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Originally Posted by KevinHardly

feel free to close the thread, some of you have given me insight, and made some valid points. Odinn7 really made it clear that i've been acting very wrong, and i shouldn't be talking to her for help. i do need a counselor and i thought this could give me council.

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You have a nurse, a teacher, a counselor, and another male weighing in with all the same advice. Find a real-life counselor now and work through this. And stop torturing her by asking for more details, please. And don't allow her to discuss it either.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

It's real life....things are never going to be perfect...especially "perfect forever". The sooner you realize that, the better off you will be.

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Ok obviously nothing's going to be perfect. I know that. By perfect I mean we'll be happy together forever, and I know that happens because my grandfather, was with my grandmother, bless her soul, till the end. I could see their faces light up even at the age of 80 when they talked to each other. I feel like I could have that, and I don't want anything in my stupid head getting in the way

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I have to disagree with you as well. Why, because I have age and experience on my side. You, on the other hand, are still wet behind the ears.

Sharing a past is one thing, if you are mature enough to handle what you hear. It's apparent you aren't mature enough to handle what she has gone through.

Stop being so carried away by your own feelings guy, as you have moved too fast into this relationship and have no time to adjust to the intensity of it.

You just don't have the maturity or experience to process all that you are going through properly. That's the answer to all your questions, immaturity, and inexperience. The solution is to slow down. You have much to learn about your own self control, and are helpless to control anything other than you. So while you are running on hi octane after a few months, you better get yourself to throttle back and get yourself under control.

Let your head catch up to the events, so you can first cope with yourself, and then cope with whatever follows. You are so wrapped up in her, you ignore the obvious right in front of you, and reaction badly, and impulsively, in your rush for answers.

That's what those thought are telling you, you just aren't ready for forever, and it will be a long time before you will be. This whole thing will blow up in your face if you don't let your brain catch up with your feelings.

You have made such a simple thing so complex.