My original post was edited for um... language. So I'll try to repeat myself in a nicer way.

This guy does not sound like a nice person, and as such he's probably not the ideal male role model for your son anyway. I would suggest that you rake him over the coals both legally and financially, if noting else just for personal satisfaction.

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Originally Posted by corrigan

My original post was edited for um... language. So I'll try to repeat myself in a nicer way.

This guy does not sound like a nice person, and as such he's probably not the ideal male role model for your son anyway. I would suggest that you rake him over the coals both legally and financially, if noting else just for personal satisfaction.

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Your only hearing one side of the story. We have no idea what the dynamics are in this situation. From the way I read it they may both be playing games by trying to use the child against one another.

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Originally Posted by califdadof3

Your only hearing one side of the story. We have no idea what the dynamics are in this situation. From the way I read it they may both be playing games by trying to use the child against one another.

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Agreed, the OP has several threads dealing with the relationship. While the father doesn't sound like the greatest guy there is more to this story.

What do you mean I'm playing games for the baby? its like your siding with the father , this is so unfair of you to say that,he left me and doesn't see his son.I'm raising it alone, don't I deserve credits for that?

ThREADS MeRGED

Well I know my concience is clear at least and I will see my son growing up not him

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Originally Posted by califdadof3

Your only hearing one side of the story. We have no idea what the dynamics are in this situation. From the way I read it they may both be playing games by trying to use the child against one another.

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I see your point. I didn't even bother to look for other posts. I'll keep that in mind. Thanks.

commitment, you are flaming with anger that people are ACCUSING you of playing games, when no one did any such thing. They said that people do play games and use children against each other. I'm sorry but now you have shown an immature side of yourself that I wouldn't especially want to live with either. You asked a question for which there is no easy answer, with virtually NO background about him, about you, about the relationship, and you got answers that apply the most often, not to you particularly. Yet you took it personally. You sound very young.

I want to know can a man who first declared his love to you all of a sudden can not love you anymore,

You are a grown woman and you KNOW the answer to this.
Merry Christmas to you and your two children.
I hope your controlling mother is being agreeable today.

Lol am not with her today... merry christmas to you to dear

Commitment,

I believe you know the answer, and that's why I would prefer to avoid translating the hard-bitten reality into words. Still, if you insist, I would like to add -- anything can happen in the world, anything! Still, you must not lose hope. If someone can change for bad, he/she can change for good too. Hope sustains life. Efforts always bear fruit. These sane words are not insane. Good luck!