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Originally Posted by Confused4481

Oh wow really I'm such an then I didn't think anything of it :( wow I have to stop being stupid w red flags all over the place

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I don't think there's a big problem is you see the red flags. It's when you're blindsided that problems occur.

Is it possible to sit him down and talk to him calmly and rationally? My concern is if he takes you for granted now what will happen after you marry?

His mom is a 60 year old able bodied woman, his grandma is 85 w alzheimers. It's not sooo important it's the fact that he initiated "moving in" a year ago and then he stopped... He slept over Saturday nights and all I asked was for him to stay over a weekday or two and he never did. I even stopped asking him for a while and he still didn't do it. I feel like I shouldn't have to ask anyone to be with me.