Yeah, my ex and I used to ride a lot on it... it's beautiful. I tried the big cruisers, and man those things are heavy... I like going into the corners fast and leaning down and all... with those things, you can't do any of it.

I also have a matching red/black helmet and jacket... man when I suit up :) I can't wait for it to warm up around here damn it.

GSXr's are the best... I'm not a fan of the Honda's or Kawasaki.

Having only been on a Ninja once with my ex, I really can't form an honest opinion. He had a cruiser as well and I was partial to that... Cruisers allow for more cuddles though.

Man... "I'm not afraid anymore!!!" (I felt the need for a Home Alone quote right then... )

Rah...

Anyway, biker boys...

Onward and Upward!!

I have been on a cruiser one time when I was like 9 or less. Never rode any other bike since then. I have always wanted a bike, couldn't get one with ex cause she felt it was to dangerous for me etc. So now I find myself with the opportunity, so ima take it :) plus sportsbikes just look so much more seksi then a cruiser. Imo of course.

So I have never been one of the types to spend a lot of time in front of a mirror. Only time I really ever do is to shave. For the most part I have been of the mind "I am what I am, don't like it I dont care." Which of course is a great outlook, that my ex kind of dented.

There were times in our relationship I hated the person I would see in the mirror. I never just saw myself and was like "wow this is me now." I still saw myself as immature and childish. I didn't really like it.

But yesterday, I was at a store waiting for the clerk to go get something, and saw myself in the window reflection, and for once in my life I think I liked and was proud of the person looking back. I am not perfect by far, but I feel like I'm coming into my own now.

And a few things that have helped my confidence lately... the nurses and techs and people at work keep complimenting me on diff stuff. And everyone seems more friendly to me. I went to a party Friday night since I managed to get out after 10 hours of working... my bro and cousin were there. And again more people(girls) all complimenting me and flirting and stuff. I had a great time till I went home and threw up on the floor lol. And for some reason I got the nick name mike, as in michael jackson... (I think its from my long hair, of which I don't know how many girls were running their fingers through.)

I haven't stopped thinking of my ex. But I've remembered so much that I had forgotten, that she did to hurt me. I have looked at her pic on my cell one (the only pic I have on it) only once in I don't know how long. I actually went out to eat with my family (in the past I would always blow them off to stay home) it was fun. We ate at a chinese restaurant, and when I looked at my fortune cookie I had to laugh.

"A journey of a thousand miles, must begin with a single step."

So I'm taking each step, and enjoying whatever happens when I do.

Oh and I found a really cool song, called "does that make me crazy" don't know exactly what its about but its upbeat and the chorus sounds like how I feel so its awesome lol. Now I will still bust out with tears, but at least I don't have to pull over the car or work myself till I pass out to stop or get my mind off whatever.

Anyway just thought id give an update on my journey. :)

Been reading this post for a while, but I honestly can't add much to it, as it seems to have been covered very well, by others who have posted. Glad your doing so well.

Awww, Delow! Sounds like you had an awesome weekend!

"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." How true is that? And, how appropriate. You're taking those steps... can't wait to see where you end up!

As much as an e-friend can be... I'm proud of you! :)

Thanks for the update on your journey. You da bomb, babe!

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Been reading this post for a while, but I honestly can't add much to it, as it seems to have been covered very well, by others who have posted. Glad your doing so well.

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Fortunatly I have gotten a lot of good advice, and it really helps just to voice all the thoughts in my head. It trully helps just to have people compliment you or like HC say they are proud of you. Don't hear that stuff often so this thread has been my own personal inspiration.

I guess atm I'm on a low, prob didn't help that my cousin(who was probably my biggest supporter in the beginning of all this) kind of got my in a bind financially so got to fix that. Then the fact that nights are so lonely. Meh.

I wrote a lot of poems along time ago, and maybe it was forshadowing because they all say it best how I feel now.
I wrote this one and its where I'm at tonight more or less... but tonight won't last forever.

Nights so lonely I could cry
Days so dark that I could die...
Feelings so strong that they hurt my soul
Indifference from friends that makes me cold
What I hold onto every night
Is the hope that ill be all right
And every morning I dread that day
Feeling my life is slipping away
I grab and hold but still it goes...
Its washed away to leave me exposed...
Friends and family, they don't see
What I'm feeling, what's wrong with me...
They say that they understand...
And they're doing the best they can
But what is really hurting me the most
Is not having someone to hold close...
Someone to love me for who I am.
And I try every day to do what I can
But I'm always left with nights so lonely I could cry
And days so dark I want to die.

A single step. Definitely words to live by. K now I got to go work out these thoughts I got.
I just burned me 2 cd's, one is all upbeat sad/inspirational songs, the other is just plain sad lol. Night everyone, go pats!

You need a cardio cd, too. All those good 90's (granted, CHEESY) heavy bass songs. Then go out and work out! I had to make on after a particularly bad breakup. Something about working out and heavy bass that helps "cleanse."

(Poor Brady!! Sooooo glad that last quarter was exciting... and the last 35 seconds... wow... )

I just didn't want the giants to win, they got lucky vs my pack >:). But you I'm feeling much better today, took your advice and made another cd lol. The weekend is usually the tougher part of my week, at work I don't have time to dwell to long.

Look what I found this morning... I LOVE it!! :)

"Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to stern resolve. He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind." ~Leonardo Da Vinci~

Amazing, isn't it?

Forgive my ignorance, HC... I do think this is a great thought... but I don't understand the part about "He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind..." Your thoughts?

Not ignorance at all, my friend. Every quote, verse, saying, story has a different meaning to each person who reads it.

For me, I think "He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind." talks about purpose.

I've always been fascinated with the stars. I have experienced some of my greatest memories when lying beneath a starry blanket. One of my favorite quotes is "The most tempestuous wind cannot disturb the quiet of the stars." The stars are a source of constant inspiration.

The whole "fixing on a star" is a very important part of my life. When I was a kid, my Dad and I would go camping once a month with this little YMCA group called Indian Princesses. It was a Dad/Daughter bonding thing. We lived in Michigan, so it was cold most of the months that we camped... we'd sit out by the fire with the other Dad's and Daughters and watch the stars come out. My Dad (who, by the way is my hero) and I would always find Orion and talk about it. Since those days, I have often found Orion with my Dad and remembered.

My Dad passed away from cancer four years ago. I remember one night, very close to the end, after leaving my Dad at the hospital for the night, I came home, parked my car, and burst into tears. I got out of my car and laid down on my driveway and found "our" Orion. And I started to "talk to Dad." Ever since then, whenever I see Orion in the night sky, I feel a special connection with my Dad and yes, I still "talk" to him while fixing on those stars.

So for me, when I fix my sights on that star, I will never lose sight of my hero, my inspiration, my guide. By doing so, I know that no matter what happens in life, I will always have that star.

When you fix your sites on a star, whatever it is - healing after a break up, going for a PhD (another star I've fixed my sight on!), finishing the day - whatever "star" you fix your sights on, if you truly focus your attention and drive upon that star, you will never change your mind.

You will go on into that successful life of pursuing your dream... your own star.

HC... thanks for the story and your take on the phrase. INSPIRING...
I have read some of your past... (being left at the altar... etc... etc... ) yet you seem SO PUT TOGETHER! How long were you a mess? You have come so far! (Was it long ago? )

I can only hope that I am where you are soon... Thank you again for being such an inspiration to me and others.

HistorianChick has a lot of thoughtful, purposeful insight into this. Listen to her and I think you'll learn your way soon enough.

Oh, Darlin, I've really only shared half of the icky stuff that have made me who I am!

How did I get "so put together?" One moment at a time.

I've always kept faithfully to the "ten minute rule." When you're going through the roller coaster of life, you need to have time to breathe... but sadly, once you finally think you're at a gentle part of the roller coaster, the bottom drops out and you're in a free fall (or a loop-dee-loop!) Basically, you must schedule "breather" times. I have gone with ten minutes a day.

I know that I have ten minutes (my drive home from work) to vent, scream, cry, RAH at the world, sing, go nuts, blubber, be the inner-depressed-self that we all have, pull my hair out, whatever. Some days, I literally live for those ten minutes. When I was going through my ex-fiasco and in the time that my Dad was sick, then after his funeral I took those ten minutes every day - I lived for them, I focused on them... BUT, by living for them, guess what happened?? The rest of my day was lived under the "I can make it til 5. I can do this. I can cry later."

Then, the day came when I didn't need the ten minutes. I sang along with the Goo-Goo Dolls on the way home, rather than mess up my eye makeup with tears! The next day, I needed it again. Recently, I've needed it. But only on some days.

Bottom line: I have learned to be content. I have learned to know that there is a plan, that I have a purpose, that my destiny is beautiful and bright. I have learned that I am the type of emotional woman that needs ten minutes every day (even if I don't use said minutes) to fall apart. Because when I allow myself that time, I know that I can make it through the day.

You have to live in the moment. Every moment is laced with shiny-potential (see my signature). Every day is a new chance to show the world what you can do. Every person is a potential friend/colleague/inspiration. Every struggle is just a chance to grow. Every rip in your broken heart will scab and make a pearl (if you haven't seen that post, let me know - I'll send you the link).

I'm a sucker for pearls. I have way too many. Because I've been hurt and wounded and left at the altar and passed-over and crushed and betrayed. BUT, hon, I've also been blessed beyond measure. I have friends. Family. A job. A beautiful past and a glorious future. I have me. My character. My personality. My likes and dislikes. Myself.

Annnnnd I rambled way too much! :) Hope this helped a tad! :) I'm a delightful tie-dye of life experiences... If I say so myself! ;)

All hail the 10 minute rule!

I can feel a copyright deal coming on, maybe a book deal?

Ya HC is great, and her advice is definitely worth listening too. But on the davinci quote my take on the last phrase is a little diff "he who is fixed to a star does not change his mind" to me is like if you focus on one thing you never experience everything else. You know?

Like if you dwell on an ex so much it rules your life, you miss the opportunities that life gives you. I don't know but HC's interpretation better.

See, this is why I love quotes. It translates into something different to everyone!

But, as you all already know, my perpetual-Barbie-girl-optimism colors my interpretation of all of life's events, no matter how dull and dreary. Consequently, I tend to apply quotes/stories/sayings on the positive side, glass-half-full end of the spectrum! :)

Although, yes Delow, I can totally see that application to the quote as well...

Ooo... BUT if you dwell on healing and moving on so much, no matter what the ex does it won't deter you from your goal...

:) either way it is a really inspirational quote. I had a tough night last night, so you brightened my day with that quote HC.

Aww... shucks. Thanks, Delow.

I love brightening people's days!

Glad it helped :)

HC

Have to spread the rep so can't give you a greenie for those 2 posts earlier , but as you always say to others... you DA BOMB girl :-)

Me. Da bomb... Coolness... :D

You guys are going to give me a big head...

Nothing I ever say is life-changing or bombastically awesome... its all just life experience for me. I'm so very thankful that it is helping you out a bit. You have no idea how cathartic this whole AMHD is to me, as well. Giving advice helps put things in perspective...

Like you're quote, "M" - "There's only one thing more painful than learning from experience, and that's not learning from experience!!" I've learned from my experiences!

I have to agree, this site is a big help. Just being able to ask questions,vent, and receive honest feedback, ideas, encouragment is a big help. And that quote, I read it any time I see you post, it's great.

So I finally got a car today (just a pos to get from point A to point B until I get my bike) which means I can go back to my apt, rather then stay at my parents. I haven't been to me and my cousins apartment since new years. So that sucked. I got the car today, my cousin informs me he is moving out. After 'losing' the rent money for this last month, and failing to mention he just didn't go to work for over a week (prob got fired)... so kind of had to dig deep to cover rent and bills etc while he partied. That sucked. But he is leaving so HOPEFULLY ill get what he owes, though I doubt it. At least I will have my apartment back, and I will have someone to be if I want to be alone.

So OK that's just what's up, now some philosophy on my part that I've come too.

Now this may make more sense to the younger generation (maybe) but Life is really like a good video game lol. (I use to be heavy gamer though not the nerdy type lol)

Now go with me, say I got some looong rpg game, takes a lot of time to do really well in the game you know? Well say I'm hours into it and I don't save my progress... and power goes out! Minus the cussing and screaming at the power, I lost EVERYTHING I had worked for. Albeit its just a game, still.

Now some people could say "scre-- this, im not playing anymore" and give up... they never get to see the end.

Me, I start over (and I'm very angry while I do that lol) but I quickly realize, that starting over I get much further, in a shorter amount of time. I do a lot better, because I already made the mistakes the first time around, saw what I needed and wanted, and what I needed to stay away from.

So at first I was angry, upset that I lost everything I had, and worked hard for...
In the end, I accomplish more, faster. I avoid mistakes I made. I do things I SHOULD have done. And I get to see the ending and feel that much more satisfied and content seeing as I worked hard, and didn't give up.

I thought that was a good analogy... or metaphor?

Basically it boils down to, learn from your mistakes... don't give up, and in the end its much sweeter when you don't.

(and remember to save)

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First I'd like to say I'm new to the site, and so I read the "what to expect when you get dumped" post. Very true, and I definatly understand. And i'm sorry this is so long... ended up venting some.

Now im a 23 year old guy, met my ex when I was a freshmen in HS. We met on Aol and chatted for 4 years before meeting. We met, fell in love and stayed together for 4 years and 8 months. It was a bumpy road, but it never mattered to me how bad it got because I loved her.

During our relationship I was not allowed to go out with friends, or have friends who were girls, was'nt alowed to watch movies with nudity or that show alot of female skin. Ya she was insecure, easily jealous etc. I never cheated, nor wanted to, loyalty is important to me. I may have lied about things here and there (mainly about watching movies that had nudity lol) But eventually just stopped lieing all together.

She would complain we never go out, but then if I'd offer to take her out she would say no because "there are other girls there i might check out" or "that movie has nudity or close to it" or we just didnt have the money because she job hopped for a few months and I had to break myself and borrow from parents to pay bills. All I could really do was watch law and order and play video games. Which she complained I played to much.

And she was a big stickler on being honest, fes up when you make mistakes or do something etc. Always worried I would find someone else prettier or whatever. Or cheat on her.

Well im sure by now you could guess what happened. This last October she wanted to go downtown to dinner for a bday for a girlfriend from work. Im like sure have a good time (I worked overnights at a hospital I couldnt go) well she texts me later askin if she could go bowling with her sis, im like sure. Well I happened to get off early, so i head to the bowling alley to suprise her. Not there. Next day I dont confront her, I hint at it and want to see if she would be honest. She wasn't. So I go online and i look up the clubs where I live.... and then look at the picture section for that particular day she was downtown. Low and behold she had a pic taken and didnt realize it.

So I did prob the worst and best thing, broke up with her the next day when she still wouldnt be honest. (oh and also saw she had been texting, and calling a new number on the cell bill) Well I come to find out through many sources, that she was cheating on me with a guy from work, went out with him that night, a day after we broke up she moved in with him, locked my mom on a 2nd story balcony while we were moving my stuff out, called cops on each other, flirted with cops with me right there. lol. wow. I take a second to look at all she has done and im like wow. All one week before my birthday, and 2 months before I was going to propose (on xmas eve). She has been living with him since.

I made a myspace, wrote in a notebook till I filled it, blogged a few times a day. My cousin moved in with me at my new apartment and I started partying and drinking (which I wasnt alowed to do either. And things were bad but not that bad. Then she made a myspace *groan* which sucked. I checked it every day for a week before I made myself not check it (was 2 months before I relapsed and checked it today) shouldnt have.

It has been 3 months yesterday since all this happened. And my mind says all that ^ but my heart loves her so much. She is the first thing I think of in the morning, last before bed, and always in my dreams (although my dreams never have us back together which is good... ) Everything in the city I live in reminds me of her. We did so much together. I hate watching tv and quit playing video games for 3 months before I finally picked up a control again. I started working out because I thought i was to skinny or whatever. Now I just work out when thinking of her gets bad (everyday) My heart hopes she will come back, or realize the mistakes she has made. My heart breaks seeing her holding someone new and being happy (her myspace)

And all the while my mind is saying, it's over, she isn't coming back, you need to remember the bad not the good so much. I know I'm not ready to date again, the few girls I've talked to just doesnt feel right (so we just friends) I know time will make things easier, lol I've given most the same advice I might get. I am smart and wise enough to know it isn't the end of my life. I know I may potentially meet someone new who makes me happy. And that I will stop feeling so hurt.

But then again, I have those feelings, where I know my life aint over, but the lifewith her is. and thats what mattered to me. I wanted to marry her. Good and bad. And she dropped me after so much like I was nothing.

So I read things like "what to do when you get dumped" and "what to expect" etc, i blog ALOT on myspace, and now im on here asking, what, i dont know. It feels good talking, and writing, and I didnt know what I was gonna write, but looks to me as all the reasons why it might have been a good thing.

But I miss her everyday. And I really do not know what to do. Because everything makes me think of her, or makes me sad. And I know im not the first or last to feel this way, but i just can't listen to my own advice i guess.

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Be a man , get a life , she was head wrecker , your well shot of her. Get on with it and grow up . Why you look for women online anyway . You can meet them everywhere ,bookshops ,walmart, burgerking,bars, grow up get out there ,move on.

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BE A MAN , GET A LIFE , SHE WAS HEAD WRECKER , YOUR WELL SHOT OF HER. GET ON WITH IT AND GROW UP . WHY YOU LOOK FOR WOMEN ONLINE ANYWAY . YOU CAN MEET THEM EVERYWHERE ,BOOKSHOPS ,WALMART, BURGERKING,BARS, GROW UP GET OUT THERE ,MOVE ON.

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Somebody woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning...

People deal with things differently... not everyone is the same. If we were, the world would be borinng and there would only be one kind of product.

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BE A MAN , GET A LIFE , SHE WAS HEAD WRECKER , YOUR WELL SHOT OF HER. GET ON WITH IT AND GROW UP . WHY YOU LOOK FOR WOMEN ONLINE ANYWAY . YOU CAN MEET THEM EVERYWHERE ,BOOKSHOPS ,WALMART, BURGERKING,BARS, GROW UP GET OUT THERE ,MOVE ON.

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While I agree she was a "head wrecker" I don't agree in any way that I wasn't being a man, I was just a stupid man in love. And I AM getting on with it, and I AM growing up. I wasn't LOOKING for girls online, I used AOL to talk to 'friends' I had from where I just moved from. SHE messaged me first. Anyway.

So you, thanks friend4u :) I thought maybe the younger generation could have something they might be more attuned to as advice. I just say same thing much smarter people have said, just with video games as an example :P

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So ya, thnx friend4u :) I thought maybe the younger generation could have something they might be more attuned to as advice. I just say same thing much smarter people have said, just with video games as an example :P

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Thanks Delow , and a good analogy too , I hope your not calling me old though :)

You wernt allowed go out with friends friends ,seems like she ran your life, you weren't a man in love you was aman being Controlled

Lol of course not friend4u :). And dlee889, I was a man who believed in compromise, I believed in understanding. She had personal issues, and insecurities I wasn't about to just drop her because of those, I would be a shallow person if I did. I DID stand up formyself at times, which is what we mostly ever fought about. She didn't "RUN" my life, and I wasn't being CONTROLLED. I am the one who ended it, as painful as it was. Not because of her insecurities or issues, but because she wouldn't compromise, she wouldn't work with me, and she was a lying hypocrite.

And don't get me wrong, I wasn't allowed to do a lot... but then I didn't CARE about those things. Turn my head during nudity in movies? Albeit kind of immature to have to, but do I care? How does it HURT ME to do it?

I CARED enough about her, to be understanding because Ya I wasn't perfect I did things just like her to hurt our trust (I never cheated or even close) so I was understanding, not controlled. I LOVE her and I wanted HER to be happy. Because if SHE was happy then I figured I would be to. But its all bittersweet.

I don't regret one thing I did OR didn't do. And I don't regret any of the decisions I made regarding her extreme jealousy andinsecurities. I did what I thought was best for the relationship at the time. I made that choice to go along with her.

So I will learn from what I did, I will learn from what she did, but I was ALWAYS in control of my own life. I was just trying to have her be APART of my life.

You tell me to grow up? Walk a mile in my shoes, before you JUDGE me.
I am open to critism, feedback, both constructive and destructive. But at least have experienced it, or know what your talking about if you are.

Thanks

Which is true... but honestly imo you never know someone is the wrong one, until they are. How could I have known what was going to happen? I am not going to go into any relationship thinking "this could happen, because she acts like this" or "she is going to hurt me bad because she does this" No one is perfect, I just got to be more careful.

She wanted instant gratification, I want long term happiness. So lesson learned I think.

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I'm liking your new-found philosophy, Delow.

Look at your original post title - Mind says this, heart says that... It has been really great to watch as your heart and your mind are becoming more "in-tune" with each other.

Keep it up. :)

Lol you I'm going on 5 months now, with alotta ups and downs, along the way. So I guess for me a month for each year is kind of accurate. Though I doubt I'm completely over her or satisfied (thus far) Im doing much better now then a month ago. (or more)

NC is a big help (and I don't have to worry about her trying to contact me)... my recent change of shift prevents me from seeing her when I drive to work like it was the first 2 months >.< And me using some willpower not to look at her facebook/myspace is really helping.

And keeping busy!

I am a big philosophier lol. And I love how you put that HC, about my original post and how now my heart and mind are becoming more intune... I guess in everything that's been going on it started happening without me noticing. ^^

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I'm liking your new-found philosphy, Delow.

Look at your original post title - Mind says this, heart says that... It has been really great to watch as your heart and your mind are becoming more "in-tune" with each other.

Keep it up. :)

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Had to spread the rep, as what you say is so true. As we spend years to know ourselves, what we want, how to get it, and what we can't do. The bottom line is to know ones self, very well. You are growing, Delow.

So in 3 days it will basically be 4 months since I broke up with my ex (and found out all she had been doing)

My first post here kind of explains where I was at around 3 months... multiply that going back each month to day one, and I think I have come a long way thanks to help on here.
I finally completed a small goal of mine, got my tattoo. Kanji for "sincere faithfulness"" or loyalty". A small goal but one I met.

My routine has basically been, get up at 12pm or 1pm... get ready and go to work at 2pm, get off work at 2am, play some halo with my dad if he's up, otherwise workout till 3am. And fall asleep listening to extremely sad music lol. Repeat. Weekend I go out with friends, hang out with family, what ever comes up.

Ive kept myself from checking on ex :) or even bad mouthing her lol. I feel confident in my life right now, like I'm walking forward with purpose I guess you could say. Hitting small goals like getting my tattoo or getting 40 hours of OT (when the previous year I never worked OT and left early alot) and working out , and seeing a serious improvement in phsyique and how much I weigh (im to 140lbs yay me) and writing a poem that I thought, as did many other people, was extremely cute and beautiful and sweet, make me feel proud of myself.

My ex roommate recently screwed me over but I managed to handle it, kick him out of apt, and now this weekend I get to clean up the apartment (which he trashed) and actually make it my own, which it hasn't ever been.

I still get really sad sometimes, when I remember certain things, or something that she did in the end etc... but those moments are fleeting, and as much as they hurt, the pain goes away much quicker. Life definitely doesn't seem as bleak as it did a few months ago. And apart of me still wishes she was in my life. But then I realize now my life will be much better without her in it.

So I'm getting there, lol and I promise I won't keep ressurecting this thread now. :)

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So im getting there, lol and i promise i wont keep ressurecting this thread now. :)

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Delow
You keep ressurecting as long as you need , I like reading about your progress :)

resurrecting :) I figured I shouldn't keep bringing back both of my threads, just need one.

Its so amazing how much works out, and happens when you just stop trying to force it. The last week, and esp Friday and Saturday have been so amazing. I keep thinking of ex, here and there everyday. But, I don't know, I just feel so much more confident.

I have a cool little puppy, whom I have named Cassie (I stuck with the eee sound) She is a beautiful little Papillon. She is the sweetest little pup, and I don't think even on a bad night when memories are strong, ill get as down if she is around :P So you... and that waitress I was flirting with and got a date with... that's kind of a real big ego boost (that I definitely needed) she is very pretty, into A lot of the things I like. So we see what happens :) either way I made a cool friend that I can share my interests with.

My tattoo looks awesome, I get so many compliments, and tats are great ice breakers! Anyway... I hope people read this thread, realize that though details may be different... things will always get better with time, and if you try to better yourself for yourself.

For me, my next step, spending time with Cas, teaching her tricks and stuff and even going to obedience classes (and agility when she is old enough). And you know although I get teased at work for getting a 'girl' dog... the girls LOVE my dog lol. So you can do one of two things... get a 'mans' dog that is growling and barking when you bring a friend over... or get a 'girl' dog (which paps are 8th smartest dog) and have the girl go 'awwwwwww' then your like "hey cas go sit on her lap and shake her hand" bam... you smooth lol -.^

Hey Delow
Cassie... I like it. I think you should take a picture of her and use it as your Avatar.