Hi Geoff
Been away from this site for a few days, sorry to hear that things got the better of you, but we have all been there. Shows that your human and caring with feelings that the next girl will be well rewarded with.
The replies and advice of everyone is great, I know that your advice has greatly helped me and others. Don't think to put yourself down !
One thing that does strike me though is that what people forget, is that when anyone is attracted to someone they act towards that person with positive emotional interest in the person (thats really what love is). However when the persons feelings change from positive emotions interest to no or negative emotional interest then they will act differently to the person. (Same for us all, if you think about it!).
The only difference being is that, if you have been on the receiving end of someone having a positive emotional interest in you and acting on this with you, when their interest in you goes they appear to be a completely different person than the one you knew !
When in reality they are the same person, just there emotional interest is you is gone.
(Compare this between someone you view as a friend and someone you dislike as a friend, you act differently towards them. If they were to describe you then it would be the description of two separate people).
As for people getting back together or friends who have fallen out becoming friends again. It depends on forgiveness and understanding of the past and a re ignition of the emotional interest in the person.
I know believe this is only possible after a period of no contact, when the wounds of separation have healed. But as for reigniting the emotional interest of doing so before a partner moves on. No idea!! (still working on that one... lol, Any thoughts ? ).