posted by GtzStarGyal
She said she does not love me anymore, but her mom said that she decided to stay at home and take online courses except move closer to me...
Want to ask you a question... are you able to accept it now??
Accept the break up?Quote:
Originally Posted by qetuo
Pretty much.
Accept the reasons behind?
No idea.
Well,the army is definitely going to take your mind off it.Quote:
Originally Posted by hjpan
However,I'm not sure that heartbrake is the best reason-if indeed there is such a thing-to join.I can assure you,there will be times you're going to feel sorry as hell for doing it.There will be times you'll be like "Oh,man how stupid am I to go through all this sh!t when I could have been having a good time back home.And all this over &$&&* (name of girl)".
The army is no joke.Do some serious thinking before making your mind up.
I am being serious...Quote:
Originally Posted by ka1111
[QUOTE=hjpan
Her mom said that she decided to stay at home and take online courses except move closer to me..
This statement let me knows that you have not accepting that's it over otherwise you would worry about what school she was suppose to attend or where she lives, do you think she cares about what's going on in your life?
You seem like my friend who recently got dumped, me and friends tell her the same thing everyday to where you just want to shake some sense into her because its gets ignoring sometime when you give people advice and they don't use it. Do u think your friends&family what to see you continue your life like this, the only thing your serious it seems to me is joining the army,
[QUOTE=liz28][QUOTE=hjpan
her mom said that she decided to stay at home and take online courses except move closer to me..
This statement let me knows that you have not accepting that's it over otherwise you would worry about what school she was suppose to attend or where she lives, do you think she cares about what's going on in your life?
You seem like my friend who recently got dumped, me and friends tell her the same thing everyday to where you just wanna shake some sense into her because its gets ignoring sometime when you give people advice and they dont use it. Do u think your friends&family what to see you continue your life like this, the only thing your serious it seems to me is joining the army,[/QUOTE]
Maybe because I'm still stuck in denial stage =/
Dang...
The urge to call my ex is really strong =/
I used to talk to her during night times D:
We'd talk about what we did today... and future plans...
*sigh*
*sigh*
Sometimes I still miss her... I have the urge to just call her up =/
You'll miss her forever. You'll feel urges your whole life... not just for her, lots of things that are bad for you.
You resist urges, ignore them, if they are dumb. Well, try to... hehe. (still remembers jumping off the barn at 13 years old... seemed smart at the time)
True...Quote:
Originally Posted by JBeaucaire
7 days of no contact~
I am struggling not to call her... the urge is pretty demanding
Your going struggle but your doing good, keep it up!
Thanks~Quote:
Originally Posted by liz28
Is it normal if my ex has a pic of me kissing her?
Yes. Stop analyzing her life.
We're just friends?Quote:
Originally Posted by JBeaucaire
OK, I've read this entire thread, and here's my 2 cents.
When I was in high school, I dated a guy who had been one of my close friends since first grade. We were just friggin peachy for 9 months, then he decided he didn't want to be with me anymore. We decided to be just friends again. That gave me false hope and for about 2 months, I clung to that hope. After that 2 months, I got pi$$ed at both him for giving me the false hope by saying he still loved me and at myself for allowing an indecisive man to rule my emotions. That was the day I began to build myself back up, after I sat at his house for 2 hours while he blew me off and was a complete a$$ to me because his friends were around. I don't need that. The only times he's called me after that was when I was dating my (now) husband. And he would be an a$$ over the phone, and expect me to take him seriously. These calls also caused problems in my relatuonship at the time.
I was really hurt when he dumped me, but guess what! I gpt over it! Now I'm happily married for going on 4 years and the only thinge I miss about the relationship wasour friendship, which is now gone. There are too many unsaid things between us to be friends.
Keep your head up, look ahead, never behind. Don't let this girl play you. Lose all contact, delete her webpages from your computer, lose her number, don't talk to her mom. Her loss, not yours. You'll find someone terrific, and by the time she realizes her mistake, it will be too late. Good luck to you, hun.
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Originally Posted by Chameleon
Thanks :)
I will take your advise in consideration
Just to let you let you know it does not matter that she have pictures of your when your was together. I still have cards and pictures of my exes. It just a keepsake. I really don't think you should be friends with her yet because your not over her and it seems that you think it still hope and your holding on to that, its very unhealthy.
I am slowly letting go of her... just like other members have said.. it's hard and time-consuming, but I need to "recover" for a bit.Quote:
Originally Posted by liz28
I'll assume you AREN'T asking me that as a question.Quote:
Originally Posted by hjpan
Ok, you're friends. Now stop analyzing her life (including the part where you were together and she took pictures of you two kissing).
Seriously. The only drama here is what you're adding your own mind. Be her friend. Put the rest of this stuff away.
HJ,
Your not just friends. She shouldn't be in your life. Trying to be friends with her is going to make your life miserable.
You want reality? Here:
You can't be friends with her for a while. You need to recover, you need to be healthy by yourself, as you can't be friends with someone that you love or someone that you are dependent on. Once you can recover, and be happy being by yourself, you can consider being friends with her. The problem is, at this point, you probably won't want to be friends with her anyway.
For now - cut her out of your life. No myspace, no Facebook, no phone calls, text messages, instant messages - NOTHING. For your own sake, trust me on this one. We've been there.
I will take that into my consideration as helpful adviseQuote:
Originally Posted by bigbird213
it's been a month since the dump...
I feel OK on certain days.. then down... then up =/
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