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  • Sep 4, 2009, 07:57 PM
    88sunflower
    Take the chance. I want to hear about it. It will be fine. Maybe for all you know that's what she is waiting for.
  • Sep 7, 2009, 07:50 PM
    HeartTrips

    I didn't do it, spent all three days with her... onl been home to sleep...
  • Sep 7, 2009, 08:52 PM
    bally21

    Wow dude. If I was her I wouldn't WANT to be with you... why? Because you have no confidence!
  • Sep 8, 2009, 10:32 AM
    HeartTrips

    Why would u say I have no confidence?
  • Sep 8, 2009, 11:42 AM
    amicon

    Are you two planning to see each other again soon?if so maybe next time?:-)
  • Sep 8, 2009, 12:21 PM
    Elousia

    I would make a move already
  • Sep 8, 2009, 03:39 PM
    talaniman

    Start with hugs guy, when she looks up wham!
  • Sep 9, 2009, 04:04 PM
    HeartTrips

    You Ive been doing the hugging thing now for a bit, just wham huh, lol, ffs.
  • Sep 9, 2009, 04:33 PM
    Just Looking
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by HeartTrips View Post
    why would u say i have no confidence?

    I've been reading this thread and I think it's sweet. It does seem like she's interested, so just sweetly kiss her and see what happens... or hold her hand and see what happens. I have to think she's waiting for it. :)
  • Oct 6, 2009, 01:03 AM
    HeartTrips

    I thought I would give an update to the situation I have at hand...

    We still hang out everyday and spend the weekends together. I have noticed that we are flirting a little more with each other in our texts and when we are with each other. She makes sure to give a hug at the end of the nights. I have a feeling something is going to happen in the next week but I don't know. We have plans to go to the drive in and I am going to be making food to take with us, we have made a regular habit of attending the drive in on tuesdays.

    I really believe I have the green light to go ahead but I think she is purposely making it difficult for me because she wants me to beat the challenge.

    Any advice from the women here would be great... she is thirty and I'm 28...
  • Oct 6, 2009, 06:18 AM
    88sunflower
    Thank you for the update! I can't believe it hasn't happened yet. Well if she is hugging you each night and you have the feeling she is ready then just do it. After the hug just pull back and look in to her eyes and go for it.
  • Oct 7, 2009, 02:52 PM
    HeartTrips

    Can anyone tell me if she is is just saying she just sees me as a friend and nothing more by this text she sent to me today... "just wanted to say thankyou for a wonderful dinner and movie last night. Ur a great guy _____!"

    This girl is killng me.
  • Oct 7, 2009, 08:36 PM
    liz28

    It seems like you like her and she likes you but the two of you are scared of making the first move or actually talking about your feelings toward one another. I think you should make your move and get out of this friend zone especially since you want more.
  • Nov 18, 2009, 01:55 PM
    HeartTrips

    I thought I should give an update as to what has all happened since my last post.

    We both agreed that something is happening between us and she thinks of me as a partner she can spend the rest of her life with. She wants to take it slow she said. There has been nothing more then hugs up to this point. We are on the same page with everything it seems like but I feel a little like something else has to be said.
  • Nov 18, 2009, 02:01 PM
    amicon

    :-) good luck-keep posting.
  • Nov 18, 2009, 02:07 PM
    88sunflower
    She wants to take it slow? Your original post was over four months ago. I don't see a problem at all with kissing. Maybe you should talk to her.

    I give you so much credit. You're an amazing man for waiting so long for her. Good luck. I am happy your back updating us.
  • Nov 25, 2009, 09:24 PM
    HeartTrips

    Sunflower thanks for your nice words.

    Its hard for me to do this.
  • Nov 30, 2009, 08:32 PM
    HeartTrips

    Their still hasn't been any kissing. I don't know how its going to happen. I love this girl. She is so beautiful inside and out. How am I going to do this. Im going to be sincere when I do it and I'm going to go slow when I do it. Im just going to take her hand and slowly kiss her but... I just love this girl, its going to be hard. I told her last week that she was going to have to keep me off her while were going slow... I commended her in a jokingly fashion that she has done a great job just yesterday... Its killing me because we are so caring to one another while we are together and apart... you should hear some of the texts I get... calling me sunshine and mr.may... she is so damn beautiful... and not even kissed her yet

    Threads merged

    I have a question for the women...

    I am in a situation where it has been established that I like her and she likes me and neither of us are going anywhere... but agreed that we both want to take it slow because we know that holding hands, kissing, sex, although important, can lead you away from what's really important in a relationship. Would you still want the guy to hurry and kiss you?
  • Nov 30, 2009, 08:44 PM
    jmjoseph

    I am a guy, and I never had a problem with moving in for a kiss.

    If there is mutual attraction, why not get some sugar?
  • Nov 30, 2009, 09:38 PM
    I wish
    I'm a guy too. Just do what feels the most natural. If something feels forced, then slow it down.

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