The best way to get something unpleasant or painful done. Is to quickly get it over with. Like removing a bandage that's on a hairy part of your arm or leg. Pick at it and its going to hurt a lot and take a long time. Just rip it off, and yeah, it hurts like hell, but its over quickly.

I took a day off today from office.. and so far I am on FIRM NC...

It means the problem happens to start when she is around? as it intense the feelings. Also when I see her talking on phone with other guys,making plans for eve, going for part and even singly with other males, these all things are unbearbale.

So as long as I am away from her, I can heal myself. Now the problem comes that we are working in a same office, no choice but have to see her. This is I guess what most painful is.

We have had breakups before (the maximum was of 6 days), than I said sorry for all the sins I did and I did not.. basically I went on my knees..


But relation like this doesnot worth all of this..

So far I am holding onto NC, although she called me 4 times today and I did not respond.. this is the big thing as I am never able to resist her call.

As Confucius said... "A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

Take it one day at a time.

Remember the bad things she has done to you.

Remember that she hasn't shown you the respect a person should show another.

But most of all, show yourself the respect you should. No person should allow themselves to be treated like that by another.

That will help you maintain no contact. As I said, it's the hardest at the beginning... it does get easier.

When workplace relationships fail, it's a bit like high school relationships that fail. You have to see and interact with an ex, and that presents some special problems with the NO Contact rule. You have to adjust from being intimate, to strictly business as you confront and learn to control YOUR own feelings.

You can be polite but emotionally unavailable to an ex. Maybe we as humans cannot say what we feel about things and people, but we can darn sure control what we do about it.

Maybe a vacation and time away from work and break up stresses is a good thing, but you better use the time to get a plan of action that allows you to thrive and survive through this storm in your life, without making a fool of yourself, or WORSE!

Broke the NC again.. only to find out her phone busy for 2.5 hours at night.. lol...

Now I am not dgrading myself anymore for her... if she can move on that easy and quickly.. than I should be able to do it as well

And as stated before it was never a relation... it was me who was pushing it... she never gave a damn about me.. yes you are right..

TIME TO STAND UP FOR NONE OTHER BUT MYSELF>.. ENOUGH OF THE BEGGING In front OF HER.. you can't make anyone love you if he/she don't..

Sonner is better for me.. its just same as quiting the cigrate.. you say forsure you are quiting but than you just give it up...

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broke the NC again..only to find out her phone busy for 2.5 hours at night..lol...

now i am not dgrading myself anymore for her...if she can move on dat easy and quickly..than i shud be able to do it as well

and as stated before it was never a relation...it was me who was pushing it...she never gave a damn about me..yes you are right..

TIME TO STAND UP FOR NONE OTHER BUT MYSELF>..ENOUGH OF THE BEGGING INFRONT OF HER..you can't make anyone love you if he/she dont..

sonner is better for me..its just same as quiting the cigrate..you say forsure you are quiting but than you just give it up...

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That's exactly what we have been telling you to do.

Quitting "cold turkey" is best. That means just stop completely... and stick to it without doing it again, or looking back. Anything else just prolongs the pain.

And you do have to go through that painful period. There is no way around it.

Besides. It builds character. And will make you a better person in the end. If you don't understand what I mean by that, feel free to ask.