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You've been together 3 years, lots of history. No contact.

UPDATE !
Well guys I gave no contact ! Cept we had to spend the weekend together as it was pre planned ! Anyway I said at the end of the weekend that I didn't want to speak or see her again for a long time I left and went to my m8s house.
Got home where my phone was charging had 10 missed calls 3 messages ! Anyway one read please ring me we cqan sort this out !
I rang her and she asked if I would come over and see her so I agreed !
I went round and she said I want you back I don't want to loose you I'm sorry !
So now we are back together what do you guys think about this bad gopod ? I'm happy and I asked her if she was going to do this again and she promised she wouldn't !

There's a pretty good chance this all may rear its head again in a few months.

The truth is you never parted.

But my fingers are crossed for you!
You sound young, and I bet so is she. But, breaking broken-up sucks. And I hope it was just a phase for her.
So, if you're back together, it's no fun being paranoid, so I hope it works!

So, if it happens again, just remember this: No Contact for three months.
Otherwise, you will never get a true appraisal of her feelings and yours.

I know you don't want to be hurt again, but you can't relly ask her for a guarantee.

**Better to ask her WHY she broke up and see if that issue has been addressed or solved.
It may save you from trouble with her - or someone else - in the future.

... I don't know man, sounds kind of, ehhhh... ehhhh... ya know what I mean?

She might turn around and do it again, but I don't know. You guys may be different.

I'm rootin for you though! Remember if its "true love" there should be "no doubts" none.

I'd be wary and take it a little bit slow.

You don't want to jump back in with both feet and make yourself completely vulnerable again.

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Originally Posted by bobic

hello everyone :(

me and my girlfriend had been together 3 years and after travelling for 4 months 2 days after we got back she split up with :( she said that she sil,l loves me and fancies me but wants some time alone and we are broken up which i find the hard part. she says she wants time for both of us to be able to stand on our own two feet and not rely on each other .
we still speak like every 2 days which i like but makes it harder as we have friends in common there are alot of social meetings which i find hard too :(
it has been 3 weeks since split im getting better keeping busy but i really want her back what should i do ?

Hi Im really sorry to hear about you and your girlfriend. But you need to quit moping around and get out and do something. If she loves you like she says she does then she'll be back. Maybe she just needs the time alone to see how she would be without you. She sounds like she is a very responsible person if she doesn't want to depend on each other. She also sounds like a great girl. You need to go out and enjoy yourself. I'm not saying to forget about her but keep yourself busy so you can quit letting it bother you so much. I do hope the best for the both of you.

Sorry I'm new to this board. I just seen that you and girlfriend are back together. Well wish you the best of luck and ignore my response

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Originally Posted by bobic

hello everyone :(

me and my girlfriend had been together 3 years and after travelling for 4 months 2 days after we got back she split up with :( she said that she sil,l loves me and fancies me but wants some time alone and we are broken up which i find the hard part. she says she wants time for both of us to be able to stand on our own two feet and not rely on each other .
we still speak like every 2 days which i like but makes it harder as we have friends in common there are alot of social meetings which i find hard too :(
it has been 3 weeks since split im getting better keeping busy but i really want her back what should i do ?

Heyy , I think your relationship has unforutnetly came to an end. Girls have a hard time breaking up with guys and one of the many used lines is lets take a break , lets have some time alone, bla bla. It seems to me like you guys have spent a lot of time togheter and where guys can get really attached to girls and want to keep them forever sometimes it just gets old and its unfortunet that this happened to you. I thinhk that she bascically broke up with you in the nicest way possible and that what you need to do is just give up and move on slowly its hard but over time it will become easily . It might be easier if you just stop talking to her in general for a bit until you've completely moved on . Its not expected that you will comfply just forget about her but you need to give it some room . Maybe put all of your memories such as pictures, and other things in a box and just keep in in your closet. Some day u'll open it up and remember what you guys once had. Don't focous on that bad focous on the good. Think about how you benifited about the relationship and how uv learned more about yourself. Hope this helps

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Originally Posted by bobic

UPDATE !
well guys i gave no contact ! cept we had to spend the weekend together as it was pre planned ! anyway i said at the end of the weekend that i didnt want to speak or see her again for a long time i left and went to my m8s house.
got home where my phone was chargin had 10 missed calls 3 msgs ! anyway one read please ring me we cqan sort this out !
i rang her and she asked if i would come over and see her so i agreed !
i went round and she said i want you back i dont want to loose you im sorry !
so now we are back together what do you guys think about this bad gopod ? im happy and i asked her if she was gonna do this again and she promised she wouldnt !

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