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  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:08 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Allheart
    Wow. Anyone know a good engraver? Need to get that one engraved in my brain or anywhere that is feasable.

    Terrific Tal...& thank you.

    I'll take a look on eBay for you! :)
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:10 PM
    Allheart
    LOL Geoff,

    But it must I repeat must be a pain free process... please :)
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:11 PM
    valinors_sorrow
    Well isn't there something they say about all good judgement comes from bad experiences...
    And so then where does bad experience come from... bad judgement! LOL

    I'm coo coo for cocoa puffs! (makes the pointy finger circles next to her head now LOL)
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:14 PM
    Allheart
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
    Well isn't there something they say about all good judgement comes from bad experiences...
    and so then where does bad experience come from... bad judgement! LOL

    Coo Coo for cocoa puffs!

    And that my friends just sums it up. Perfect again Val.
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:15 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Allheart
    must be a pain free process...please :)

    Don't worry Allheart, brain engraving is a painless procedure. There are no nerve endings in the brain!! :D
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:15 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Allheart
    LOL Geoff,

    but it must I repeat must be a pain free process...please :)

    Perhaps one of those henna tattoos then? They can be replaced monthly..

    Also, if you change your mind about how you feel about tal's response, you could always get it replaced with a different one.. LOL
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:17 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by J_9
    Don't worry Allheart, brain engraving is a painless procedure. There are no nerve endings in the brain!!!:D

    Oh yeah,

    Forgot that...

    Hannibal lector pointed that out in that film...

    But I thought Allheart wanted it engraved on her head??

    You would have to give her some painkillers to take the top off would you not?
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:17 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Sorry for drifting off topic... :o
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:18 PM
    J_9
    Nah, just numb the scalp up a little bit!!
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:22 PM
    Allheart
    LOL all over the place. Thanks J_9 and Geoff. Belly laughs to boot :)
    I missed Tals advice about just replacing the brain with a new one. He always has the best darn advice... now why didn't I think of that :):):) LOL Need to give him the rep on that one :).

    Sorry guys if I took this astray.

    Great Great Great points Tal and Val. Think I will get that engraved as well... save me from typing it all the time... but soooo true :).
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:27 PM
    talaniman
    As to this post, what drew me here in the first place was the actions of some of our members who refuse to see no contact for what it is. True as you get healthy and feel better your outlook is more positive, you feel stronger and the first thing you think of is your ex and what got you to this forum in the first place. It has been my experience in seeing people grow, and really be healthy, their ex is the last thing on their minds, let alone go back to them. But I've seen this reaction to get the ex back and live happily ever after, many times before, usually with bad results. The thing is where you may feel better, and have grown, and changed, what makes you think that the ex has, and even wants to try again? That's a FALSE hope based on feelings that are part of your past. So I will submit as fact, that the very ones who hold out hope to get the ex back, are fooling themselves and are not healthy enough to look past the fantasy and deal with reality. If they stay on the course, I am sure like others have done, they will change their minds, and look at reality and work to be healthy and happy. That's the whole point. That original post has so many holes in it, I consider it BS.
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:28 PM
    valinors_sorrow
    :o And if this isn't just too me me me LOL...
    I would like to go on record as being one of the more hopeful people I know, largely because I frequently see what is possible where others do not. Reality does have a way of demonstrating what is possible, if you open to that lesson. That's why I fancy myself as living there! :D

    WOW Tal----thank you!!

    Here is how to tell if your ex is interested in you -- if they are contacting you and saying that, then they are!
    And once and for all... there just isn't any magic way to "make" them do that. Peroid!
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:39 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
    Here is how to tell if your ex is interested in you -- if they are contacting you and saying that, then they are!
    And once and for all... there just isnt any magic way to "make" them do that. Peroid!

    Yep, this is reality..

    Like my ex, she has not contacted me in 3 1/2 months. Any contact was instigated from me in the first month... She does not want me(at least now) and maybe never will again.. I need to accept it :rolleyes: . Maybe it's better that way so I can find a gal that does..

    You can't make someone want you, they need to make their own decision to want that..

    I put my faith in the good lord that he is watching me and hears my heart, my mind, my soul... Which I believe he does...

    It all happens for a reason... ;)
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:40 PM
    Allheart
    Tal great points again. So agree about getting healthy and feeling better and first inclination is to reach back to the ex. You know you are completely over them when they are no longer in your thoughts.

    The great thing about all of this incredible insight is that it not only applies to ex situtations but just life in general. These valuable lessons and insights about relationships, not only apply to "dating" relationships, but marriage, friendships, work relationships, the whole gambit.

    Just a healthy way to be all around.
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:43 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Allheart
    Tal great points again. So agree about getting healthy and feeling better and first inclination is to reach back to the ex. You know you are completely over them when they are no longer in your thoughts.

    When I am completely over my ex (and I am definitely not yet) I will be throwing a major party and you are all invited.:)
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:46 PM
    valinors_sorrow
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
    When I am completely over my ex (and I am definately not yet) I will be throwing a major party and you are all invited.:)

    Ooooh, I'll bring brownies! (LOL now now, straight ones!) :p
  • Dec 15, 2006, 12:49 PM
    Allheart
    Oh Geoff,

    I did LOL. Sorry, with you not at you. I just love parties, but you should throw yourself one NOW, as you are doing great and will continue to do so.

    But I graciously accept the invite and Allheart never needs a reason to shop for a new dress, (think I need to search for help on this topic, nah, I have too much shopping to do :)
  • Dec 15, 2006, 02:25 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
    Ooooh, I'll bring brownies!! (LOL now now, straight ones!) :p

    What is a brownie, is that some sort of home made chocolate chip cookie...

    Sorry if I am being obtuse... :)
  • Dec 15, 2006, 02:26 PM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow
    Ooooh, I'll bring brownies!! (LOL now now, straight ones!) :p

    We could all dance too like wild indians... :eek:
  • Dec 15, 2006, 02:31 PM
    Allheart
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Geoffersonairplane
    What is a brownie, is that some sort of home made chocolate chip cookie....

    Sorry if I am being obtuse...:)

    Brownies are somewhere in between a cookie and a cake. And you are not being obtuse :)

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