Is this the same person:
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If it isn't, please give background information on this person so you can receive accurate and appropriate advice.

Currently, your posts sound more like you want to fish for the advice you want rather than to get the advice you need. Or is this thread an attempt at discussing taking people back instead of asking for advice?

I suggest you make certain that you aren't projecting your feelings on to her. I also suggest that you think about why you appear to need to be in a relationship with someone at all times even if it isn't a healthy one.

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Originally Posted by KyleS28

. i don't want her back but she is the one for me so i want to give her the green light to come back. \.

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Are you sure you don't have a lot of female hormones because this is exactly what some women say about their ex b/fs.

Tick

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Are you sure you dont have a lot of female hormones because this is exactly what some women say about their ex b/fs.

tick

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Women learned the saying from me. By the way, is drama good in a relationship? I'm beginning to think that women need drama in their lives from time to time, so you should periodically start up some drama. Anyone else have anything to add?

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i don't want her back..... i want to spend the rest of my life with her.

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Hello K:

Dude! Do you know what schizophrenia is?

excon

Dude be yourself, if you're a drama queen so be it, they have to deal with it, or hit the road. If they are drama queens, you have to deal with it, or hit the road.

So your own thing not someone else's. What your talking about is playing games with peoples heads.

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women learned the saying from me. by the way, is drama good in a relationship? i'm begining to think that women need drama in their lives from time to time, so you should periodically start up some drama. anyone else have anything to add?

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Drama either signifies some obscure mental condition, or games (people play) to get attention. Women don't need drama if they are well adjusted and happy in their relationship and know their man, inside and out :D Did you ever see that horror movie built around the saying 'the way to a man's heart is through his stomach'. I guess I don't have to explain the plot; now there was a woman who knew her man inside and out.

Tick

Me thinks, when I am still single and haven't been playing any games ever, its time to mix it up. Games couldn't hurt my chances any worse than what I am currently experiencing in the dating field.

Also, drama tells a woman how she truly feels about a man. No drama, feelings go unknown. You don't know how good you have it until it is gone. Dating is like deal or no deal. You don't know what's in the case until you pick out some other cases.

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also, drama tells a woman how she truly feels about a man. no drama, feelings go unknown.

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Who gave you that mis-information?

The mature women I know do not need drama to know they love the person they are with. The mature men I know don't need drama to know they love the person they are with. Neither group needs drama to know they are loved in return.

Drama, in the sense of game playing and creating problems out of nothing, does not belong in a healthy relationship. Life provides enough issues for a couple to work through without the individuals acting like bored three year olds who don't have any communication skills. Moving, raising children, changing jobs, school, deaths of friends and family, health scares, health problems, etc. are enough to test any relationship.

You know how someone feels because you communicate with the person. You say the words. You show love through signs of affection such as caresses and hand holding. You listen when the other person says the words. You understand that a touch can speak volumes.

You don't create drama just to get a reaction. Those who do haven't matured emotionally.

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Who gave you that mis-information?

The mature women I know do not need drama to know they love the person they are with. The mature men I know don't need drama to know they love the person they are with. Neither group needs drama to know they are loved in return.

Drama, in the sense of game playing and creating problems out of nothing, does not belong in a healthy relationship. Life provides enough issues for a couple to work through without the individuals acting like bored three year olds who don't have any communication skills. Moving, raising children, changing jobs, school, deaths of friends and family, health scares, health problems, etc. are enough to test any relationship.

You know how someone feels because you communicate with the person. You say the words. You show love through signs of affection such as caresses and hand holding. You listen when the other person says the words. You understand that a touch can speak volumes.

You don't create drama just to get a reaction. Those who do haven't matured emotionally.

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Tru's guide to dating says that women are used to drama, so if you're not the one creating it, she will. It is better to create the drama than to allow her to create the drama. Every relationship needs drama. A relationship without drama is a relationship involving a beta male that settled.

Not my opinion, just what it says in tru's meditational tapes.

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tru's guide to dating says that women are used to drama, so if youre not the one creating it, she will. it is better to create the drama than to allow her to create the drama. every relationship needs drama. a relationship without drama is a relationship involving a beta male that settled.

not my opinion, just what it says in tru's meditational tapes.

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You are a very interesting male, my friend. Meditational tapes, well, if that is what keeps you going and you enjoy it, then just go about colouring your thinking. It is my feeling that you don't really have any really true feelings about your relationship. There is a name for it, maybe tal can pinpoint, it. Otherwise give me a moment. I will come up with something that will blow your mind away.

I hate drama, I play it pretty close.

Tal... rescue me... that is the name of a song title... I love potatoes with sour cream..

Tick

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tru's guide to dating says that women are used to drama, so if you're not the one creating it, she will. it is better to create the drama than to allow her to create the drama. every relationship needs drama. a relationship without drama is a relationship involving a beta male that settled.

not my opinion, just what it says in true meditation tapes.

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How old are you?
All women do not like drama nor do they create it. Relationships do not need drama for the sake of drama. A relationship without drama is one that involves mature well adjusted people.

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if you show a woman too much attention and she breaks up with you because she loses interest, after NC can/how do you win her back?

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If she breaks up with you, she does not want to be with you. That is her choice and decision not yours.
NC is time for you to heal, not for her to decide if she wants you back.

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it's kind of like not being able to choose your parents. i don't want her back but she is the one for me so i want to give her the green light to come back. i'm not leading her on because i want to spend the rest of my life with her.

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Sounds to me like you are the one that craves drama. This makes no sense. You don't want her but she is for you, you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Are you drinking or smoking something?

I'm old enough to know what love means.

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If she breaks up with you, she does not want to be with you. That is her choice and decision not yours.
NC is time for you to heal, not for her to decide if she wants you back.

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Yeah. Looking back I wish I knew that. Everyone was saying go nc when I probably could have fired up the grille if I called her within 48 hours of breaking up. Nc leads to 0% chance of relationship working, while talking through the breakup might have actually worked. Hindsight is everything. At least we are still Facebook friends.

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i'm old enough to know what love means.

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Please give me your definition.

How old are you? What you are describing is not love. This is dysfunction, some kind of weird dependency.
Your ideas about women drama and love speak teenager to me. That or very confused adult.

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hindsight is everything. at least we are still facebook friends.

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Hindsight is 20/20 meaning you can't really count on it. It is a saying really.

Kyle, just do the best you can with your s/o. You have some good points, some misdirected. Overall I think you have the right idea and if you love this woman and want to spend the rest of your life with her, then go for it; get down on your knees, give her a ring and you will find she turns instantly into the gibbering woman you want her to be. I applaud your spunk.

Ms tick

According to another thread, he is 28 years old and she is 24.

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right now, i'm not interested in her, but i can't say that i wouldnt be interested in her in the future. i should mention that i was 26, she was 22 at the time (now 28 and 24).

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