YES THIS ONE IS FANTASTIC AND EVERY NEWCOMER SHOULD READ IT!
It's the real benefits of no contact without any games... it fab.

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Immature people who use breaking up and getting back together again (and again and again) as a way to say, hey we have a problem in this relationship. The rest of us negoitiate that before we end it.

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I can remember so clearly going through the first break up and hating God for doing this to me but as you grow up(?) you just learn a lot better about the causes and effects in relationships. It hurts to go through growing pains, I for one wish they had this site in my young day but they didn't have home computers LOL,

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Originally Posted by valinors_sorrow

That's certainly a plan. Please just bear in mind that if you do rekindle, whatever it was that broke it up is still there and it will have to be dealt with while you attempt to put the relationship back together too

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The cause was one of her 'friends' interfering and lying to both of us. By the time I recognized what was going on, she had poisoned the relationship. Anyway, her birthday is next week and I am sending the card today. If it gets her attention, great. If it does not then I move on without regret knowing I tried.

The last lady I met like her was 4 years ago and waiting another 4 may be necessary.

Cheers all.

Yeah, just ignore their calls, do whatever you want and always be busy, the person will hate it.

Today marks to longest time in over 3 years that I have not been in contact with my ex...
It is only a week, and I am very emo today, but I know that it can only get better from here...

Keeping in touch makes things complicated. If it's over the let it be completely over.

Today marks the longest time in 8 years I have not been in contact with my ex too. I can't even tell you exactly how long but it would be in the months. I bet though that tomorrow will mark an even longer period of no contact. And each day it gets a little easier. ;)

I guess I will be the next to see if no contact works. I am on Day 5. My ex boyfriend and I broke up in early March, but we continued contact until the end of March after I pretty much tried to do everything to restore the relationship... now all I can do is restore myself. The only reason why I think NC may work in my instance is because he says he needs space. So, NC is a start...

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Originally Posted by Guest

I guess I will be the next to see if no contact works. I am on Day 5. My ex boyfriend and I broke up in early March, but we continued contact until the end of March after I pretty much tried to do everything to restore the relationship... now all I can do is restore myself. The only reason why I think NC may work in my instance is because he says he needs space. So, NC is a start...

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It certaninlty is. I wish you well with it and be sure to use the time for YOU and be good to yourself during this time.

You will have moments of great difficulty, but as you see, you are not alone.

I wish you the very best. And welcome to AMHD!