Don't be back there unless u feel less emotional.don't let her to see you weak.give yourself a few weeks,time is miracle,you will see.do you know who is she with now?u need to look better when u go there and get your belongings.

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I don't know what to say when I'll be back to collect my belongings.

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Say nothing but thanks for the memories and leave the emotional drama out of it. You keep your dignity, self respect, honor and grace.

Cry later in your own privacy if you must.

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don't be back there unless u feel less emotional.don't let her to see you weak.give yourself a few weeks,time is miracle,you will see.do you know who is she with now?u need to look better when u go there and get your belongings.

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I don't know if she with someone, I'm not sure, she never confirmed it, I'm terrible reading between lines, but I feel that it must be, otherwise all this does not make any sense. I think I will be better by next week, I will ask her, I mean as hard as it can be, I can accept that, if she fell in love with someone, I'm happy for her, at least I will understand her, I won't cry anymore. What goes around comes around, I was in similar situation if that's really what's happened. I'll wish her well.

She will tell you the truth if you show her that you are more understanding man then she used to know.I'm sure there is other guy involve.you can't keep her happy then she seeking somewhere else in secret.she will only make decision when she almost sure that guy is good enough for her.woman are evil and selfish.
I spoke to my husband today.He look skinner which is good because he were a bit fat before.I did told him he was fat but he told me that it was not very nice to say.See ,you guys just does not like to hear the truth and our feelings at all.

You sound better today so good work,keep it up like that.

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she will tell you the truth if you show her that u are more understanding man then she used to know.I'm sure there is other guy involve.you can't keep her happy then she seeking somewhere else in secret.she will only make decision when she almost sure that guy is good enough for her.woman are evil and selfish.
i spoke to my husband today.He look skinner which is good because he were a bit fat before.i did told him he was fat but he told me that it was not very nice to say.See ,you guys just does not like to hear the truth and our feelings at all.

you sound better today so good work,keep it up like that.

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Thank you, I'm staying at good friends that I know since childhood, they keep me busy and they support me greatly, the beautiful weather outside does help too, it's worm and quiet and sunny, my friends live in village with nice locals, friendly community. I lived in central part of megapolis, I'm going to move back in that area next week, but at the moment it is fantastic retreat and I enjoy to be here.
Your husband might loose weight because of stress he is going through. I did, I'm skinny :) , but now I become even skinnier. I lost 4-5 kg in a week or so. Anyway, it is not nice to say to your husband that he is fat, it does sound rude, I mean there are ways to say that in a more polite way to tell the truth.

It is nice to hear that.keep me update.soon you will realize that single life isn't that bad.Sometime I think I need to be with husband or boy friend,I felt like I need one of them in my life but I'm alone now,both of them are far away in different countries,feel like single and actually enjoy it.
Have a nice vacation,get some fresh airs and refresh yourself.will you go back to work next week?

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it is nice to hear that.keep me update.soon u will realize that single life isn't that bad.Sometime i think i need to be with husband or boy friend,i felt like i need one of them in my life but I'm alone now,both of them are far away in different countries,feel like single and actually enjoy it.
have a nice vacation,get some fresh airs and refresh yourself.will u go back to work next week?

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Thanks, I'm glad you sound happier too. And yes I'm working in Monday, I really wish I could have some time off, it's not possible now. The Wednesday scares me a little, I promised to move my things, but I'll be fine, I think the uncertainty feeling caused most of my stress. Thank you verydarkhere for anticipating in my situation, you did help me to understand more.

Maybe work also help a lot,it will distract you from thinking about her.you know she gone so you only 1 option which move on.
I'm also still in very difficult circumstance.I want to go visit my boy friend and want to know him better but my husband asked for another chance.I don't want to break his heart but on other hand I want to be happy and I have chance to do it now.I'm curious if out there is another person who could make me more happy than husband does.if I come back to him now,my soul and body are not complete to him then I will break his heart again so why not done it now.

I guess people go through similar experiences in their life, I do believe it is all up to us, if it is break up or falling in love it can be one persons feelings but it takes both to move on, I was in love once with girl that had a boyfriend for quite few years, she was not very very happy, they were good to each other, but she came to me, she needed support and I just fell in love madly, I felt she did too. She was in very hard situation, we all were as we were friends, and she decided to disappear for some time, she wanted to be alone for some time, I was still in touch with her, but there was a moment when I should have done a move, but I did not, It is hard to understand women, so she moved on, she met someone else, they have a happy family with 2 kids.

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I guess people go through similar experiences in their life, I do believe it is all up to us, if it is break up or falling in love it can be one persons feelings but it takes both to move on, I was in love once with girl that had a boyfriend for quite few years, she was not very very happy, they were good to each other, but she came to me, she needed support and I just fell in love madly, I felt she did too. She was in very hard situation, we all were as we were friends, and she decided to dissapear for some time, she wanted to be alone for some time, I was still in touch with her, but there was a moment when I should have done a move, but I did not, It is hard to understand women, so she moved on, she met someone else, they have a happy family with 2 kids.

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Me and my boy friend can talk good to each other.he is very listener and understanding man.so we are very open to each other which is good relationship base on.I wishes me and my husband could have done the same then this situation would not happened.And I wonder if relationship born in infidelity can last long?as you said your friend has a happy family which make me feel a bit more confident.
Good luck to us.

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me and my boy friend can talk good to each other.he is very listener and understanding man.so we are very open to each other which is good relationship base on.i wishes me and my husband could have done the same then this situation would not happened.

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Probably there was a similar situation here. But it was not always like that. I think that we all want to be happy, and we all selfish in a way. We all different too, but love is such a great feeling, I doubt I will ever feel it again in a way I did, may be that is good thing. After this weekend I start understanding that what hurts me more now and will later is loneliness. The person who was by my side for a long time is gone, and I'm not strong enough for another and not sure when I will be. But Good Luck To Us!

Just concentrate on yourself buddy, like I said whatever happens in the future you want to be prepared for anything, build yourself and now is the perfect time because you are single and whatever you do now is something you will do on your own and there is no girl out there you owe for your future success.
Maybe in the future you cross paths with you ex and you still want her at least you are prepared maybe in the future a better woman comes along at least you are prepared time to grow yourself BIG really BIG so any person and thing that comes along you are prepared to accept.

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Probably there was a similar situation here. But it was not always like that. I think that we all want to be happy, and we all selfish in a way. We all different too, but love is such a great feeling, I doubt I will ever feel it again in a way I did, may be that is good thing. After this weekend I start understanding that what hurts me more now and will later is loneliness. The person who was by my side for a long time is gone, and I'm not strong enough for another and not sure when I will be. But Good Luck To Us!

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Hey,how is everything going?how is work?I'm pretty sad now because I still don't know what is the right thing to do.at least you know what u need to do.

Any news ? I'm in the same situation

I'm going to move out my things today, I'm very nervous, I accepted that it is over, as sad as it is, that is the end of my relationship with this girl, but I'm scared to see her.

Stay strong, and stick to the task of retreiving your things. High emotons will make it harder than it has to be. You've already taken some really big steps, don't waver now.
Keep any conversation courteous and to the point, "where is my so and so?" "thank you", etc.
You'll get through it fine.

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I'm going to move out my things today, I'm very nervous, I accepted that it is over, as sad as it is, that is the end of my relationship with this girl, but I'm scared to see her.

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How was moving out day?I hope u did acted right.

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how was moving out day?i hope u did acted right.

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No I did not act right, I collected all my belongings, almost all, some still left, she cooked some food, we had some beer, we talked, we cried she said that there is someone else, but she does not love him.. she does not love me either, I can see she is confused, at the end of the day she asked me to leave, I saw tears in her eyes, I promised her to fix something that had to do long time ago, so I had to come back today and spend most of the day doing it, she was cleaning. She is cooking now again for both of us. I'm going to leave now, I don't think I will see her again soon, I will be working more now as I do not know what to do in my spare time. I do love her dearly. I do not know how to get her back. I'm such an idiot.

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No I did not act right, I collected all my belongings, almost all, some still left, she cooked some food, we had some beer, we talked, we cried she said that there is someone else, but she does not love him.. she does not love me either, I can see she is confused, at the end of the day she asked me to leave, I saw tears in her eyes, I promised her to fix something that had to do long time ago, so I had to come back today and spend most of the day doing it, she was cleaning. She is cooking now again for both of us. I'm gonna leave now, I don't think I will see her again soon, I will be working more now as I do not know what to do in my spare time. I do love her dearly. I do not know how to get her back. I'm such an idiot.

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It was sad.don't contact her till she contact you.she loved you but it got kill by times and many bad things combine.But I don't think it was only your fault.Peoples does get bore in long relationship,special a rough one.Couple break up,move on then they can't find anyone who could fit in their life good as they used to have then they go back together.Focus more on work and may be sign up for course which will support more for your career.go to the gym.Prepare a good future for you and who ever to come you later.hang out with your good friends?
I give myself a month without contact either my husband and my boy friend so I hope I can find out what I really want.I also don't know how to kill my free time.my best girlfriend moving to London soon.what's bad timing.

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It was sad.don't contact her till she contact you.she loved you but it got kill by times and many bad things combine.But i don't think it was only your fault.Peoples does get bore in long relationship,special a rough one.Couple break up,move on then they can't find anyone who could fit in their life good as they used to have then they go back together.Focus more on work and may be sign up for course which will support more for your career.go to the gym.Prepare a good future for you and who ever to come you later.hang out with your good friends?
i give myself a month without contact either my husband and my boy friend so i hope i can find out what i really want.i also don't know how to kill my free time.my best girlfriend moving to London soon.what's bad timing.

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Thank you for support, it does make me feel better. I have mixed feelings. I was still waiting for her move, and it almost happened yesterday, but almost does not count ). And today I realised that it is pointless for me to try to be with someone who does not want me around. I will get used to be on my own. Hey, London is a really great city, you should visit your friend and see new places too.