Originally Posted by chuff
I think your seeing this all wrong Skell. I do agree with you that this is to soon and way to fast for her to be moving, but if you flip the coin, she was also in a 7 year relationship. I might suggest that while she got tired or bored during the last year she felt like breaking up would cure that. So she left the relationship, then broke up with you. While you were dealing with the news that she had planned for she began doing all those things by herself that she had thought about doing in that last year of your relationship.
But this is what I think may have happened, the "fun and excitement" of being single suddenly became not so fun and exciting. In other words over the last 7 years she had accepted, become accustomed to, and enjoyed a lifestyle. Once the novelty of being single wore off, she was left alone and dare I say desperate. This other guy just happens to come along and they move in together realatively soon. I'm sorry but that reeks of desperation....on both of them to be honest.
I bet the ex didn't realize how good she had it with you until you were gone and now that she's faced with the realization of her decision she's trying to put some kind of happiness back into her life, like she used to have.
I think that if anything this whole situation should put a huge smile on your face, because these actions speak of somebody who is searching for what she used to have and no longer does. I think after a year, you have just learned that you were worth a lot more to her then she let on at the end, and quite honestly, more then she even realized when she had you in her life.
You can go to bed proud tonight knowing that time, energy, and love you put into that relationship was noticed and appreciated, even though it may have been to late on her end, she's feeling the loss now and trying to patch the void that you left. In the end after all that pain you suffered, you came out on top and stronger. You took the time and filled the void by yourself, and now she's suddenly faced with a void and she's got no idea how to fill it other then to try and go back to the way things used to be for her.
I think her trying to replace you should make you pretty damn proud because you and I both know you can't fill the void with more stupid decisions which she is making and you have worked through. Not that this was a game, but in the game of life, you just beat her, she is still coping with her loss and you worked through it and came out a better person.
