I see mind games being played on both sides and someone needs to stop it. Since you are the one asking for advice, I guess it is up to you.

Box up any more belongings she has left at your place and have a friend return them to her. O more threats to throw her stuff out. Block her number. Block her email. Stop getting updates on her or sending messages through friends. If she shows up on your doorstep, ask her to leave. If she is crying, call her mother to come get her. She isn't your responsibility now.

Stop having sex with her. Stop allowing things to 'just happen'. So far there isn't a child mixed up in this farce and it should stay that way.

Start being involved in your own life. Go out with your own friends. Keep yourself busy. Allow yourself to heal.

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Originally Posted by Cat1864

I see mind games being played on both sides and someone needs to stop it. Since you are the one asking for advice, I guess it is up to you.

Box up any more belongings she has left at your place and have a friend return them to her. o more threats to throw her stuff out. Block her number. Block her email. Stop getting updates on her or sending messages through friends. If she shows up on your doorstep, ask her to leave. If she is crying, call her mother to come get her. She isn't your responsibility now.

Stop having sex with her. Stop allowing things to 'just happen'. So far there isn't a child mixed up in this farce and it should stay that way.

Start being involved in your own life. Go out with your own friends. Keep yourself busy. Allow yourself to heal.

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Seriously! I had to spread the rep.

jbots10, it's time to use yourself control and just say no.

Fell for the water works, huh. To bad, she probably bragged to her friends how she got a poor sap to buy her dinner.

Oh man, why do I feel as though this is going to be a reacuring trend.

To add insult to injury, she then proceeded to text me the entire night like she was back together with me...

I have read and reread almost every sticky, and have searched for this type of topic and I see simularities but I don't.


This ***** is confused, and I'm trying to not get involved but its hard when its this constent up and down.


That friend that she has been around was home yesterday, so I took priority over her, along with today she texted me last night and wanted to come right over after work.


Is she being sincere or what is she trying to get at?


Only thing I can think is that we had a semi good weekend and its bringing back old memorys and feelings which she wants to reconnect with?


And, here's the kicker... She requested to add me back on Facebook... I have not accpeted and I don't think I will...

... She texts me and I'm very distant and cold.



I don't think I'm playing games, I'm just looking out for my own benefit...

Could there be something here?? or am I just climbing that mountain again, just to be pushed off?

This site is getting me through work, and honestly Im glad I found it. I plan on sticking around here weither it be for this FUBR relationship or the next one. There are lessons and great advice on this site. :) Just wanted to throw that out there.

Leave her alone. This girl has a nasty attitude and she is wiping the floor with you.

I just don't understand why she is trying to get so close to me again.


:/

Boo hoo so she was crying-crocodile tears...

Come on-take charge of your own life-stop the game playing-as you are as much of a player here as she is.

That's the thing though... Shes making it so hard to do NC. She shows up, and then is normal again to me. Its so confusing. I can't tell what she really wants... Shes been cuddly last night and has been texting me all day, I have responded once.

No-you are responsible for how you ALLOW yourself to be treated.

You can stop this farce by deciding n o t to accept any more c^*p from her.

Your choice.

I understand that but I don't want to force her away if she wants to stay though... And if she shows up today which I think she is then I will see if she wants to have that talk and if not then I will take the upper hand and terminate things..


I will update later

Why did you set yourself up for all this drama?

You know what she is like. You could have calmly said that you thought it would be better for her to get her own cleaning supplies or to have come with you to make certain there wasn't a mistake. You didn't. You expected a 'thank you' from someone you say never gives thanks. Your mistake.

You feel bad. You could have kept that from happening. You didn't have to see her. You didn't have to have dinner with her. You didn't have to press your luck and take her back to your place. You didn't have to go out and get her cleaning supplies. You wanted to test the 'relationship' and surprise nothing was different.

Are you ready to go full No Contact now?

You can't be surprised that things turned out the way they did. Had enough yet?

Talaniman, yes. I have had enough. I can't do this any more. I feel as though I have been used for the last time and starting today am going NC. I have 15 days before I go to school and I'm done stressing about this girl who uses me and treats me like cr@p. I know I'm going to miss her but I think I'm going to feel good about this. Only time will tell I suppose.

Stick to your decision.

100% NC now.

Good luck.

Thanks, ill keep updating this thread with what's going on. Im sure somebody out there will search for this topic and will have to go through this same type of non sense I have been going through the past month.

Your mind is made up now, fueled by anger and frustration, but the real test comes when today's feelings fade with tomorrows reality. That means stay strong, and stick to your guns, no matter what she does or says, and just do your thing.

Good luck guy, and stay in touch.

The thing is though, I can always find something to think back and get angry about. I figure by time I run out of those thoughts will be the time when my heart no longer craves her.

This was her idea, not mine. She will run back, and when I'm not there it will be a reality check.

This site. +1

Tonight, she starts blowing up my phone and I just can't take it. I answer and she is such an ungrateful b!tch then I hang up and send her a text to pretty much get out of my life. Im in such a fury of emotions right now. Im sad, angry, annoyed and just feel violated.


I think I hate her.

Next time switch your phone off.
Don't allow her to get hold of you.
By having chosen N C you've done the right thing for yourself.
You matter now - not Miss Manipulative Ex.
Work out those feelings of anger by doing some excersise if you can.
Hang in there.